To not say anything? Saw DS being "pushed" out the way by nursery teacher

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I was 10 minutes early picking up DS (3) from nursery today and saw his group through the window waiting in a line to come inside. DS was at the front standing still i.e. not mucking around etc and the teacher was shouting a little girl's name over and over. Next thing the teacher put her hand on his head and very firmly turned him round (by the head) and pushed him backwards. When I saw it I was like wtf?! as it looked quite rough and unnecessary. However he seemed unperturbed by it so I'm not sure if it was okay for her to do that?

At the time I was shocked and angry but I'm wondering if I was overreacting. Is this okay? I didn't say anything and not sure if I should have or not?? I went to collect him and he was with a different teacher so I didn't see that particular one.

I don't want to come across like an overprotective mother but I'm not sure of the boundaries and if that's acceptable?

What if she had hurt his neck when she twisted his around.

I taught children for over ten years, I would never have changed a pupils body position by solely by twisting his head.

I would go in the school tomorow op and speak to the head.

She shouldn't be shouting or shoving 3 year olds. You were just in shock, definitely do something about it tomorrow.

When my daughter started in a creche, I was picking her up at an unusual time because she had just started. No parents were around and I saw one of the carers shouting at a child in another room. Another time I saw one of them slam a toy down in front of my daughter. I removed her shortly after this but I am still kicking myself 5 years later that I didn't complain.

Its not easy making a complaint but its the right thing to do.

It doesn't sound like it was an issue for the child and why should it be?

If the teacher had their palm on top of the child's head and fingers pointing down. There's only really the force of friction to turn them ie. no aggressive handling.

Surely to call it excessive force you would have to be confident that she shoved the child, or pushed him hard, not merely moved him?

And shouting a child's name? That isn't aggressive FGS. It surprises me that so many parents seem to expect someone caring for 20 kids to behave as mildly as someone caring for one or two - completely impractical. Sometimes raising your voice to get a child's attention (not to intimidate - they're 3!) is necessary.