To think I am stuck in Brighton as a gay parent?

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We live in a lovely but very small 3 bed flat and with Brighton prices being so high will struggle to ever buy the spacious house / garden we would love. We have 1 baby but would love more and need more space. As a gay parent I am very nervous to consider living anywhere but Brighton (safe / normalised / accepted family set up here where our children will never feel they are unusual or different, which is so important to us). So, Aibu to feel 'trapped' here for these reasons or are their other cheaper areas we could consider where we wouldn't be the only gay family in the village?! Thanks in advance!

We live in Hassocks- moved here as we could afford a three bed semi detached with garden. I know a lesbian couple who live on our road and they seem very happy and settled here.

I'm in chorlton, Manchester. Its extremely gay family friendly round here. :)
I understand your apprehension and you will get homophobic twats everywhere but most people almost everywhere are happy to see all kinds of families.

I'm not a gay parent but Eastbourne has a lot of gays living here & none I know have had any problems. Hastings is also pretty 'inclusive' & will be having its own Gay Pride festival next year.

Unless you're in an extremely rural village untouched by the modern world, I can't imagine many people would give a shit.

The 'only gay in the village' stuff on Little Britain was pointing out that it's really common and it was only him that desperately wanted to be unique and assume he was being discriminated against in some way.

Generally you could move anywhere. Very few people would a Damn about your sexuality.

I live in the arse end of the Midlands - there are 2 lesbian parents at DD3's school alone

Thatswhatshesaid... we are neighbours 😆

Suburban Scotland and not one eyebrow would be raised here.

Thank you so much for your responses! I loved the 'have courage' one, I guess we do need courage. I'm nervous I guess as we grew up in a very rural village and I remember one gay man being very isolated and mocked at the village pub etc. you have given me good food for thought as in some areas our budget would even allow some land etc. The thought of moving from our comfort zone of Brighton is just so daunting but not for my wife or I, we are very comfortable in ourselves, it is our child / children we are worried about. We want them to have lots of other gay families to relate to and to never feel isolated or different.

I think many places are far more accepting these days.
I live in Sheffield and know of same sex couple with children in local schools. It doesn't appear to be a problem for them.

Just to add to everyone else, i live in yorkshire, small town. In the primary school i work in there are 3 sets of gay parents (2 x female, 1 x male) honestly nobody cares. We also have 2 gay members of staff. One a man in a ltr, 1 a woman currently pregnant and married. It's really not like the old days anymore, nobody bats an eyelid. Please don't worry!

OP I live in Swindon. SWINDON!!!

Utterly pedestrian in every way imaginable and no-one would bat an eyelid here.

I'm not necessarily recommending Swindon as such, just saying you'll be fine wherever you go.

You'd be fine in Derby. Lots of my daughters friends have 2 Dads or 2 Mum's.

I moved to North Yorkshire from Brighton, my transgendered lesbian daughter is a fully integrated member of our rural community.

Don't back yourself into a ghetto. Brighton's a bit of a hole tbh, lots of lovely, tolerant, beautiful places in the north west.

Spread your wings, have confidence, you are normal.

I am a single gay parent (out gay) and lived in belfast then moved to the totally rural countryside. I decided to put space and quality of life before fitting in! We have over an acre of land and loads of animals, and I am sure I will track down a Gay Pride within fifty miles one day! I do miss the cosmopolitanism of the city sometimes but I am different from people in lots of ways and gave up the idea of fitting in a long time ago and we just followed our own hearts here. Good luck.

I'm in Birmingham and I know 3 families with same-sex parents. As far as I know they don't experience any problems. Only one of the families have school-age children. The children are happy at school, have friends home etc and have never mentioned any bullying because of particular home situation.

I also used to live in Swindon, my family and DPs family still do, and all sorts is accepted there. Not that I'd ever recommend Swindon!

I live in Devon - not particularly known for its progressive attitudes - and not only have we never faced any issues with our family set-up but our son (yr2) has two other same-sex parent families in his year.
Both my wife and I teach at a local secondary school and we have been accepted (without exception) for the ten years we've been married.
Seriously, it's fine! Move with the times!

I am in Yorkshire. Semi rural. I am good friends with 3 same sex couples, with kids

One couple are very close friends.
One is a neighbour, our whole street socialists together and no one cares.
One i know from the school run.

Honestly I don't know anyone who bats an eyelid.

I totally get it must be a worry though.

Not a gay parent but I know three families with a/ gay parents/ poly household in the Midlands. Also when I was a single parent my female friends gay friend lived in my spare room. I realised after a while people thought we were together as a couple. No one ever tried to bring it up/ ask anythi g other than how she was etc. Looking back, all normal asking after your partner stuff!
Also. If Coventry just got voted the best city to be a single gay man then surely it's just a matter of time!

I think you're imagining problems that aren't there. I have 4 gay couples with kids within the closest 2 streets to me in Cambridge. And my friend is a gay parent in (whisper it) Southend on Sea!! If they can live there without grief it's probably possible anywhere!

I live in Lincolnshire and know tons of gay parents, though I'm not one so can't give that perspective. But someone on here will know I'm sure!

Ooh handbags maybe we know each other in RL or our paths may have crossed in qualitysave or Ludos :)