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Dd's first session at preschool child's poo on her - quick reponses pls

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Wishfulmakeupping · 30/08/2016 12:37

Just picked up toddler, screaming baby in tow when they said her first session went well but there was a poo incident with another toddler and poo got on her hat and cardi(?!)
I asked if she's touched it and what happened but screaming baby and toddler running out so dumped the offending items in bin and we've come home.
Called the manager for clarification on exactly what happened but is there a situation in which this isn't a big deal because it feels like its really bad. Dd said poo got on her shoes too and the girl did it on purpose but can't get any more info than that yet until manager calls back

OP posts:
NataliaOsipova · 30/08/2016 13:03

On the basis that I never sent mine to preschool in "nice" clothes (well, not after the first day when I learnt that lesson!), I think I would have thrown away anything stained with another child's excrement as well.

doing · 30/08/2016 13:04

Preschoolers are filthy.

Chuck the clothes away and move on.

VioletBam · 30/08/2016 13:05

Well preschool...they must be 4. And not all of them are reliably clean and dry at that age. Some of them even do things like smearing.

A friend of mine's DS did that. He used to reach in, grab a turd and whap it on the wall.

He's a doctor now. Kids are just gross. Some more so than others.

willowtreecottage · 30/08/2016 13:05

I'd be wondering how it came about.
Human nature.
I've had three children in pre- school - they didn't come home with any extra poo particles!

You are not being unreasonable in wanting to find out just how it happened.

PhotosGinAndALongLieIn · 30/08/2016 13:05

Jeez, my DD2 ate poo twice.

Honestly, I think you're overreacting. They have obviously dealt with whatever happened, it's not as if you got her home and found her covered in poo. They are only toddlers and still learning. As they say, "shit happens".

To be fair though, if it was her first day and you haven't left her before, I can see why it seems a bigger deal than it actually is but really, it's not worth the upset.

As an aside "did you touch it" just made me think of Catherine Tate's out of date yoghurt sketch.

phillipp · 30/08/2016 13:06

Unless the poo got her because the nursery staff left a poo or nappy laying about Yabu.

It could have got on your child, in multiple places, in seconds. There could be tons of way this happened, non of which mean the preschool is crap.

There was absolutely no reason to bin the stuff. You wash it.

OiWithThePoodlesAlready · 30/08/2016 13:06

To be honest I'd probably have laughed. Children are total minks!

FoxesSitOnBoxes · 30/08/2016 13:07

I'd also have expected some effort to be made to clean the clothes. Your own child's poo is fair enough but I'd not be impressed at having to clean up another child's poo.

StrattersHasACunningPlan · 30/08/2016 13:08

Preschool is like a zoo

Yup, the monkey enclosure. Without the wanking. Most of the time.

OiWithThePoodlesAlready · 30/08/2016 13:08

Oooh photos my dd1 ate poo too! She is 6 now and it's one of her favourite stories.

"oh darling where did you find chocolate....arrrgh! Nooooooooooooo!"

VioletBam · 30/08/2016 13:10

Agreed. Definitely a bit upsetting for you OP considering it was her first day but try not to let it colour your week. Or her first days there.

You will look back and laugh at this. Gross yes but not that crazy....I'd be worried if she came home with poo on here and they never said anything to you.

You can always ask how it happened....or just chalk it up to bad luck and don't let DD know you found it upsetting.

ARumWithAView · 30/08/2016 13:11

DD goes to preschool (typical age-range 2.5 to 4), and has never come home with anyone else's poo on her! I would expect a brief explanation, but it's almost certainly one of the minor unfortunate incidents other posters have described above.

But I'd be bothered if nobody could explain it at all, or if dirty nappies were left somewhere accessible, or if shit was left in the potties all morning. I know toddlers are filthy dirty, but poor supervision or lack of hygiene is not okay.

