To think my DD 13 is too young to put sun tan lotion on

[LippyLiz]

She's the most clumsy slapdash person I know, she's becoming fiercely independent and wants to put her own lotion on. It's 40 degrees!

I totally get that OP realises she is unreasonable.

But I have to admit I am intrigued how it's got to this point where she honestly thought 13 was too young to put their own cream on? Has the child never spent time away from the op?

I agree that we are all (well most) guilty of treating our children younger than they are, but this seems like a huge exaggeration of this.

Not judging, just a bit shocked and intrigued.

Dd1 has done her own since reception at 4..... this thread is ridiculous! A wind up surely?!

Its not virtue signaling, its disbelief at a parent mollycodling a 13 year old. and no I don't advercate letting dc get burnt, which is why you let them start when they are little then go over the bits they miss as they grow the miss less.

At 13 I was dying and bleaching my own hair, tye dying my own tshirts, bleaching my own jeans (in the bath), sewing the legs of said jeans into narrow drainpipes and piercing my own ears with a needle. I would imagine it was around that time I was also slathering myself in baby oil and burning in the midday sun.

Some of the above went terribly wrong, and I couldn't leave the house. But, lessons were learned.

Buy her an aerosol spray.

Buy her a rash vest. Means the difficult bits are covered up. My 14 year old and her mates all wear bikinis with rash vests whenever in the sun

Some of the above went terribly wrong, and I couldn't leave the house. But, lessons were learned

😂😂😂

Thank you!!

OP. Good to see you've realised the error of your ways 😁

But seriously, you need to have a think about the fact that she is 13 and doing things for her because she is 'clumsy/slap dash' isn't right. You're eroding her self confidence & babying her.

My friends DD is as 'clumsy' as all hell at home, can drop, break anything she touches & trips over fresh air. My friend has been dreadful for saying 'be careful', 'mind you don't slip/fall/drop it' 'don't run' 'that's too high/fast/whatever for you' since her kids were born. Her teacher gave her DD the job of 'Paint Monitor' 😳 A whole term of putting all the paints on the tables and away afterwards, all the dirty water etc - not one single accident. Children often deliver what you expect them to.

Are you being serious? She's 13 years old not 3! She is more than old enough to be applying it herself!

My 7 year old does his with a bit of input from me. My 12 year old and 15 year old apply theirs without supervision.

Gosh I'd definitely expect a 13 yr old to manage their own sunscreen!

Mine started in reception with the coloured stick things so they could see where they'd creamed. Other than hard to reach places I don't think I've done it for any of mine since they were that age-even ds who isn't inclined to do things himself he doesn't have to.
However the weather isn't that hot here, and all mine brown gently rather than burn, so I might well have done it for longer if either of those weren't true.

OP, do you trust your daughter to bath or shower properly on her own or do you help her there as well in case she's 'clumsily' missed some areas? Serious question.

OP.
Clumsy & Slapdash.
Have you ruled out dyspraxia?

I have more confidence in 11yo DD2 with sunscreen than my 17yo DD1 who has dyspraxia.

School's go back soon. Obviously a wind up thread

Last reply in this thread. It was a genuine question to which I got my answer. Thank you

Is this a joke?

Why are posters being so nasty to the op?
Some children, teens and (gasp) adults have poor co-ordination and can struggle to do everyday things like applying sun cream.

Blimey I thought you meant to say fake tan op.

My dds we applying fake tan at this age and my towels were ruined and they looked like something off 'it ain't Arf hot mum' showing my age.

Of course she should be doing it herself.

Shark yes but they have to learn. Not everyone will always have a wiling helper and applying sun cream is a vital skill.

13!

tbh, I find the idea of you doing it, really really weird.

Just keep reminding her to top up, after swimming etc.

Stop mollycoddling her.