Pretty much what it says in the subject line really. My husband bought our 4 year old daughter a pink ipod as a 'first day of school' present yesterday, without telling me, and he signed the gift tag 'All my love Daddy xxx'. Oh and apparently this ipod is to replace MY ipod that he broke months ago, my ipod which he didn't tell me he'd broken, but, when presented with the broken ipod, conceded that 'yes it was most probably me'...
I generally buy all of our daughter's bday and xmas presents, and, like most normal people, i sign them all from me AND my husband. Her first xmas i bought every single present apart from one small thing that he bought - and of course signed just from him... Anyway, when i told him i was annoyed about the ipod, he looked incredulous and said he'd just been trying to do something nice, with a blatant 'why are you trying to ruin this?' expression on his face.
To me though, it just seems like a monumental piss take - a shameless narcisstic attempt to curry favour with my daughter (who's always been a mummy's girl) with the pretence of a big lavish gift, her very own ipod in her favourite colour, all wrapped up in pink ribbons and bows, when it's actually a replacement for something of mine that he himself broke.
(He has a lot of previous form for narcissistic stuff, something he himself acknowledges... not at the time, hell no... but sufficiently long enough after the event so that he can make out like he's 'changed' now.)
He included a token little side note on the tag that it was 'to be shared with mummy'... Yeah right, our daughter has (of course) taken it as her present, because that's exactly how my husband chose to represent it to her.
There's a fair bit of background to our current situation (largely financial) that adds an additional dimension to my irritation, but even disregarding all that, AIBU and over-reacting here? Or was he a bit of a dick?