I'm emotionally fucked, even physically.
I have an 8 year old boy, I have a husband who is not his biological father (child does not yet know any different, biological has not been seen since conception)
He's a nightmare, I don't actually know what I have done so wrong. I have 2 smaller children with DH, we treat them all fairly and set the same rules for everyone.
For the 8 year old, everything is because 'we hate him' he'll kick and stamp all evening till 11pm/12am every night because 'it's all our faults that he hates us because we hate him' my 1year old and 3 year old are being woken and disrupted every fucking night... 1 year old often won't settle again till 2/3am after being woken.
He screams, demands, throws things at me, scares the smaller children, answers back, steals from the kitchen in the early hours (5am) he stole from a shop on our recent holiday (sweets) he's violent, he doesn't listen at school, he has to be physically undressed and placed in the bath or he won't bath (then accuses me of hurting him because I've taken his shirt off) he smears faeces over the loo seat several times a day.
DH and I are strong, but we are exhausted - we need a night where we can sleep before 12.30am because DH gets up at 5.30am for work...
I'm terrified the neighbours judge us when he screams like a wild animal all evening like he's being killed but apart from gently guiding him up to his room nobody does anything wrong to him.
He told me unless I get him unlimited broadband that he will make my life hell. I said we can discuss this and there would have to be a curfew so he wouldn't be on it all night, he said that he won't listen as he wants his 'own life'
Ahhhhnh I'm terrified of loosing my orher children because of his behaviour 😰