Head up her arse

[mikeyssister]

I actually told my DD this evening that her head is so far up her fucking arse she thinks she can see sunshine.

I can't believe how annoyed she made me.

Kitties, I wrote in Teenagers last night looking for suggestions. Is that what you mean?

Oh cut her some slack, it's really tough having an autistic sibling, especially as it can be so hard to remember the high functioning types really aren't just being difficult on purpose.

Carry on like this and she'll resent him too much to be there for him when you and his dad are dead and gone, and not there to give him the support he may always need.

She has two siblings with ASD MrsBert, one younger and one older. She's lovely with the younger one and seems to accept her social difficulty. It's just the older one she's rude to.

Nina is probably right, he is bossy and she resents it. She doesn't accept though that he doesn't intend to be bossy. He's probably mirroring me

Can anyone tell me how to delete this thread please

YABU. Your dh should have told you he'd asked DD to help, if there's a known track record of her not communicating properly with DS.

DH knew he couldn't get hold of me because I was in a meeting

Couldn't a text have sufficed?

Not in the circumstances of what was happening with DH at the time he rang.

He could have text later when the problem was sorted but came home instead.

It's especially galling because she has a friend who's brother is autistic and she's lovely to him.

If she gets on with the younger sib with ASD and is great with a friend's sib with ASD then maybe you're just dealing with a personality clash, made worse by his difficulty in altering his style of dealing with her and her being younger, definitely... but possibly just how it is?

I have an older ASD sib and it's bloody hard growing up with it tbh. I also have an ASD son with a younger sis, so I will soon learn it from the other side! (She's a toddler right now. But with a will of titanium.)

I send gin. With a request that you save some for me.