Hi, I've never posted before but I'm really stressed out about this and need to hear some outside perspective. I feel I should mention I'm extremely fed up of the situation I'm in and this may be contributing to an overreaction...
In a nutshell, I'm currently in temporary accommodation provided by the council in the form of a room in a shared house with my DD who is nearly one. I have been here quite a bit longer than anyone else now and have seen quite a few different characters come and go, and have got on with everyone up until now.
A couple of months ago a girl moved in with no children and none due, and was considered possibly eligible for housing according to her because she is vulnerable as she has mental health issues (I have not pressed her to tell me what issues specifically). I want to try and keep this reasonably short so I will just say, we got on well at first but she has now put me off of her because of her constant complaining about everyone and everything, to the point where one rather vulnerable woman was removed from the house on her whim, and her indecent joy in inflicting this on said woman. She also uses drugs despite her number one complaint about aforementioned woman being her drug use, and frankly just sometimes behaves slightly oddly and tells me it's her medication and not that she is high..
So the reason I'm now stressed out is, as I mentioned we got on well when she first moved in but her malicious attitude and displays of Schadenfreude have made me feel really uncomfortable around her, and I think she can sense this and has started to turn against me.
My LO and I have very little space and ever since she has become more mobile and active, along with the fact that my room is a garage conversion and has a plastic roof so gets unhealthily hot regardless of what I do, I have let her crawl/toddle around the kitchen, but as any toddler will do, she is curious about the bottom cupboards. I must emphasise that I don't let her in them if someone's stuff is in them, but when u am cooking she sometimes manages to get to open the door before I notice. This has never been a problem with anyone and they are all aware and laugh about it, but recently this girl has decides that she needs more cupboard space (perfectly reasonable) and despite there being 2 empty cupboards above the work surface, she has decided she wants a bottom one that my lo has a particular fixation with as it's where I stand when I cook, which she knows as she has sat in the kitchen swith us and watched LO pull out stuff I have purposely put in there for her to find as it keeps her occupied. I was a bit annoyed but didn't think much of it.
Now, she has recently made passive aggressive comments about some bits of mine being out in the kitchen, and I wasn't overly apologetic as I'm now aware of how she moans about everyone and I don't really want to indulge her. This morning, my LO has opened aforementioned cupboard which is a fixation of hers, and this woman has moved her sharp butcher knives and spray of strong Kitchen cleaner to the very front of the bottom shelf of the cupboard :(
She is young but a year older than me, and knows my LO is always trying to get in this cupboard, plus these items were perfectly comfortably stored in a top shelf cupboard. Is she being oblivious, or has she done this maliciously to prove some kind of point? I would always assumed the former but her behaviour is making me feel otherwise, and I'm incredibly upset at the thought of someone deliberately wanting to hurt my baby :(
I am afraid to approach her because as I've said previously, she seems a bit odd sometimes and I don't know what these mental health issues are, but she has self harmed in the house. I feel so trapped in this house, I have no idea when i will be moved and I can't see a way of complaining because really all she has done is put some very toddler unfriendly items in her cupboard. Am I being unreasonable to be so upset and angry???