AIBU? about the food at a party I went to yesterday....

[harpsichordcarrier]

so I went to a party yesterday - joint birthday for a 2 and 3 year old. The children ranged in age from 1 to 4.
the food was served around a table and all the children sat down - they served sausages, potato wedges, carrots and brocolli. all the children got exactly the same on their plates.
So far so good...
then one of the mums (one of the hosts) started making a running commentary.

Oh look X isn't eating his brocolli! come on X eat your brocolli!
look Y has cleared his plate! everyone give Y a round of applause!
Z hasn't eaten her carrots! no cake for Y!
how is R doing! come on R! clear your plate and everyone will give you a big clap!
onandonandon

so anyway cards on the table I found this mad and maddeningly. DD1 was getting more and more anxious, because she doesn't eat potato wedges. so when cheerleading woman said come on R clear your plate! she kept saying mummy I don't have to ewat the potatoes with the skin on do I mummy do I? and cheerleading woman said come on everyone likes chips....
I was the only one not clapping and whooping. I felt like a freak and a weirdo.

am i being unreasonable in not wanting my dc's to be pressured into eating more than they want to eat?
why when we worry about child obesity is it a good idea to whoop when a child asks for more sausages and potatoes?
AM I BEING UNREASONABLE

Poor you. Why should your child have to eat by someone else's rules (no pudding unless you eat everything...! Grrr)

I have this most nights when my 18 y o DSS tries to cajole my 4.5 y o into finishing everything on her plate or he tells her she won't get dessert (not my rules).

Drives me insane. BUTT OUT.

I never tell DS he has to clean his plate. I think it's harmful for kids to learn to ignore their own hunger and eat when they're not hungry. (Cue to me some madwoman twentysome years later eating masses of food just 'cause it's there)

What a loon!

3 years!

YANBU