Sara107 · 30/08/2016 13:13

My dD was bitten on her first day in nursery but in 4 years of nursery and preschool never came home coated in any shit but her own! Dd's nursery would certainly have explained an incident like this though - if the children are being supervised I would wonder how the other child managed to spread it around without being intercepted. I would not criticise the op for dumping the clothes without knowing the degree of soiling. From bitter experience (dD is a withholder / soiler), I find that that poo can stain very badly, even with Vanish / hot wash etc. And a hat (presuming sunhat') might not even be washable (some are wipe with damp cloth only). I know its a different situation but I decided that life was too short for cleaning soiled pants and took to dumping them. If it was only a tiny touch though I would probably wash.

phillipp · 30/08/2016 13:16

Dd's nursery would certainly have explained an incident like this though -

By the sounds of it, it wasn't explained because the toddler ran off and the ops baby was screaming. Or at least that's the reason she gives for not asking any questions.

It's not like they didn't tell her.

HateSummer · 30/08/2016 13:17

2 children graduated from pre school here and have never experienced a "poo incident" where poo gets on other children's clothes. I mean, wtaf? When has it become wrong to be disgusted by other children pooping on your child?!

I'd be asking what exactly happened.

phillipp · 30/08/2016 13:17

Yup, the monkey enclosure. Without the wanking. Most of the time.

Dd went to the school nursery. One of her class mates got his silly out and played with it until year 1.

He does not find it funny when people bring it up now he is in year 8 Blush

ARumWithAView · 30/08/2016 13:18

@phillipp, isn't the OP waiting for the nursery manager to call her back? She didn't get a chance to discuss what happened at pick-up, so she called later for clarification, which is reasonable.

Floggingmolly · 30/08/2016 13:29

😮 at all the total non event posts. Op's child was smeared in another child's shit!; I'd have been gagging. And very Hmm at how on earth the other child had managed to do it...
Are they 3? Unlikely to have been a "what on earth is this in my nappy" scenario, as suggested above?

Eatthecake · 30/08/2016 13:30

Yes it's gross but after 4 DC I can tell you toddlers can be disgusting espically with poo.

I wouldn't of dumped the clothes I would of washed and used again.

I'd chalk it up to experience personally

SoupDragon · 30/08/2016 13:32

I wouldn't immediately trust a 3 year old's claim that it was done to her on purpose.

It could be that the other child pooed on the floor on purpose and your DD managed to tread in it and transfer it from shoes to clothing for example.

SoupDragon · 30/08/2016 13:33

Op's child was smeared in another child's shit!

Where does it say that? Stop exaggerating.

bakeoffcake · 30/08/2016 13:34

I'd have binned the stuff too OP, I couldn't handle washing other child's poo!

youarenotkiddingme · 30/08/2016 13:34

I have a ds who is autistic and still smeared poo at 5yo Hmm

But even I can't see why people don't think the OP should ask how her DD got poo literally head to foot (hat to shoe!) in the pre school.

My DS couldn't feel he went so would check Hmm and then wipe his hands clean on nearest surface . I would t expect if a classmate was his victim that the parents should just accept it because 'pre school is a zoo'. I expect strategies to be out in place to prevent it.

Staff wear gloves when dealing with bodily fluids for a reason. Why is it different if a pre school child gets holiday fluids on them?

Original poster
Wishfulmakeupping · 30/08/2016 13:36

Thanks all- I'm chalking this up to experience and moving on I think...
Preschool called back and were very apologetic as dd was upset when we got home about it all but it was a child who'd had an accident put they're own hands in it and it had flicked onto my dd by accident, they'd cleaned them both up and bagged up the items.
I am OCD there's no way I'd have dealt with someone else's poo lol even if it was just a tiny bit flicked onto her top and hat. All sorted now and I feel a bit daft about the whole thing

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DeadGood · 30/08/2016 13:39

Oh Violet, I agreed so much with you on a different thread hat I thought we might get along.

I feel uppity about this kind of thing because I hate waste like this. Take the plastic bag, dump the clothes in the machine, you don't even need to touch them. Then give them to charity shop if you can't stomach using them once cleaned.

But to throw away perfectly usable clothing is irresponsible. It might seem uppity but I have been to clothing factories in the Far East for work and it's not particularly life-affirming. The way we treat produce and products in the western world is unsustainable.