Ironing DH's shirts

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I am a single female in my 20s. My DM (in her 50s) told me today that when I am married I will need to iron my DH's shirts. I will also (according to her) be expected to do all the housework.

Firstly, I may not get married, and if I do it might not necessarily be to a man. Secondly, why should I iron his shirts? It's not like I will be wearing them!

AIBU to think that this is an old-fashioned and out of date attitude, and not the norm among couples my age? And do you iron your DH/DP's shirts, even if you don't like ironing?

I'm 59 and I'm very sorry to hear about your mother missing the 70s and 80s. Or maybe she was just too busy having a good time to notice.

No, I've never done my husband's ironing and he would never ask me as he thinks he can do a better job.

I've made sure my son can do his own too.

I'm 52. I've never ironed dhs shirts.

I was brought up to expect all housework to be shared. Spare Rib was a magazine oft talked about in our house.

The 70s and 80s were all about equality in different ways. It was impossible to bypass it.

I do iron DH's shirts, but only because he's dreadful at it and if I didn't iron them he'd go to work looking like a tramp disheveled.

He, however, does most of the cooking, and we share most other tasks between us (with the kids doing a few here and there when bribed asked).

YANBU though - very outdated view and it will very much depend on your other half when the time comes as to who does what or whether you can employ someone to do it for you.

I don't iron DHs shirts, never have! I hate ironing so avoid it as much as possible. He's a neat freak so likes his shirts just so - therefore does them himself.

I'm a SAHM with school age kids, I do pretty much everything else house/DC related during the week as he works long hours or travels.

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I do iron DH's shirts, but only because he's dreadful at it and if I didn't iron them he'd go to work looking like a tramp disheveled.

How convenient for him that he's dreadful at it. Seriously how difficult is it to iron a shirt?

I'm 20 years older than your DM, OP and I have never ironed shirts - well I suppose I might have on a couple of occasions but not on a regular basis. Ditto with housework etc. Make it clear from the outset that you won't be his surrogate mummy and expect him to do half of whatever is needed without asking or it will only get worse.

No, I hate ironing shirts and so does DH so he pays for them to be washed and pressed weekly. I do sometimes iron other items for him though and him for me. I do all housework though.

Well my advice is don't marry your mother. Which, happily, is quite unlikely.

Secondly, I am intrigued by her vagina-iron that can only be used by women. How does one not get scalded in an area that should only be treated very nicely, or is she Gwyneth Paltrow and this is the fouf-steaming of which we have heard? Is it awkward to do pleats with a vagina-iron? How do you shimmy the bow of the iron into the foldy bit around a cuff? Does one have to clench the handle, what if one's pelvic floor isn't what it used to be? Asking that last one for a friend.

Or have I got the wrong end of the stick entirely, and such a thing is operated by breasts?

Can it be used by a transwoman? or a transman?

If it's breast operated, can a decent set of moobs do a decent job?

Please put all of these questions to your mother immediately thank you.

DH hates ironing, so pays someone to do it.

His clothes, his business. Absolutely nothing to do with me.

Even when I was on maternity leave, I didn't iron his clothes, since I'm not the household maid. Or, lets face it - his maid. Ironing his clothes isn't looking after children, and it's not keeping the house clean, so why should it fall to anyone except the wearer of the clothes?

I'm also older than your mum (62) and have been married for 20 years. During that time I think I have ironed a shirt for DH about twice, both times when we were running late for a function, and I ironed his dress shirt while he showered. We both work full time. He does the supermarket shopping and all the cooking. I wash up dishes and clean kitchen and bathroom. Everything else we share. He takes the bins out.