To wonder if there's anything BT will do...

[oaadc]

My mentally abusive ex left three months ago (at my request).

The more I pull away from him, the tighter he hangs onto any control he still has.

We have a 5 year old who has Autism. He loves his films and programmes on Netflix and Amazon. I'm kept sane by social media and music playlists etc.

Ex pays for broadband as his 'maintenance' because BT won't change anything. There's still 6 months left of the contract which is in his name.

Last night he text me to say I am 'so fucking selfish it makes him sick' because he hates the car I worked hard to buy. Nothing wrong with my little car at all - it's a control thing.

Get home, he's logged into the broadband and put controls on so that I can't use whatsapp, Facebook, Instagram, Netflix, YouTube, Amazon prime etc.

He claims our son 'doesn't need Internet access at his age'. I told him I would be phoning BT this morning. He has said that they won't do anything because he is 'more than happy with the service he is receiving'.

I've been nothing but civil and accommodating. I've not once bad mouthed him or made anything difficult for him.

My son has woken up (4 am) and is devastated that he can't watch his Wallace and Gromit. Don't get me wrong, he's not glued to the television / iPad but he absolutely loves his Wallace and Gromit.

If I phone BT today and explain what has happened, will they release me from the six months left over? I want as little to do with this prize idiot as I can now.

Why don't you set up a new broadband account, OP?

There is nothing to stop you getting a new broadband account with a different provider. BT won't put the account in your name as your ex will need to give them permission to do so, and I think we known that won't happen. Try Citizens Advice if you run into problems.

The car issue is just a red herring it's to do with control. Don't watch the videos he is sending. If he doesn't like you using that car to pick up/drop your DS off then he needs to arrange transport.

Go to CM get a formal maintenance agreement.

Right I have just called Plusnet and they were amazingly lovely. Switched over plus they've given me 300 minutes to speak to my family abroad each month. I'm so happy!

Re the car: I won't be taking any money from him. I just haven't had the nerve to reply with 'no' yet.

I'd ring him to say thanks but no thanks for the money, oh and btw you've got your own internet etc but he's more than welcome to carry on paying for his own contract

Thats great oaadc!

Ugh he sounds like a complete arse, you've had a lucky escape. I wouldn't say anything about getting new broadband just let him carry on as he is, controlling bastard. I don't know how he thinks £500 is going to get a "safer" car than what you already have either, how odd.

Glad you've sorted it OP!

I agree with PP, try to tell him as little as possible and keep contact to a minimum. Difficult when you have a dc together but at least try to keep conversation all about your child.

Well done for getting away from this controlling man

I've told him 'no' to the car and he's doing his usual 'why don't you car about DS' blah blah blah'.

I'm so glad I'm away from him now. New broadband kicks in in a couple of weeks so I'm currently at my Mums, downloading Wallace and Gromit from Amazon prime.

Oh and I've changed back to my maiden name on Facebook which was brilliant lol

Your next step is to go to the CMS for maintenance.

Take back control.

Glad you got it sorted. The rules have changed. I forgot you don't need a MAC code for moving providers. Ofcom changed it. Haven't worked in orders for years.

Yes please break the cycle of control and manipulation and go to the Child Maintenance Service.

They won't care what convoluted nonsense he comes out with about broadband accounts and offering money for cars. They only need to know his whereabouts and where he works. They'll do the rest.