AIBU to think my DH is a c@*t?

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My DH asked his deceased mum's partner (who is 75) to come and help him refit our bathroom. The partner, B, drove from Devon to our home in the New Forest on Sunday.
I have been at work since Sunday night (a 64-hour duty! That's life in the NHS, folks!) and came home this morning to find B working hard in the bathroom and DH is in bed looking at his iPad! What???

It seems that because B is not prepared to do a half-arsed, slap dash job (DH's preferred way of working), DH has had a strop and has left B to get on with it.
Poor B is working so hard - on his knees, up and down the stairs, heavy lifting etc - and I feel mortified that he's been left to it. I asked DH what they had eaten and he said he bought some sausage rolls from Morrissons for him. And not even the bakery ones - the crap Value six pack.
I said I'd make a lasagne tonight so poor B would have a decent (ish) meal after a day of hard work. Mid way through preparing it, DH announces he's driving to Oxford to collect a storage box for his bike (that he hasn't ridden for SEVEN years).
Jesus Christ. I could fucking kill him. Who treats an elderly man like this?
This is not the behavior of a kind man. I think I hate him. AIBU?

Does this idiot work? Was he suggesting you and he DTD while his step father was fixing up the bathroom?

I'd think 100 years at work would definitely contravene the working time directive!

Wow. Does this prick have anything going for him. What a vile creature.

Yes, from that I would say he is a cunt.

My father came to fit our wooden flooring though and DH offered to help and was told no, he would just get in they way Doesn't sound like this has been the case here though

prize cunt.

He might be cunt, but there are plenty of jobs where too many cooks can spoil the broth. If B likes to do things his way, it might be that your husband has got out of his way to avoid conflict.

The heavy lifting will take two people, but the rest might well be better left to the more experienced man to work alone without meddling from the clueless whipper snapper with his modern, namby-pamby ways.

Is B offended? men often like to do all the work, it gives them the spoils in the alpha contest. At B's age, fitting a bathroom on his own might have made his month.

I going with your DH being a cunt though, purely because of the value sausage roll thing.

Tell B you appreciate his efforts very much, but your arsehole husband doesn't and you think he should go home and take it easy now and leave the rest up to aforementioned arsehole husband.

Op he is awful, that would be a dealbreaker in the relationship. Tell your partner to get of his f£$%&ing i pad and help poor B. Also treat him to a nice take away, and leave partner with the crappy sausage rolls. Tell B to go home. Your partner is crap!

Fucking hell.

I'd stay home (not go to parents), labour for B (get a local strong teenager to help too bad if necessary) and get it finished together. I'd thank him profusely & either pay him if he would appreciate the money or try to find something he would appreciate more if he's quite well off. Something that show how unutterably grateful I was.

I'd tell H to stay in Oxford, or wherever the fuck he likes, but far, far away from me.

I'd change the locks & go see a solicitor, because there's no way on this little green earth I'd continue to live with such a nasty, selfish, rude fucker. No Way.

Poor old B.

I thank him massively for the work he's done but let him know you certainly don't expect him to renovate your bathroom for you!

Yes your husband has acted like an utter cunt. What age is he? Sulking in his bedroom with the ipad is teenage territory! And trying to get his leg over after you've just come off a 64 hour (!) shift!

I'm local, can I come and kick him for you?

Redeeming features? Hmmm, nothing coming to mind at the moment!

And our profession opted out of EWTD and opted for Whitley Rules so we work ridiculous hours. There's not enough of us to operate a proper shift system so we have to work our normal week and do a full out-of-hours commitment.

I'm off to bed before cunt head comes back.

Thanks everyone!

I second, thanking B for the lovely work, and giving him some money. Treat him to a meal, and tell him to go home now, that shit partner will finish the rest off.

I'm local too he can have me tear him off a strip too! I would take the router to work with me. And any console/gaming equipment and flog it to treat DSFIL

God, that is awful. Does he know he's knocking on 80?!

Years ago my lovely grandad came to help my ex husband decorate our sons room. I was at work that day. Ex h was hopeless at diy but to be fair had never been taught anything either. So grandad offered to spend the day with him teaching a few things. When I got home the bastard had gone to get his hair cut AND left the baby with my grandad who was also trying to decorate. That's why he's an X ( well one off the reasons )

Does Cunty McCuntface frequently take advantage of people? Does he have form?

The 75 year old sounds like a far better catch than your husband.

I hope you don't have kids with him.

He sounds like the evil cousins in that other recent aibu thread, where the OP was made to work all fortnight til midnight, for free, doing decorating in a hotel, with no food!

Are they related to your DH?

Not even bakery sausage rolls!!!

What a selfish, ungrateful, spoiler twunt....

Hope his bike box breaks

You did a 64 hour shift and still had to cook dinner when you come home

Your DH wanted to DTD in the bedroom whilst B was installing your bathroom like in earshot - cringe.

I agree with others chuck out DH and move B in as a friend.

Your "D"h is a gross pig, you need a better job with a better work life balance and B is the best step father in law ever.
I think you can do better.

He asked you to have sex after you did a 64 hour shift? WTF? He's a cunt for that alone. As for getting his elderly stepfather to do that heavy labour ... Fucking hell. He really is a cunt.

Sell the motorbike and split the money. Half goes to FIl either as a gift or cash, whichever appropriate. The other half used to finish the bathroom.

'D' cunty H can go fuck himself and have a hard think about his behaviour. I'd be mortified.