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AIBU to be annoyed at friend's reaction to my date news

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user1473410133 · 09/09/2016 09:49

Hi folks,
would like others opinions on this. I've been single for 6 years, and have not been dating in that time. mostly due to lack of confidence - i was very seriously overweight and had no self-esteem. i've now lost a lot of weight (5 stone) but have a few stone yet to go. however, i'm feeling way better and am much happier in myself, but would be still a little slow in approaching men. Anyway, a colleague of mine has set me up on a blind date for this weekend. the guy has phoned and texted me and seems lovely. we're going for dinner and drinks tomorrow. he lived about a 30 min drive away from me, and hes coming up to my town for the date. he told my colleague (the girl who set us up) that he'd book a hotel in my town for the night so that he could have a few drinks, as he'd find it hard go on a blind date without a drink or two, and he's too far away to get a taxi home. he didn't mention this to me at all. i was telling a friend of mine about the date etc and said that he was booking the hotel for himself and explained why, and her response was "be careful, i bet he'll want to get his money's worth out of the night". AIBU to be really annoyed by this? firstly, i think he has very legitimate reasons for booking the hotel, i don't think it makes him seem like a lech at all. secondly, i'm a big girl and can take care of myself, and for all she knows i might be perfectly happy to hop into bed with him at the end of the night, who knows?! i just felt that she could have been encouraging and supportive rather than critial and cynical like that. she knows this is my first date in years.
what do others think??

OP posts:
StillDrSethHazlittMD · 09/09/2016 12:23

I don't live in Ireland but a hotel would definitely be a cheaper option than a half-hour cab fare.

MargotLovedTom · 09/09/2016 12:36

Your friend was being a bit sour feeling the need to put a bit of a dodgy slant on it. Is the man likely to hoist you over his shoulder and run back to his hotel room with you, with you kicking and screaming? Hardly.
I agree she could have just said "How great! Tell me all about it afterwards."

You never know, the date might go so well that you end up back in his hotel room because you want to be there, and that's nobody's business but yours either.

user1473410133 · 09/09/2016 12:41

it's funny how people who don't live in rural Ireland can be such authorities on the availability of transport and accommodation there, so much so that they blatantly contradict the posters who actually do live there and know what they're talking about Hmm

anyway, i've explained repeatedly why booking a hotel for himself is a good idea and i have no issue with the fact that he's done that. also, that wasn't the point of the thread!

to those who've been helpful and courteous, thank you one and all. I appreciate your time and input.

looking forward to a good night Saturday night!

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Alachia · 09/09/2016 12:58

I'd find it more odd if he had told you. Enjoy yourself.

BillyDaveysDaughter · 09/09/2016 13:02

I wouldn't personally jump to the conclusion that he is booking a hotel purely on the expectation of getting some action - it seems a perfectly reasonable arrangement to me, but I'm always willing to believe the best in people. Many are far more cynical!

The fact that he didn't tell you suggests that he didn't want you to get the wrong idea about his intentions. For context, I'm 44 and been married for 17 years.

Have a lovely time, hope to read about the outcome! Congrats on the weight loss

Theselittlelights · 11/09/2016 22:14

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Arseicle · 12/09/2016 12:59

it's funny how people who don't live in rural Ireland can be such authorities on the availability of transport and accommodation there, so much so that they blatantly contradict the posters who actually do live there and know what they're talking about

how the hell do you know where people live? Hmm
Some of us ARE in rural Ireland so know exactly why this is weird.

sammylady37 · 12/09/2016 16:27

How did it go OP?

very well, thank you. Wink

planning to meet again next weekend

once again, thanks to all of those who gave their time to give helpful and courteous replies.

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