to think that if you're going to send me an invitation you should double check my name?!

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We've received an invitation from a bloke my DH has been friends with for 10+ years. They're not close but studied for professional exams together and a small group of them are still friends and get together occasionally. I have known him through DH for the same amount of time.

I never noticed him get my name wrong when we meet but as its not often it may just not have registered (I'm a tiny bit precious about my name as its not common but is a variant of a more popular name).

Anyway the invitation has arrived with the wrong name aibu to think that if you were unsure of spelling etc you at the very least check Facebook or with mates or verbally with dh?

Not offended by the invitation or suddenly hating perfectly nice people so this is a tiny bit lighthearted

I have a quadruple whammy of title (Dr, not Mrs), First name (variant of a much more common name- think Sara, not Sarah), Surname (unusual spelling of a common surname - think Smyth, not Smith) plus I didn't change my name on marriage. It is a novelty to me to get a correctly addressed letter and friends I have known for 20 years often get it wrong. I can't be arsed to get annoyed about it. So YABU in a light-hearted sort of way

It's more like crunchymum's example, so my name is Mary and its addressed to Maria. Not just a different spelling but a different name.

I am being a bit U to have mentally noted their transgression I realise, therefore I will not post a shitty nappy through their door. I will merely tip the contents of a piddly potty down their windscreen.

What's your name OP?

Well it is polite to try to get people's names correct however assuming it's a wedding invitation then your invitation is one out of hundreds.

Just reply with the correct spelling in your rspv.

You're being a bit unreasonable if it was an uncommon variant of a common name.

My husband recently wrote a congrats card for our friends wedding and managed to do a really dodgy misspelling of the blokes name (think Timmothy instead of Timothy). The problem is that he is super dyslexic. He'd have been mortified to think that he'd hurt anyone's feelings, it's not that he's careless, it's that writing doesn't come naturally to him.

Don't sweat the small stuff, OP.

If my friend had invited Mr and Mrs (fuckwit husband's surname) to her daughters wedding, I actually wouldn't have gone. She would have receieved a polite text from me stating that I am sure my MIL would be happy to come

And how glad she would be to avoid having you there, you miserable princess!

I take care to spell people's names correctly when there is a written reference in front of me, i.e. if replying to an email. But I think in an invitation to someone you don't know that well it is excusable.

I don't think it's princessy to want people, especially people who actually know you, to get your name right. After all, the point of naming is to differentiate one from another, so it's pretty fundamental really .

I have an unusual name. A new colleague went to the trouble of emailing me to find out how I want to be addressed - so imagine I'm Anne Marie, I introduce myself and sign myself as that. Colleague wanted to know if it's Anne or Marie. I confirmed that it is, in fact, Anne Marie and she's called me Anne ever since.

I've worked with a bloke for a year who keeps calling me amele. Its nothing like my name and despite being told my name several times he still does it. I wear a name badge too

When I write invites I just throw some scrabble tiles into the air and write down the ones I catch. Clare complained once that her save the date was addressed to klair. She's such an ungrateful bitch, it's close enough and you get more points for the k.

A guy who has worked with my dh for over 10 years was getting married recently. We received an invitation addressed to "ludog'sdh and partener". Im not sure which bit I should be most offended by; the fact that he couldn't be arsed to ask what my name is or that he couldn't spell 'partner'. I opted for neither and it was a good wedding

It is a bit rude, but if he's never seen it written down here probably just hasn't realised (eg Caroline and Carolyn don't sound that different).

My best friend is called Georgie, but one of my other friends always calls or refers to her as Georgia, no matter how many times I tell him otherwise. Mind you, the other day he asked how Josephine was (meaning her) so Georgia isn't too bad by comparison