to think that if you're going to send me an invitation you should double check my name?!

[OlafLovesAnna]

We've received an invitation from a bloke my DH has been friends with for 10+ years. They're not close but studied for professional exams together and a small group of them are still friends and get together occasionally. I have known him through DH for the same amount of time.

I never noticed him get my name wrong when we meet but as its not often it may just not have registered (I'm a tiny bit precious about my name as its not common but is a variant of a more popular name).

Anyway the invitation has arrived with the wrong name aibu to think that if you were unsure of spelling etc you at the very least check Facebook or with mates or verbally with dh?

Not offended by the invitation or suddenly hating perfectly nice people so this is a tiny bit lighthearted

This is a real non event.
Unless, you are Sally and he invited Claire, it's nothing to be concerned about.
Yabu.

Yabu.

In true MN speak "is that all you have to worry about" princess.

A non-event.

Well, are you actually offended or not?

Know what you mean, though, lighthearted though it may be. My ex was born Judith but always called herself Judi. Always spelled it Judi not Judy. Her handwriting was extremely legible, as is mine, so they would always see us sign "DrSeth & Judi" in every Christmas card, birthday card, christening card, new job card, good luck card, post card - whatever. Yet at least two of our very closest friends would always send stuff to "DrSeth & Judy"

I think people only check the names they don't know and assume people they have known for over a decade would have said something sooner.

DPHIL once got invited to an event. The invite was addressed to Mr x and Mrs y listsandbudgets.

Now that would have been OK EXCEPT

1 we are not married.

1. Y is not my name.

Turned out that the person doing invites had just assumed they were married as they had the same surname.. they'd never even met let alone married!

I'm a tiny bit precious

I've been married to dh for 19 years as of this week. I have never, ever referred to myself as Mrs or used dhssurname and everything inc my FB is CMOTDibbler. Ds (10) is myname-hisname. None of the ILs, or my brother address envelopes to us using my correct name, or our 'if you can't be arsed to use our names' preferred alternative of the 'myname-hisname family'. I refuse to open anything addressed to the mythical Mrs Hisname

By being a tiny bit presh I mean a always correct people if they use the wrong name. As in 'Hi Susan! It's Suzanne....' Or Caroline, how are you? It's Carolyn...' Or 'Hey Georgia! It's Georgina....'

I'm sure DH and I would have noticed if he'd been using the wrong name for decades. I'm more perplexed, or perhaps bemused at the oversight as its so easy to check if you're unsure but it is indeed as you all say somewhat of a first world issue to muse.

But he probably wasn't unsure, he thought he had the correct spelling so why would he check?

I refuse to open anything addressed to the mythical Mrs Hisname

That must be a miserable way to approach life but each to their own.

Does it happen often?

I have a friend who is a Marie and 50% of the time people default to Maria or Mary... usually being corrected once resolves it though.

I think Bo it's because it's not just a spelling it's an entirely different name, something similar to my examples. If it was Claire and Clare or Lucy and Lucie it still seems lazy but not quite as odd.

Is there a chance that the friend didn't write the invites himself and the miscommunication happened by the person who did write them either reading or hearing him say your name wrong?

Why don't you either go back to your friend and say you want to double check the invite is for you because it isn't your name on it or just accept and cross through the wrong name and write the correct one in?

Loads of people spell my dp's name wrong including my mum and the best friend he's had since school!

Oh and my gran always spelled my dd's name wrong. My dd took to using the wrong spelling when she wrote back to her as she was worried her great-gran would realise and get upset.

If this is all you have to worry about, then life must be good

I'm sure there's a logical explanation

What an absolute non-issue!

I think it can be a quite huge deal. I've worked very hard to get a title next to my name. My surname has never been changed from birth. If my friend had invited Mr and Mrs (fuckwit husband's surname) to her daughters wedding, I actually wouldn't have gone. She would have receieved a polite text from me stating that I am sure my MIL would be happy to come.
Fortunately she invited Mr fuckwit husband and Dr confusionis. (the fact that she invited him is a different discussion)
First name mis-spellings wouldnt faze me though. Especially from random aquaintance as you have described he is.

Precious, egotistical people who are offended by this sort of thing need to get a firm grip on issues that are actually worth getting het up over.

I'd put it down to a brain fart and move on with my life.

Precious, egotistical people who are offended by this sort of thing need to get a firm grip on issues that are actually worth getting het up over

Agreed!

OP do you mean they got your name completely wrong: ie. Claire when your name is Sarah? Or slightly similar: ie. Sara/Sarah, Mary/Marie?

Either way, I would also be surprised if my DP's friend of 10 years couldn't get my name right!

I must admit ive been guilty about this when writing out my wedding invitations. None of them had facebook and didn't really feel comfortable texting them saying mind send us the correcting spelling of your name please?
I got three names wrong, but that was due to it being common names but with different spellings.
Sort of like
I spelt it Sarah - they spelt it Sara
Sean - Shaun
I wouldn't get too worked up about it, my name can be spelt 3 different ways and I can guarentee each year at Christmas I get a card with each variation on it