People who refer to themselves as Mummy it daddy

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Can't beat it. Why do people refer to themselves as mummy or daddy in the third person, smacks of a loss of identity.

I am confused. I say Mummy and Daddy to the kids and to each other we call each other our birth names. What's wrong with that? 🤔

See I called my husband Daddy when we were out for a family meal yesterday, never really thought about it but I now I have realised I do it, only when kids are around, normally when I am trying to get him to stop doing something ( yesterday he was watching telly having just told the kids not too ) but never use it when kids aren't around or all the time that they are...

I sometimes ask ds if he would like mummy to do something for him, as he evidently isn't capable, in a sugary sarcastic tone, but he is 20, and it's when he can't be arsed to put something in the bin, or put a pan to soak etc.

That's what we do Sleep it's not like DD is in bed and we go 'film tonight mummy?' unless by accident!

Apparently Clint Eastwood makes his significant others call him Daddy. Just putting that out there.

DS knows and uses both for us - mama, dada and our actual names. The actual names thing I think has bring picked up by listening to us shout up and down the stairs to each other when we can't be bothered to move

sleep nothing. The OP is talking about calling yourself in the third person. Ie - say your own name is Jane. It would be like you saying 'Jane's going to make a cup of tea' rather than saying 'I'm going to make a cup of tea'. It's weird language to use. But I do understand that with tiny babies maybe it helps reinforce the word Mummy (or Daddy) if they can't grasp yet that when mummy says'I' it's a different person from when Daddy says 'I'.

Great

Do some research..

'An April 2014 study by researchers at the University of Washington and the University of Connecticut found that one-on-one conversations using baby talk led to better language development. The more exaggerated the speech (“Where are your shoooes?”) and the more variance in voice pitch, the more the one-year-olds would babble, both in response and in general. By the age of two, babies who had experienced more of this chatter knew more words.'

Baby talk is neither patronising or unnecessary!

What's being 40 got to do with owt? If you're a 'mummy' you're a 'mummy' ?!? I'm 40 and DS is 7, perfectly acceptable to say to him 'Daddy will be home in an hour' without being weird.

I don't often refer to myself as mummy when talking to DS (but dont see owt wrong with that either), but we refer to each other as mummy and daddy infront of him. Its not twee, its what we are to him and it certainly doesnt make me feel like I'm losing my Identity FGS. Like at work am sometimes referred to as 'coach', as that is what I am to those people?

Anyway, when Ds isn't around I'm affectionately known as 'tensecond (name)' due to my awful memory and DH is Melonhead due to not being able to find hats/bike helmuts that fit - so maybe mummy/daddy isnt that bad after all

I used to call myself Mummy to our dog - 'Mummy love oo!' etc.

Was once talking to her like this in the park - huge one with lots of ancient trees - when I heard laughter. Two blokes were perched up a big tree p*ssing themselves laughing.
At least I brightened up their day, and our dog (RIP) was never easily embarrassed.

I still sometimes find myself doing the third person thing with my 10 and 12 yos, much to my embarassment, it started when they were very young as a means of making things a bit clearer where a pronoun was ambiguous and that's when it happens now. I should add that DS has Asperger's Syndrome and ambiguity causes him a lot of distress so I went out of my way to avoid it from an early age. But I kind of wish I'd never started the third person thing.

So - "we're going out tonight" - unclear whether I mean just DH and I or whole family.

"Mum and Dad are going out tonight" - was ok when they were toddlers but is a total squirm now.

"Dad and I are going out tonight" - much better.

I tend to do this with younger dc but not older ones. I've never really thought about it until I read this thread!

Baby talk is really important.

Most people that are sniffy about baby talk assume that they are boosting their child's language and intelligence which is ironic really.

I think people has misunderstood lilQueenie who said parents of 40 odd somethings, i.e. parents of 40 year old 'children', not 40 year old parents.

*have

I think the 'age 40' commented meant parents who have children aged 40 and still say mummy and daddy

Cross post Amunmy

OOOh dh parents do this, dh mum when talking to me: "I will ask dad to fix it for your", or dh dad, " mum is just cooking something". Errrr you are not my mum and dad, so stop referring to yourselves as such.

I did this with my bunnies, GETTING! Was telling them that mummy was going to get them some food and chatting away in a nauseating manner. Neighbour was listening to everything. Cringe

MIL calls me mummy to my face. Drives me insane.

YY Pag my SIL and BIL refused to do baby speak at any point with their DD, as they thought it's unnecessary to talk to a child like that. For example they wouldn't do the animated exaggerated "Would Enma like some breakfast today?" Thing. She's now 5 and is seeing a speech therapist as she has delayed speech (otherwise a v intelligent child), not to sound bitchy but my 3yo is more understandable. I have no idea whatsoever of its down to the way they spoke to her but it does make one wonder!

It does sound bitchy

I refer to myself in the first and third person with DD. I'm interchangeable. I call DP daddy when DD is there but when she isn't, I use his name. DD used to call her grandad dad because that's what she heard me call him. Cue some very odd looks whilst we were out.

My parents still refer to the other one as mum or dad when talking to me and my sister. Whilst I know their actual names, I still call them mum and dad so it's not weird that they would refer to each other as that to us.

There's a parent at school who when she phones the school office says "hello, it's DD1 & Dd2's mummy". Now that is nauseating.

Is that really bad? I always did this as I couldn't understand how the fuck the receptionist would know who I was and why i was calling if I just said my own name. Imagine there are 1500 pupils, does the receptionist then also have to recognise an extra 3000 names to know the names of the parents too? And then throw in a few step parents etc. Arghhhh

Pinky, my son had a profound speech delay which is why I found out how best to help him but , honest to God, suggesting that your BIL and SIL have a child seeing a speech therapist because they used formal language, is deeply unkind and highly unlikely.

Baby speak is a good thing for most babies and toddlers but it's absence will no more create a speech delay than it will make a child a better talker.

DSs call me Mum and DH by his name. DH and one of his brothers called their parents by their names, not imposed or affected, they just did it. XH called his DF by his name. No need for any mummying or daddying by anyone really, it's just a convention.

Now, a 70 yr old still referring to her parents as Mummy and Daddy is just weird - I have a couple of friends who do this. And it is odd to call your partner Mummy or daddy when the DC aren't there.