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To think female athletes don't need to be kissed by those presenting them with their medals?

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worldsworstchildren · 21/08/2016 11:47

Watching some of the women's medal ceremonies I wonder if any of them enjoy beong kissed by the (old) men handing over their medals?
All of the women on the podium looked really awkward and it was obviously done out of politeness (on their part).
Years and years of hard work and that's their reward? Yuck!

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Amelie10 · 21/08/2016 11:52

Oh fgs!

Branleuse · 21/08/2016 11:54

kissing is politeness in tonnes of cultures, much like shaking hands. I dont see the big deal. Theyre not going in with tongues

FeckinCrutches · 21/08/2016 11:54

The men get kissed as well?

Queenbean · 21/08/2016 11:55

I like being kissed on congrats and presentation of an award.

I presume the male athletes get kissed by female presenters too?

PinkyofPie · 21/08/2016 11:55

I wouldn't like it I have to say but do the men also get kissed?

FeckinCrutches · 21/08/2016 11:57

The men do get kissed on presentation of their medal too

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 21/08/2016 12:01

I don't think it's an issue.

Hardly 'yuck'.

worldsworstchildren · 21/08/2016 12:03

It just seemed to labour the point to me. They bent forward for medal to be put over their heads, stood up again to shake hands and then had to lean down again for the kiss.

I didn't think of the cultural angle actually so that could have a bearing I suppose.

I didn't know female presenters kissed male winners, interesting that I didn't notice that.

Anyway it wouldn't appeal to me but I'm unlikely to ever be in that situationGrin

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DPotter · 21/08/2016 12:04

Some cultures have a tradition of kissing on the cheek by way of greeting. In France there is a hierarchy of kisses, so one kiss - an acquaintance, 2 kisses (one of each cheek) a friend and 3 kisses alternating sides - close friend / family.

There's nothing un-toward about it.

VestalVirgin · 21/08/2016 12:10

Some cultures have a tradition of kissing on the cheek by way of greeting.

Some cultures. It does not logically follow that all winning athletes should have to kiss some random men.
(Or at least have the male athletes also kiss men. Then we will see if it is actually culture, or just sexism.)

WardrobeMalfunction · 21/08/2016 12:13

I'm with you on this , OP. In interactions where, say a male presenter meets a man and a woman, the man will get a handshake and the woman will get a kiss. It's fundamentally sexist if we greet people differently because of their sex.

I am very uncomfortable with people in my personal space, so while I will shake hands with anyone, I really hate enduring even air-kisses from people I'm not close to. Fortunately, I'll never be on an Olympoc podium trying to swerve away from unwanted contact Grin

specialsubject · 21/08/2016 12:17

Both genders get kissed.

worldsworstchildren · 21/08/2016 12:26

Thank you Vestal and Wardrobe you've explained my feelings far better than I did in my OP.

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PinkyofPie · 21/08/2016 12:43

I agree with Vestal, it's fine to observe it as culture but to be entirely uncomfortable with it. My mother lived in France for a while and I detested meeting her friends (most of whom were English) because they kissed me. Just because it's nothing I towards doesn't mean I have to lie it and I suspect many female athletes dislike but tolerate it

Branleuse · 21/08/2016 12:53

Sometimes we all have to do polite stuff we'd rather not. Im sure theyll survive it.

limitedperiodonly · 21/08/2016 13:38

Those old pervs do it so they can stare down the athletes' tops as they bend forward.

I'm also shocked that every medal winner gets a complimentary ash tray. At sporting event too. Haven't the Brazilians heard how bad cigarettes are for you?

WellErrr · 21/08/2016 13:40

limited they're paperweights.

OP I was thinking this too.

And no, the male athletes don't have to kiss old men to get their medals.

NameChange30 · 21/08/2016 13:49

"In France there is a hierarchy of kisses, so one kiss - an acquaintance, 2 kisses (one of each cheek) a friend and 3 kisses alternating sides - close friend / family."

This might be true of the French people you've met, but it's not true for any of the French people I know (which is a lot). Most people have a set number of bise (usually 2 but sometimes 3 or even 4) and the variation is down to the region you're from, not how well you know the person or how close you are. The worst thing is that some people start on the left cheek, others on the right, which means that you never know which way to go first and sometimes end up accidentally leaning in for a snog Blush

Maybe it's very English of me, but I dislike kissing strangers on the cheeks. I wouldn't be surprised if it made some of the Olympic athletes (male and female) feel uncomfortable too. A kiss and a handshake seems like overkill to me. If it was up for me I'd ditch the kissing!

StylishDuck · 21/08/2016 13:51

If that's an ashtray it's the shittiest ashtray ever limited Hmm

To think female athletes don't need to be kissed by those presenting them with their medals?
limitedperiodonly · 21/08/2016 14:29

Are they paperweights WellErr? I admit I wasn't looking too closely, what with being outraged at the kissing.

Never mind. I'll transfer my shock to Brazil promoting the use of paper instead. You'd think that with the parlous state of the rainforests, and they've got a big one, they'd know better.

PinkyofPie · 21/08/2016 14:31

ARF at the athletes winning ash trays Grin

SawdustInMyHair · 21/08/2016 14:34

I've seen a lot of men being 'kissed' too.

But it's not a proper kiss, it's an air kiss. And not all the people I've seen doing it (the presenters) are men, either. A woman kissed the men after at least one of the canoeing.

I think you would be reasonable if it was the case, but it's not so U.

SawdustInMyHair · 21/08/2016 14:36

Those old pervs do it so they can stare down the athletes' tops as they bend forward.

Unlikely, as everyone getting a medal has to wear their country's tracksuit (rather than the kit they wore to compete), zipped up. Hmm

limitedperiodonly · 21/08/2016 14:36

I've watched loads of the Olympics and noticed that some of the men got a kiss too. But I failed to notice the sex of the kisser or whether there was the option of a firm handshake. That was very inobservant of me

I'm watching the men's marathon at the moment and will be sure to see what happens at the medal ceremony. I think it's the final event so it'll be my last chance. I'll keep my eyes peeled.

DrinkMilkAndKickAss · 21/08/2016 14:39

I'm more irritated by the silly jackets the women have to wear for their medal ceremonies! GB must be the only country with gendered, 'fashion' tracksuit tops - why can't they (as the men do) just wear normal sports tops?!