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To put 3 yr old and 18 month old on holiday club?

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Rowanhart · 02/09/2016 08:52

We've booked a holiday in Spain at a Spa resort that has crèche/kids club facilities with trained child minders. Sessions are three hours long.

We're going tomorrow and hubby has revealed he has booked us a couple of mornings in Spa and some other sessions so we can have some chill out time.

With demanding kids who literally won't let me even think at the moment I can't say not tempted. It's exhausting at the moment and we don't get a minute together. Looking at reviews everyone v positive about crèche etc. He is very excited for prospect of both time with kids and some time alone.

But as we get closer getting v nervous about idea of leaving them. Am I being unreasonable if I refuse? I have the feeling he might be upset as one reasons paid huge amount for Hol was for facility.

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MyFriendsCallMeOh · 02/09/2016 22:46

I would do it, obviously plenty of parents do as otherwise it wouldn't exist. You're still in the resort and can collect them if necessary. If ask the crèche staff to call you if your dcs get upset at all. Imho resort crèches are great fun (used to work in one a very long time ago looking after babies from 6 months old) and your dcs will be very occupied (and hopefully nap when you pick them up!)

MyFriendsCallMeOh · 02/09/2016 22:47

I would do it, obviously plenty of parents do as otherwise it wouldn't exist. You're still in the resort and can collect them if necessary. If ask the crèche staff to call you if your dcs get upset at all. Imho resort crèches are great fun (used to work in one a very long time ago looking after babies from 6 months old) and your dcs will be very occupied (and hopefully nap when you pick them up!)

Spiderpigspiderpig · 02/09/2016 23:00

I wasn't being judgy. You asked, I answered

MumiTravels · 02/09/2016 23:05

We put our DS in the creche at centreparcs so that we could go down the rubber dingy slide together, he loved it even at 9 months.

We tend to holiday longhaul to Asia where there aren't kids clubs as such but I wouldn't hesitate if we were on a Thomas Cook type holiday. They'll have a great time.

3boys3dogshelp · 02/09/2016 23:11

We used the crèche last year on a Thomson holiday. It was brilliant and I would have no hesitation in doing it again. They ran parent and toddler sessions a few times a week so that you could go and meet the staff before you left them. Ds3 loved it (had to peel him off a ride on car screaming that he wanted to stay at the end of one session) and we got a bit of a break. The only problem we had was trying to get kids club and crèche times to fit together so that we were actually child free. That might have been another 3 children on holiday problem though.

angelikacpickles · 02/09/2016 23:12

Will they go? There is no way mine would have stayed with strangers at those ages (and they were in creche at home).

MaQueen · 02/09/2016 23:15

I'm a great believer in Quality Parenting, rather than just blanket, Quantity Parenting.

I know I am a far better, brighter, happier, more engaged Mum when I've had a little bit of time to myself, too.

If I was with my DDs 24/7, I could do it, I'd be okay...but, I'd be short changing them, and they wouldn't get the best of me.

That1950sMum · 03/09/2016 10:05

I love that the OP asked a question and then just dismissed the opinions of anyone saying they wouldn't use the childcare - presumably because it didn't fit with what she wanted to do.

I have never, and would never, use a childcare facility on holiday. That doesn't mean I judge others who do. To be perfectly honest I couldn't care less what others do on holiday.

Why ask unless you genuinely want to hear what people think? Its quite rude to ask, then label people as "judgy" for not expressing the same opinion as everyone else.

Spiderpigspiderpig · 03/09/2016 10:33

That's what I was thinking that this thread has really pissed me off.

danTDM · 03/09/2016 15:00

me too, I gave advice about childrens clubs and got shot down 'I've never heard of that'. The OP wants a 'spa' so she should go. I don't give a shit, unsurprisingly, but it was an deeply irritating thread.

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Rowanhart · 06/09/2016 17:00

No it wasn't the childcare discussion that was judgey-I asked for that.

It was the 'wouldn't o on that kind of holiday' in terms of spa which was judgey. Because of the insinuation that putting self first.

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Rowanhart · 06/09/2016 17:01

And I haven't heard of what you mentioned (can't even remember). I don't even know what you meant.

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honeylulu · 06/09/2016 20:53

Hmmm my husband thinks kids' club is code for "oh good we can go and have a shag every afternoon". Maybe that's why yours is so keen OP!

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