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To be absolutely furious

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WhatNowNorman · 06/09/2016 16:58

I have just had a call at work from DS (7) to tell me that the girl who lives next door has just thrown dog poo over the fence at him... it went in his ear and all over his neck. He was sick from the smell. DP has cleaned him up and is about to start cleaning the back door and side of the house.
I am 15 minutes away and wouldn't normally get home until 6pm.
DP won't involve neighbours as they have had words before and I am the calm one in our household... so he is just going to clean it up and not say anything....
I am so angry that by the time I can talk to the parents there will be nothing for them to see, my DP will have spent precious time on the last afternoon before DS's go back to school cleaning up and worst of all my poor DS has been made sick and covered in dog shit!!!
Am I over-reacting?? I am so cross!!

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KoalaDownUnder · 06/09/2016 19:02

If either of my DC had thrown excrement at someone at the age of 8 I would have wanted to ensure it never happened again and let them know it's totally unacceptable

Well, of course. Who wouldn't? I'd be absolutely furious if I was either parent.

My point was about calling the police. It's unnecessary, until at least some effort has been made by the two sets of parents to sort this out.

CaptainCrunch · 06/09/2016 19:04

Yes but the OP has clearly stated they have had problems with the neighbours before and it's possible she doesn't feel safe confronting them.

A quick call to 101 is a good way of getting objective advice from professionals and prevent the situation escalating.

No one is suggesting the child is arrested or charged, just talked to, along with her parents who need to know what happened and prevent it happening again.

beepbeeprichie · 06/09/2016 19:11

I would be absolutely raging. Your poor son. Good luck speaking to your neighbour. When I was an 8 year old I was well aware that throwing a piece of poo was disgusting and wrong.

mummymummums · 06/09/2016 19:13

How utterly revolting. And 8 years old is old enough to know better. Personally I'd try going round there (if safe), but if the parents aren't suitably aghast and horrified (and you don't feel reassured that they will deal with this properly) then I don't think it would be unreasonable to call police. There may well be issues at home if their DD is flinging poo - it's way off normal behaviour!

ABloodyDifficultWoman · 06/09/2016 19:15

I find this all very odd. Most children - most PEOPLE - would flinch and run screaming from poo on the hands. Did the child actually pick it up and chuck it? I would have trouble believing that unless the poor child is seriously disturbed. If it was flung from an object - like a trowel maybe - then that was some award winning shot . All most odd.

Buzzardbird · 06/09/2016 19:20

Did you name change for this post then OP?

Ilovewineandcrisps · 06/09/2016 19:22

I would phone the police!

HeadfirstForHalos · 06/09/2016 19:57

There is no good reason to throw dog shit at anyone. What she did is vile and she should know better, and it certainly needs dealing with. My first approach would be to the parents though.

Although, now some posters have mentioned it, it is worrying behaviour for a child to be handling poo like that. I didn't know it was linked to abuse

I hope your poor ds has recovered from it op.

Alisvolatpropiis · 06/09/2016 20:28

I was expecting it to be a toddler who had done the throwing!

I would be furious.

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WhatNowNorman · 06/09/2016 20:38

When I got back from work I sat down with DS who explained he had been talking to another child (neighbour as well) who had been in our garden all day but had gone round to poo throwers yard. My DS had been playing with her and asked her if she was coming back to finish their game (her brother was still here with DS 2) the other girl who hadn't been allowed round (grounded it turns out for something earlier this week) called his name and as he turned to her threw a handful of poo at him. He had it in his ear/hair/neck. Then the girl ran away laughing. The other girl asked if he was ok then said she was going home. DS was then sick on the doorstep. DP found him and cleaned him up... While he was cleaning outside (big lumps of shite on glass door and wall) DS rang me...
Then I went to see parents. They were horrified and very cross. She was already round at another neighbours cleaning graffiti off their wall (she's had a busy day!) About half an hour later her dad brought her round and she apologised to DS and to us.
All is well. I just hope she doesn't pick on DS at school tomorrow.

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kali110 · 06/09/2016 20:51

I'm glad the parents did! Revolting behaviour.
Their kids would not be welcome in mine again.
Hope your poor little ds is ok now

CaptainCrunch · 06/09/2016 20:54

She sounds very unpleasant, glad her parents have acknowledged the awful behaviour. Your poor wee boy, hope he's ok.

WankingMonkey · 06/09/2016 23:41

YADNBU

Wow. Calling the police doesn't seem an overreaction to me. If they have someone free to come speak to the child/parents it might shit them up a bit and make it less likely to happen again

I would be tempted to go down the childish (and disgusting) route of flinging some shit at their house though. But I have self control...and wouldn't really want shit in my hands and have no special shit gloves...though I could buy some...hmm

DecaffCoffeeAndRollupsPlease · 06/09/2016 23:59

What a horrible streak of behaviour from neighboring child. I'd have to be really certain she'd changed her ways before allowing her to play or encouraging any friendship with my children. Is it a phase? Or is she disturbed?

Your poor ds. That would make me vomit too.

ChippyTea16 · 07/09/2016 16:54

Eww! dirty disgusting little shit! Sorry but at 8 years old they are old enough to know that you don't go round flinging shit at other people. little fucking minger. i hate kids like this!

MunchCrunch01 · 07/09/2016 16:59

sounds like you handled it well to me, they're obviously trying to sort her behaviour out so that's good.

Waltermittythesequel · 07/09/2016 17:06

That is weirdly destructive and malicious behaviour.

My dd is 8 and I would die if she ever graffiti'd someone's property. And as for throwing shit at someone? I'm speechless.

I don't see how this is remotely funny. Your poor ds.

Amandahugandkisses · 07/09/2016 17:15

The posters minimising this should ask themselves how they would feel in the OPs position.

This is a kind of assault. A horrible assault.

SwearyInn · 07/09/2016 19:01

You have every right to be furious, but glad the neighbour took it seriously.

Your poor DS

(and am also surprised some posters seem to think its a bit of harmless fun)

Masketti · 07/09/2016 19:31

Sounds like her parents have a handful on their hands but if they're instilling restorative justice into her with the graffiti clean up then they seem reasonable people. Well handled.

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