To not know how to be an adult with no children

[justalittlelemondrizzle]

The title is a bit misleading. We have two dc's both of which have gone away with the grandparents this weekend. We were pretty young when we had them so we wern't childfree adults for very long.
So far we've gone for a meal, had a few drinks, watched a film till 3am and stayed in bed till noon.
We want to make the most of it. I suggested going on a big night out but it's manchester pride so dh doesn't think this is a good idea.
Any suggestions...We're free.....

Morsecode - I am not roaming the site looking to be offended. Are you for real? Are you deliberately trying to hurt me more? What kind of person does that?

In what way am I trying to hurt you more?

By calling me self important, a joy sucker, by suggesting I'm beyond pathetic and saying I'm roaming a website looking to be offended. If that's not hurtful then I'm not sure what is.

Well then isany , I was referring to myself roaming a parenting website looking to be offended and would be considering myself to be beyond pathetic if I ever did so. Not sure where you came into it? Just like this thread is about the OP's child-free weekend, and not your childlessness - or mine for that matter. I'm not sure if you get it yet...?

It's pretty obvious you were talking about me. I'm not getting into this with you.

Thank you, I'd rather you didn't. No, not everything is about you.

The thread title may or may not be misleading but that's the best OP could do. We are all strangers on a massive forum with potentially millions of members. She can't be expected to take into account each individual person's circumstances.
It's fine to feel a moment of sadness. It's a different thing then to berate the OP and say 'do you think my life is worthless because I have no children?' Or to suggest she needs therapy.
The world, especially the online world is full of potentially upsetting things. I have suffered from miscarriages and secondary infertility. I still don't expect random strangers online to censor their thread titles. And even if I felt a pang of sadness or even a wave of genuine grief it is my private moment, not something to attack the OP for.
And finally, I had my child in my 30s so had a long child free life. DH and I still struggle with our child free time. It's hard to be spontaneous on demand!

Isany Your situation is heartbreaking for you and in its own context.

But by the standards set of no one being able to post in case of offending others we should also ban all thread titles about cake and Pepsi - not offend the diabetics, all posts about running - not to offend the asthmatics etc etc.

The OP clearly stated that she hasn't been an adult (eg was a teen before having her children) and didn't know the adult scene around her area - and asked what adults do when child free for a weekend. It's a pretty innocuous post and question.

Catch up on the washing
Have an afternoon shag
Get a massive chinese
Sit down and do sweet F.A.

Heh, I expected to come on the thread and read about someone's kids being away and the OP to not know how to adult without them.

I'm like this when DS is away with his dad. My entire routine goes out the window and I end up subsisting on wine and cheese and ham toasties with odd bedtimes.

We were out in Manc yesterday too! Love that place.

You hit the nail on the head there Kiddingme.
And yes we all have our own issues in life myself included I would never shit on someone's thread because I was having a bad day. And I have many of them due to an autoimmune condition that plagues my life and the fact that if I didn't have my dc's when I did I would have missed my chance due to it. Threads make me feel sad sometimes too. Thats the nature of Internet forums. I won't be made to feel bad for asking an innocent question. Thanks to the majority of people who answered my question and also those who helped set the record straight. for everyone!!

And the therapy remark... hahahaha what a grim way to think..

Me and DH have just spent our child free weekend going for meals and things with our adult children ...!!!!!!!!

Beware ...that's what too many years as a parent & too many children does to a you, not that I'd have it any other way.

However, I think we might go to a film later, alone, just to check we still can

We're going out for a fancy meal soon and have deliberately chosen somewhere not suitable for children. They're not due back till about 8ish so we're having one last adult treat while we can.

lemondriz: I hope you had a really good break. Totally got the point of the thread and thinking of you looking forward to seeing you children this evening. (Really enjoyed the joyous posts btw ) x

And actually, seeing as I'm on here but not wanting to stick a fork in the wasp nest, the first line of your post should have had anyone 'misled' fast searching for the back button.

Lol enjoy the fancy meal OP!

I've stumbled on a few threads that haven't been what I was expecting. Sometimes they can hit a raw nerve. I find the best thing to do is press the back button and avoid the thread if it pops up.
The Op wasn't looking to upset or offend anyone.

Try telling me I'm overreacting when you are suffering a lifetime of infertility
I am very sorry for the situation that you have found yourself in that you obviously desperately don't want to be in but that doesn't mean that it is acceptable to try and make the OP feel guilty for posting what is actually quite a reasonable post.

Obviously it must be really hurtful to see that someone is talking about their child free life in this way but I very much doubt that the OP intended to cause you any upset by her post.