Family behaviour

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We stayed in a hotel on Saturday night. On Sunday morning a young family sat right near us, having breakfast. Mum, Dad, a little boy of about 5 and a baby girl (about 10m) in a high hair. They arrived at their table, Mum immediately got involved in setting up the highchair, strapping the baby in etc, she then sat the little boy at the table. During this time, Dad went off to the buffet. He came back with a huge pile of food, for HIMSELF .he then sat down and started eating it. At this point mum goes to the buffet, leaving the kiddies with him. He didn't speak to them or acknowledge them at all. Just sat their scoffing!
Mum then comes back with a little breakfast for her son, some juice for him and some toast for the baby...Dad doesn't move... She butters the toast and gives to the baby. She goes back and forth getting various other hits n bobs for the kids and then when they are sorted she returns to the queue to get her own breakfast... She sits in between both kids and, in between the odd mouthful of her own, she's encouraging the baby and chatting to the little boy. cutting stuff up for them etc... Hubby then finished his, undisturbed breakfast and instead of taking over with the kids so that she can enjoy hers, he goes on his phone!!!!! WTF!
AIBU to have thought this was completely selfish and out of order?!
I can't believe that anyone would be so selfish...I couldn't stop watching them.... (Not in a weird way). Lol
I'm older, my kids have grown up, but that wouldn't have happened when mine were small. It's not the norm is it?!

Why do people tolerate this though? It's a genuine question.
I'm quite gobby assertive and I would bloody call DH on it!
I get annoyed enough that nobody apart from me sees dust and mess at home but I make sure everyone knows when I think they're not pulling their weight!
I just can't imagine living like that

Sounds like a selfish arse. If I were the woman, I would have asked him to take his finger out and help. My friends h is like this. She said on a flight with her h, h asked the hostess if he could be moved away from them, as he needed to sleep and the kids wod wake him 😒

This is just poor manners and yes selfish, but so many people are like that. I would also notice this but probably wouldn't be that surprised.

My husband comes from a famiły where good manners are very important. He woudl never start eating before I had sat down and was ready too and we make the kids do this too. My kids have said that of all the houses they go to though that we are the only people that do that. We always waited in our family too so I am surprised but hey each to their own.

We have actually had people, to dinner and they have finished eating before I had even sat down to begin, didn't have them back.

I hope people don't think badly of us as at the start of the op it sounded like our family. My husband eats a shed load, I always send him first so he can come back and watch the kids as I nip back and forth then get my own. However he does talk to us all and we never use phones or tablets at the table. If I ask him to get something he does. He's not that hands on firstly because I am super efficient as I am a sahm so could do all aspects of my version of child rearing in my sleep I've had enough practice and secondly our dd sometimes refuses daddy doing anything for her or even talking to her sometimes! This upsets dh obviously and he's a person that will show his feelings in his facial expressions so on the outside could look like he's got a face on him.

He's not that hands on firstly because I am super efficient as I am a sahm so could do all aspects of my version of child rearing in my sleep

I was a SAHM when DH was at work - after than we co parented - he has a great relationship with the kids because he joined in -

Cody I honestly think it's more the terrible twos than me being the one always there as she can wake up one morning and love daddy and then the next hate him! Although she thought he was fantastic when he was on paternity leave and had to take over some of my roles so could be a bit of both. Although she screams "mummy do it" at him if he tries to get her ready for bed, brush her teeth or hand her her milk and won't accept I'm bf and can't then if I put ds down to do those things she tells me to pick him back up and bf him! I can't win, I need another hand sometimes. He works very long hours though and doesn't get to spend much time with us which is sad and is probably contributing to her mixed emotions about him.

Maybe he's her sperm donor with a wallet. He earns 100K a year and knew even before he had them that he would hate living with children with every fibre of his being. But he agreed to have them with (and for) her as she said she'd kill herself if she couldn't have children. She's not doing him a favour by doing nearly 100% of childcare, he's done her one by agreeing to their existence, which blights every day of his life. Far from relishing having a servant-wife, he longs to escape the noise and mess of family life, but, being on the cusp of early retirement, realises that divorce would halve his projected income over the remaining decades of his life. So he can't escape.

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Thanks for all the responses... A lot of them made me laugh... 😂😂
Sorry to the lady that I offended... I really didn't mean to do that... I'm well aware that we all have our struggles but this behaviour really affected me... It just felt wrong (although I do acknowledge that it was a 30 minute snapshot)... They were all sat together but they may aswell not have bothered. From what I could see it was pretty one sided... 3:1
It was their 'normal' though .... Clearly
Cheers all 👍🏽