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AIBU?

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Original poster

To call the police?

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gardenangels · 21/08/2016 23:11

Son went out last night said he was sleeping over at friend's house locally. Was meant to meet him this afternoon. No reply to calls or texts. Sent a text to say I was worried and was going to call police. Get a call from him from a mobile. He said he was coming home but no show. I hv texted this number and they said he had left their house but I have no idea where he is except they live far away from us.

Would the police be interested? He is 17.

OP posts:

Italiangreyhound · 22/08/2016 03:14

Glad he is back safe.

HughLauriesStubble · 22/08/2016 13:29

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brasty · 22/08/2016 14:34

He was missing from the afternoon, when he was supposed to meet the OP. But so glad that it was simply him forgetting to meet up with you, rather than anything more.

Tiredtomybones · 22/08/2016 15:59

So pleased to hear he is safely back.

SendMyLoveToYourNewLUHuvahh · 22/08/2016 16:09

He is 17 to be fair.

You probably should give him a bit more space, I wasn't even living at home at that age. I had a full time job and was standing on my own two feet.

He was out with friends, he'll be an adult soon enough.

BitOutOfPractice · 22/08/2016 16:11

Glad he's back

I don't understand the reference to his dad though

Groovee · 22/08/2016 16:15

Glad he's home. I have a 16 year old who forgets that despite the fact she is 16, I do still worry and get concerned because I care.

Puddington · 22/08/2016 16:36

I know that at the age of 17 he could be living on his own etc (I moved out when I had just turned 18) but in this specific situation he does still live with OP and it's not the norm for him to disappear for a day or longer with no contact, or to say he was coming home and then for there to be no sign of him still hours later. I do understand why she was worried. My mum would have been worried too and I wouldn't have classed that as extreme overprotectiveness.

Musicaltheatremum · 22/08/2016 16:43

I too would be worried if my children disappeared for that long. It's not keeping tabs on them it's about being courteous with who you live with. My children still text if they are going to be late or stay out. I always said that I didn't mind what they did (well within reason) as long as they just let me know where they were. My son texted me at 2.20 am saying he wasn't coming straight home after work (edinburgh fringe) but going to a friends so that if I got up in the night and saw he wasn't home I wouldn't worry.

cjt110 · 22/08/2016 16:49

Im 29, married with a child and have my own home. My mum still worries if I say I will ring her when I get home and don't. It's because she cares.

The OP was worried as her son had said he would be home at 1 and wasnt. Nowhere did she say his "curfew" was 1am. Completely normal to be concerned if out of character and late.

Original poster

gardenangels · 22/08/2016 20:16

Thx for the posts. He was gone from 2100 Saturday night to 0100 Monday morning

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brasty · 22/08/2016 20:17

He was staying at friends on saturday night and had told the OP that. He was missing from afternoon of Sunday when he was supposed to meet OP.

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