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Original poster

To ask your worst nightmare?

58 replies

PirateFairy45 · 24/08/2016 21:02

Just that really.

What is your worst nightmare?

Mine is my daughter being abducted/kidnapped.

Actually used to be extremely paranoid about it happening till I had to have a course of CBT, but it's still a constant worry!

OP posts:
YourNewspaperIsShit · 24/08/2016 23:14

Someone breaking into my house, me stabbing them to protect my children and then me ending up in prison for the rest of my life without the DC's coz of someone else Confused

YourNewspaperIsShit · 24/08/2016 23:15

(I wouldn't stab anyone who broke in btw Blush Just someone that 'went' for the kids)

Pigsbum · 24/08/2016 23:26

Although I'm now actively TTC, for a very very long time my ultimate worst nightmare would have been to wake up in the night with stomach pain, thinking I had food poisoning or similar and then realise I was in labour but had no idea I was pregnant...I know a few friends of friends that know someone that this happened to and the though made my blood run cold! Even now it would be terrible.

FreeFromHarm · 24/08/2016 23:26

All my nightmares bar one happened
Lost my mum
2nd husband turned out to be worse than the first
Homeless.... Lost my job .... Divorce..again.. Barrow of laughs me 😋
Let's think..... Losing any of my children and going to a food bank .... Sounds silly but if my mum and dad can survive the Second World War on not enough food to feed a cat ... My children will never go hungry or be unsafe.

Yorkieheaven · 24/08/2016 23:35

My dd calling for me when she was injured and trapped and I was asleep in another country. I always thought I would sense when any of my children needed me but no I slept on. I think about that a lot.

Fear that my other children will die. Fear my grandchild will choke and die.

Fear that I might turn into a motorway, cannot drive on them now although happily could a few years ago. Fear of being trapped in s massive roller coaster and unable to get off.

Fear my dog will run into the road. Fear dh will be caught up in a terrorist attack, he was by the bus blown up in 7/7.

Fear I will get altzimers like my mum and fear my dad will die first and I will then have to be her full time cater and my life will be over, that sounds mean but I am being honest.

witchofzog · 25/08/2016 00:04

Locked in syndrome

anyhue · 25/08/2016 18:02

It's an interesting topic for a thread; yet relatively few people have posted.

I was wondering how to interpret the title.

  1. Does it mean a nightmare that I actually have had?
  1. What do I really fear could happen in real life?

I guess that might be people afraid of tempting fate (if you believe in that stuff)? Or just not wanting to think about such things?

SaucyJack · 25/08/2016 18:04

Eating something that turned out to be a live tarantula in disguise.

limon · 25/08/2016 18:09

Most persistent are poverty and something awful happening to dd

Onedaftmonkey · 25/08/2016 18:15

Being raped again.
Losing my family in terrible circumstances.
Being alone.
Never seeing my son grow up
(Am tearing up just typing this out)

pussinasda · 25/08/2016 18:30

drowning
i also fear being homeless i think its because the dcs have grown up now so i wouldnt be a priority on the council list , i'd have now where to go.

Mari50 · 25/08/2016 18:48

I actually had a nightmare recently where I witnessed my DD being run over by a double decker- it was horrendous. Haunted me the next day. (I have very vivid dreams)

RortyCrankle · 25/08/2016 19:45

I'm 71 - I'm not afraid of death but am absolutely terrified of getting dementia.

I'm determined to fly to Switzerland for euthanasia before it got to the point of not being able to make that choice.

Allyoucaneat · 25/08/2016 19:58

Being separated from my children when civilisation falls, and due to the demise of the transport and phone networks I won't be able to reach them or contact them.

This. Or some kind of terror attack or natural disaster where I was either separated from or couldn't reach my children. Or where I was with them but couldn't keep them safe.

I recently watched No Escape and it played out a few of my worst fears.

Original poster
PirateFairy45 · 25/08/2016 20:11

Ok now I have more worries!.

Dementia is a bastard but having worked with it for a long time, and had family suffer it, I honestly believe it's worse for the family most of the time than it is for the person.

OP posts:
SparklySlippers · 25/08/2016 20:20

Ivf failing and never having kids

Antiopa12 · 25/08/2016 20:29

Dying before my son.
HE has a life limiting condition and is severely disabled. HE has got this far because I have been totally on his case and have fought every corner for him . I cannot bear the thought of him being in pain and the Carers not recognising this

Littletabbyocelot · 25/08/2016 20:39

My worst dream nightmare was in great detail around 6 knowing my mum had died and attending her funeral, sitting in her chair knowing I'd never see her again. I woke up believing it and screamed for my dad. Thirty years later I can still remember the relief when my mum came running.

Worst fears involve something happening to DC.

minmooch · 25/08/2016 20:45

I live it daily - my eldest son died of cancer 2 1/2 years ago. Long fucking nightmare that will last my lifetime 😢

Tiptoethr0ughthetulips · 25/08/2016 21:03

Flowers Minmooch, really sorry.

breakfastbap · 25/08/2016 21:05

Losing my DC's or my husband.

Other than that a toad in my house / bed.

NickyEds · 25/08/2016 21:18

So sorry minmooch
Some thing happening to one of my children is my biggest fear and nightmare. I have had anxiety problems in the past and I can make myself physically sick and dizzy thinking about one of them becoming ill or being in an accident. It is by far the worst aspect of parenting. Next would be something happening to my neice or nephews.

augustusglupe · 25/08/2016 21:19

Yes OP I'm with you there. My DD is late twenties now and I have slightly eased up...I drove her mad with my worrying when she was younger.
I had a few incidents myself when I was young and I didn't give them much thought until I had children..then all the horror of real life came flooding back. I think your nightmare is a very common one amongst parents.
I walked her to school until she was nearly 14 and it's only round the corner!! Grin

augustusglupe · 25/08/2016 21:21

Just reading through the thread...Flowers minmooch I'm so sorry.

isthistoonosy · 25/08/2016 21:30

Fear - something happening to.the kids or OH, or me and OH splitting up and not being able to support the kids / get a new home for them.
Poverty use to be my big fear but no so much any more.

Actual nightmare - not often but they tend to involve being trapped somewhere.
(dreams also not very often I'm often flying)