To think my ex's fiancée is demanding too much?

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By saying that he shouldn't see me at all and that he should move house to be further away from me.

I know we've had our history but AIBU to think this is controlling behaviour?

If he's your ex you have no children together then he has no reason to be in regular contact at all,especially if he's engaged to someone else.

The fact that you seem to know rather a lot about their relationship leads me to believe that she might have a point.

Well you're obviously still very hung up on him, so I can understand why she would feel uncomfortable with that.

It would be better for you own sanity to detach from him, probably go no contact, and leave them to it.

Oh my God!

Do you think there's a chance for us? If he's still saying my name then surely he still loves me.

I can see why she's paranoid, to be honest - you're still after him.

And no, he's not saying your name because he loves you. If he loved you he wouldn't be shagging someone else.

Have I wandered into an episode of EastEnders?

Oh for fuck sake, grow up and move on

I think his sister/your best friend is a bit of a shit stirrer. And she is obviously not going to have a fabulous relationship with her future sister in law.

It's bloody Ross and Rachel innit?

The clue is in the title. Your EX. He's nothing to do with you. You have no reason to have any contact with him.Butt out .

Leave him alone, OP.

It's a hard one. My ex was a best friend too but after a year he met someone else. She was totally freaked out by me and I completely respected her decision to never want to meet me and his decision to cut contact. He's always there if I need to ask him something (eg I no longer live in the same city but needed contact details of our old landlord due to some fraud committed under my name) but I also accept he's my ex and that I did not want to be an unnecessary thorn in their relationship. I understand it must be tough but she is now his priority and he will choose her. Make it easier for him by being understanding and bowing out gracefully.

Oh good lord, what it this fuckwittery. Are you all 16?

Oh bloody hell...

I think if you've split up and he's engaged to someone else then there probably isn't a chance, no, as it sounds like he's in love with someone else.

It's crap, love, but honestly, you're torturing yourself by trying to find out all this stuff about his new relationship from his sister/your friend, and your friend isn't helping you move on either by telling you these little selective bits of stories.

So the fiancées name is Emily and the guy is called Ross, right?

Ah. I think Suddenly is onto something.

Is your name Rachel? and his Ross?

And the award goes to ... Suddenly Sad #friendsfest

I predict you'll have married him yourself within a year

I'm not surprised she wants her fiance away from his clingy ex.

the further away he gets from your poisoned personality the better for them

Haha! Nice one OP!

you and your hair