Aibu to think if you are going to post on a thread you should at least do the op the courtesy of reading and trying to take in what they have said?

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If you cba to read the whole thread, or skim it, or read the last page of posts to get the gist, or even just the op's updates (which are easily found) - am I BU to think you could at least read the thread title and op and try to take it all on board before you reply!

It depends on the thread. If it is long and there are a lot of responses I think it is a bit much to expect op to acknowledge them all. If there are only a few replies, then of course it would be nice if op could engage.

Generally speaking I skip all really long posts unless it is an opening post on a subject which particularly interests me. I never read long replies (unless I AM the op!).

LTB

Yes I now understand why the teacher s at school used to say before the exams READ THE QUESTION PRO PERRY. The number of people who miss the point of the OP is astonishing.

The comprehension confusion issue never fails to astound me. I once started a thread asking for lunch ideas that didn't involve bread - second suggestion was beans on toast. Made me for ages.

Properly. I can't type.

I like the lunch ones -

'we have no facilities to heat up food'

'take a tin of soup or a jacket potato and snap pot of beans'

I must admit I'm guilty of not reading whole thread on occasion or misreading, I'm quite new and have minor LDs and not down with all the mumsnet etiquette just yet, sorry everyone.

On a long thread people should read the OP, any updates, and the first three and last three pages if they can't be bothered to read the whole thread. If it's a long thread I automatically assume that anything I may have thought of has already been said, probably more than once, by other posters.

The lack of comprehension, misunderstanding and all out re-writing of what the OP said on here is unbelievable sometimes, I think some people are just determined to be contrary or push their own personal agenda.

I agree. Or are just desperate to have their say no matter what. I guess its the age we live in.

And another thing ... you hardly ever see posters come back to acknowledge a mistake if they have made one. It's like people post in a vacuum. When someone does come back it makes a lovely refreshing change!

OP you are right.

Sometimes the 800th post on a long thread is some dimwit claiming to have NRTFT but plopping their uninformed opinion in anyway. I'll never understand why people do that.

Unless it's a "what's for tea" type thread, one can't possibly assume that one's opinion could possibly be so important and urgent that it needs plopping down without reading anything. And even then, you'll get a derailed thread talking about the relative merits of plastic and metal cutlery and someone will plop "homemade emu burgers with our own marrow chutney and sourdough buns - can't wait!" Like, aren't you embarrassed to be ten pages behind?!

I luffs OP highlighting. I'm hopeless when an OP fucks up her name change partway through and you have to keep track properly yourself

I can't find how you highlight the OP through a thread on the mobile site. I still try and read through though

Please could anyone of the people above AFTER this post complaining that we don't all read the OP's updates answer this question then. unless you already have and I didn't read that post
I too have no idea how to just see the OP, viewing mumsnet on iPad....

It's not just on MN. I find people don't read emails properly anymore either. Loads of times I have sent work related emails saying something like "I can talk to you on the phone, I'm around any time except between 10 and 12 on Monday" and they will reply with "Great, let's talk 11am on Monday".

I'm on the mobile site & the OP comes up as bright blue for me, so I can scroll through & pick up their posts & updates. Not sure if this was a preference I set on desktop first though.

Oh I TOTALLY agree. It's rude to the OP, it's annoying for everyone else and it makes the poster look like a total idiot.

I saw a really bad example of this the other day. The OP stated in bold in her opening post that she had lost her daughter a few years peviously. Some idiot poster several dozen posts in says "...and you choose to put your child in this situation??"

Poor OP had to repeat herself, that her child had died.

The poster didn't even apologise or anything.

MrsD I can't remember who the OP was on the packed lunches thread but whoever she is she deserves a fucking gold medal for her patience and good humour on that thread.

I use the Desktop and the Mobile Site, I used the customise option on the Desktop Site and it automatically replicated the customisation on the Mobile Site.

iklboo it doesn't do that for me :-( so yeah it's REALLY hard to read the whole thing when it's massive. or even more than one page and you have a short attention span due to tiredness

Thingymcthingyface - if you go to the top of this page, you will see a little downward arrow (v) next to the word Talk. Click on that, then click on 'customise' in the drop down menu.

Scroll down to 'Talk options' and part way down that list, you get the option to highlight the OP's posts on a thread, and then your posts too.

I have checked this on my iPad for you, so I hope it works!

YANBU - particularly the ones that start out innocuously enough about a difference of opinion between OP and her partner, but then when clever mumsnetters actually get into it, a few pages on you find out that the partner is effectively abusing her. Then some dimwit wades in with their opinion about the OP without taking any of the subsequent information on board.

Classic one like that a few weeks ago - thread had reached about 800 posts I think it was - which even if you CBA reading the thread is a huge clue that a can of worms has been uncovered. It originally started about OP spending too much on a day out, but then it turned out there was lots of additional stuff around controlling spending.

Then absolute classic post 801 or whatever it was "Sorry haven't read the thread (so why bother posting) but that is quite a lot for day out. I think it's 50/50" or words to that effect. Wasn't even worth contributing at the start of the thread, did not move things forward at all and was actually quite insulting to the OP and those who had prised the information out of her and were helping her.

Hearts your really bad example is the same as mine, it was utterly awful.

Bitch plopping and being so arrogant you don't RTFT before doing so, especially on a serious thread, should be a bannable offence in my book*

*Only kidding, before some arse comes along and tells me off before explaining why they're oh-so important and shouldn't have to RTFT.

SDTG thank you! I've always struggled to search out OP posts in threads. Now I know!

Hearts I winced so hard at that. Reaching through the screen with Tipp-Ex and bleach.

rookie I don't understand the thought process of someone who does that I think a previous poster has hit the nail on the head in that the people who do it must think they and their opinion is so important they must impart it.