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To put 3 yr old and 18 month old on holiday club?

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Rowanhart · 02/09/2016 08:52

We've booked a holiday in Spain at a Spa resort that has crèche/kids club facilities with trained child minders. Sessions are three hours long.

We're going tomorrow and hubby has revealed he has booked us a couple of mornings in Spa and some other sessions so we can have some chill out time.

With demanding kids who literally won't let me even think at the moment I can't say not tempted. It's exhausting at the moment and we don't get a minute together. Looking at reviews everyone v positive about crèche etc. He is very excited for prospect of both time with kids and some time alone.

But as we get closer getting v nervous about idea of leaving them. Am I being unreasonable if I refuse? I have the feeling he might be upset as one reasons paid huge amount for Hol was for facility.

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shouldbedoingsomethinguseful · 02/09/2016 13:31

I wouldn't as I'd want to spend time with my own children on holiday not give them to someone else to look after, especially little ones with strangers, just not for me. But from the fact that these clubs exist it shows that lots of people use them but personally I never have or will!

Lindy2 · 02/09/2016 13:32

I'd check out the creche first and if I was happy with what I saw it to it for short sessions. Do your children attend a nursery or childminders already? It would help if they were used to being left with other people and have built up a bit of immunity.
I do know someone who put their 10 month old in a holiday creche (for long sessions ). The baby was not used to being left and hadn't really mixed with groups of children. It didn't go well. It was a bit of an international mix of coughs and colds etc.

Spiderpigspiderpig · 02/09/2016 13:42

I wouldn't, but then again I wouldn't go on that type of holiday.
I also wouldn't feel the need to be away from the kids whilst on a family holiday.

Specialapplek · 02/09/2016 13:57

Definitely use it! It's only for 3 hours and it'll be great to have slow mornings with just you and your DH :)

If you or your kids aren't happy with the service then of course don't continue. But you'd have to be crazy to not at least try it out!

PollyCoddle · 02/09/2016 14:00

I think special has it in a nutshell. When we first did it I was working 3 days a week, 2 days on my own at home with a toddler and a 3 year old and 2 days en famille at weekends. Family on the other side of the world, so only paid babysitters if we could sometimes stretch to that. I saw plenty of my kids and didn't need a family holiday to reinforce that.

SolomanDaisy · 02/09/2016 15:02

What 'type of holiday' wouldn't you go on spiderpig?

squoosh · 02/09/2016 15:05

Two three hour sessions?

Total no brainer for me. Enjoy your spa time and let your kids enjoy their holiday club time!

Spiderpigspiderpig · 02/09/2016 18:25

A spa one solomon where the emphasis is clearly about not having children around.

imwithspud · 02/09/2016 18:53

I don't see how you came to that conclusion, there are plenty of resorts around that cater for children/families and also have spa facilities.

KP86 · 02/09/2016 18:58

Go for it. They will love it and you can have an actual break. Enjoy!

Spiderpigspiderpig · 02/09/2016 19:55

I know there are imwithspud but the op said they are going to a spa resort, so surely the main purpose for going is to have a relaxing time in a spa, which certainly doesn't exist with children in tow.
What else is there to do at a spa resort which children can enjoy too?

imwithspud · 02/09/2016 20:02

They're only going for two sessions, not the whole holiday Hmm I'd imagine they'll spend the rest of the time at the pool/doing things off site.

Booboostwo · 02/09/2016 20:30

I did it with 18mo and 4yo in Portugal, three hours every morning of the holiday - heaven on earth! DD said it was the best part of the holiday and signed up for extra evening sessions. Both kids were very happy to go, facilities were excellent and the staff lovely.

Spiderpigspiderpig · 02/09/2016 20:34

You get holidays with spa facilities, whih are just a small part of the resort/holiday, and you get spa resports, which are specifically about spas. Op said she's going to a spa resort. I'm not sure what else will be there but all I said was that it's not the type of holiday I'd go on as I'd rather go somewhere that's more inclusive for the whole family.

SandyY2K · 02/09/2016 20:35

Why wouldn't you jump at the chance to have a little respite from the DCs?
You said the reviews are good and they have qualified staff.

It's a fantastic idea.

Champers4Pampers · 02/09/2016 20:40

Go for it!
I went to Tenerife in October last year. DS was 4 & went to kids club, DD was 18months and went to the creche. There was a little bit of tears at the first session (hers not mine) after that she loved it.
They were only in for a couple of hours every other day.
DS made lots of friends who he then met up with at the family entertainment.
We didn't need to show our red book/vaccinations.

MaQueen · 02/09/2016 20:46

spider the children are going for a grand total of 6 hours in the crèche.

That's 6 hours, out of an entire week comprising a total of 168 hours...which (if my maths is correct) equals the children being in the crèche for just less than 4% of the entire holiday.

Less than 4%...really not a huge amount, is it?

Do get over yourself...

Spiderpigspiderpig · 02/09/2016 21:38

Whoa ma what did I do?

Spiderpigspiderpig · 02/09/2016 21:55

I said I wouldn't (as did some others) and my reason. Posters asked why, I explained. Nothing snobby.

4% is not a huge amount and the majority of posters agree that they too would do it. I wouldn't.

I've never been on a holiday to a resort or to anywhere with a creche as it's never entered my mind to put dc in a creche on holiday don't think I could afford it anyway

danTDM · 02/09/2016 22:15

As usual, not allowed to express a different opinion, or experience here spider You said nothing wrong.

The thread is irritating.

The OP is putting her children in a crèche. Good for her. Watch out for flight home with CP.

Voice of experience and MY OPINION.

Shenanagins · 02/09/2016 22:23

I remember thinking that I wouldn't put my kids in s holiday club as I work full-time so want to spend time with my kids whilst on holiday. However, for various reasons on the second last day put them in for a morning. Well they loved it and were desperate to go back- so much for quality family time!

Salmotrutta · 02/09/2016 22:25

We would not have done this but each to their own OP.

When we went on holiday with toddler types many decades ago it was to enjoy lazy time with the kids.

Our two are only 15 months apart and every holiday we had was spent doing things together.

Salmotrutta · 02/09/2016 22:29

We wouldn't have done it OP.

But times (and holidays) are very different these days...

Salmotrutta · 02/09/2016 22:30

Oops - thought my first post had died and gone away Confused

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Rowanhart · 02/09/2016 22:40

Actually it's a family resort with a spa or a spa resort with family facilities, whatever you prefer. Think pirate ship pool at one end, serenity pool at other and sinks in the apartments built for little ones.

I'm lucky enough to be in a job where can work from home in summer so spent every day with my kids since June. Hopefully they'll have lots of nice memories with mammy without being two distraught about the two mornings I went for a massage. Grin

I've made my hours up at night after putting them to bed. Knackering but worth it. DH, I think, was trying to organise a bit of a relax for me too and a chance for us to have at least some time where we can conversation without incessant interruptions from little legs.

I think I'll go with the non judgey kinder bunch who cut slack and don't jump to big conclusions about people's priorities regarding their kids.

I have no idea what CP means. But guessing from that post, isn't wishing us well...?

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