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Leaving someone stranded at 1am at night

449 replies

dranaksjd · 30/08/2016 15:32

Honest opinions wanted here.

Here's the scenario. My friend (she's 26) foudn herself having to return home much later than she expected. This meant she had to get the last train home from Birmingham city centre.

There was a mix up on the departure board which meant she got on the wrong train and ended up in a tiny train station in a village quite far from any major city.

She was clearly distressed as she got off the train and a couple overheard her conversation to her friend. She explain she had only £10
On her, no bank card on her and no idea where she was and no charge on her phone to call anyone to see if they could pick her up.

The couple said they would take her to the main train station in the nearest city which was 10 minutes drive away.

So she got in the car. They dropped her off at that train station at 1am.

She then found a pub willing to let her charge her phone and then when the pub closed she returned to the train station at 2 am. It was at 4am before she realised she could do an emergency transaction using her natwest online banking app.
She comes across as someone who would be comfortably well off so I'm guessing the couple thought she had money but she had explained she did not have her card on her.

She then paid a lot of money for a taxi home.

Now obviously it was nice of the couple to give her a lift the the main train station, but it didn't actually help her much. And they left her at 1am with no cash on her, outside a train station which was boarded up and closed.

That doesn't sit well with me and isn't something I would do. Or am I being unreasonable? Obviously it was unwise of her to travel back at that time but she was not expecting that morning when she left the house to be travelling at that time.

Honest opinions wanted here. And I'm genuinely not the person this post is about.

Just genuinely interested in what others opinion is.

OP posts:
SestraClone · 30/08/2016 16:54

An advanced search shows that you have an awful lot of problems with this "friend" and she is the only thing you post about Hmm

SestraClone · 30/08/2016 16:55

The OP is a doctor at age 27 with 2 year old twins?

Chinny reckon.

Idliketobeabutterfly · 30/08/2016 16:56

Lol also gotta ask if there are trains at that time from Birmingham New Street is a very valid issue

pictish · 30/08/2016 16:58

I can't believe you think the older couple 'left her stranded' - she's not their responsibility! They didn't 'leave' her because they never had her. She was stranded already and by her own design.

They offered her a lift, they didn't bloody adopt her.

Come on.

GoldFishFingerz · 30/08/2016 16:59

she would have done better asking to be dropped at the police station in order to use their phone.

sophiestew · 30/08/2016 16:59

C-

Must try harder.

MrsHam13 · 30/08/2016 16:59

No she isn't a doctor shes a teacher with one son.

DesolateWaist · 30/08/2016 17:00

Not so Avenge
I quote Her usual stop is the first stop on the train. She realised only when the announcement came on that the next stop was not hers. She then panicked and got off there.

So friend is on the train knowing that the first usual stop is hers. But then the announcement comes up saying the next station stop is NicePeopleTown 'oh know thinks the friend. I normally get off at the first stop and thats normally FuckWitVille, where live.'
But rather than staying on the train continuing to FuckWitVille she gets off. Which was a silly thing to do but if you are now convinced that the train you were on is not going to get you back home I can see why you would do that.

My problem with this is that the train she was on was the fast train, rather than the stopping train according to the OP so I can't see how her ultimate destination can be first on the stopping train but later on the fast train.

Also, although it has been a while since I've been on a train, don't they normally say stuff like this is the imaginary 1am service to FuckWitVille calling at NicePeopleTown, Trumpton, Narnia and Smallville. NicePeopleTown is your next stop? Or at least they have a scrolling sign saying all the stops.

ABloodyDifficultWoman · 30/08/2016 17:00

Isn't Advanced Search a marvellous tool! What is it OP? Twins? Or one son that you regret?

Pffffft.

BaronessEllaSaturday · 30/08/2016 17:01

Does OP not have twin sons? depends which thread you read.

Spaghettidog · 30/08/2016 17:01

This is fascinating - trying to decide whether the OP is, as Worra suggests, the friend who didn't 'rescue' the stranded woman, or, as others have thought, the nitwit friend herself. With a major 'poor little me' complex that involves blaming the railway station and a helpful couple of strangers rather than her own lack of organisation.

Honestly, though, what sane, non-broke adult taking a train journey of more than about ten minutes would leave herself without phone charge and without any means of accessing money, especially when she was intending to travel earlier so presumably was aware of dwindling battery?

We've all been stranded at some point through our own drunken stupidity/ total accident/act of God - I will raise my hand and say that, yes, I fell asleep, half-cut, penniless, eighteen years old, a foreigner, and in the days before mobiles, on the last tube of the night on the Piccadilly Line, and was woken by a not-particularly-pleased driver checking the train at Cockfosters - but I didn't think he was supposed to run me back to Finsbury Park or anything!

JenLindleyShitMom · 30/08/2016 17:02

I normally get off at the first stop and thats normally FuckWitVille, where live.'

Grin
steff13 · 30/08/2016 17:02

A previous thread says she has twin boys, age 2.5.

DesolateWaist · 30/08/2016 17:03

Hold up a fucking minute. From the OP:

ended up in a tiny train station in a village quite far from any major city.

The couple said they would take her to the main train station in the nearest city which was 10 minutes drive away.

Either she ended up quite far from a major city or she was 10 minutes away. Which was it?

SestraClone · 30/08/2016 17:04

A previous thread also states she is a Dr.

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 30/08/2016 17:05

So are we being used a plot testing service for a budding writer?
or is it a Daily Fail hack who wants us to write copy for them?

I think we should charge a fee - I want a share of the royalties!

KittensWithWeapons · 30/08/2016 17:05

Indeed, ABloodyDifficultWoman. Also, OP, are you a Doctor or a teacher?

KittensWithWeapons · 30/08/2016 17:06

Indeed, ABloodyDifficultWoman. So, OP, are you a Doctor or a teacher?

KittensWithWeapons · 30/08/2016 17:08

Oops Blush

JessieMcJessie · 30/08/2016 17:08

No, Desolate I do actually get this bit.
OP's friend's normal train is the FarFarawayCity train, stopping at Fuckwitville (where the friend lives), Littleton, Bigville, NiceCouple Village and Farfarawaytown.

The train she was on was a fast train to FarfarawayCity with first stop at NicecoupleVillage. It sped through Fuckwitville without stopping. She got off at NicePeopleVillage as she panicked about having bypassed her own town, rather than more sensibly staying on till FarFarawayCity, where there would have been better amenities for stranded fuckwits.

WorraLiberty · 30/08/2016 17:09

Fuck me, this poster should come with a 'trigger warning', for trypophobics.

There's more holes in her posting history than in a swiss fucking cheese factory.

FrancisCrawford · 30/08/2016 17:10

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Buzzardbird · 30/08/2016 17:13

OP has a lot of time on her hands for a GP with so many young children as a single parent too.

sophiestew · 30/08/2016 17:13

OP has a lot of "friends" who "literally only have me for support and don't have any other friends." These women are of varying ages, so not the same friend, oh no!

OP has one son, sorry twin sons. She is a doctor, AND a teacher.

Is this all clear now?

Munstermonchgirl · 30/08/2016 17:13

OP needs a fast train to GetaFuckingGripVille