To think maybe Dh could have got me a birthday present for my 40th?

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Or even a card.

He hasn't. There are no financial excuses at all.

A few months ago I said I would like to go to the zoo when it was my birthday. So in fairness to him he spent £70 on zoo tickets for him, me and dd. Plus we had a night in a travelodge the night before and dinner in Waggamamma.

I think he's probably just been a bloke and thinking he's spent £200. Which I guess he has.

But when it was his 40th i hired a cottage for the weekend, invited 20 friends for dinner at the cottage, catered for all those people including wine and I still bought him presents.

I'm not expecting/wanting something expensive. But it would have been nice to have had something to open on my birthday and I haven't had a single present. And it's my fucking 40th!

At least he took you away for the weekend to do something you wanted.

My DH did nothing at all for my fiftieth, no present, no card, no cake. He offered to take me out for a meal, but as I was recovering from an accident and couldn't sit for very long I declined the offer. At 6.00pm on my birthday he said "I'll invite x and x (friends) for dinner with us, I'll do steak". Of course they both said they already had other plans, so DH cooked for the two of us and we washed it down with a bottle of champagne from our stash. As the steak was some I already had in the freezer, all he actually bought for my birthday was a punnet of mushrooms to go with it

It's shit. It's not about the money, it about being thoughtful.

Did he arrange for your DC to do a card?

mojito I like the idea of celebrating the whole year!

finnegan. That does sound pants, sorry you had a crap birthday.

Dh has snuck out and returned with a card and chocolate cake!

Good for you! And yes make this the year when you will do new things to celebrate yourself

Ummm I think Travel Lodges are fine but they're not really a special occasion type of hotel chain are they? I wouldn't consider a night in one as a special treat. Having said that even if you counted the zoo trip as the present what reason would you have for not getting a nice card and cake? In our house we do cards, prezzies, home made birthday cake and maybe a nice dinner or lunch out. For a special birthday I would expect a bit more than that actually. For my 40th birthday my husband took me to Barcelona for a long weekend and we flew back and went to see Patti Smith play a concert in Hyde Park which I was excited about. ( my DH earns about the same as yours so it's not that we are rolling in it.....we just like to make a deal about special events). For what it's worth YANBU. X

No card and not even something little to open? Fuckwit. Next birthday/Christmas, link him what you want, be specific. I spend ages looking for cards for my DH! He creates moonpig things with all my favourite pictures from the year.