To think that only a complete fuckwit wouldn't take a key?

[StillSmallVoiceOfCalm]

DH (that is Dick Head) has gone away.

Train connections back were tight.

He knew this.

If connection not met them last bus back (into the sticks) would be missed.

He also knew this.

What a surprise. Things have not gone to plan.

And the stupid fuckwitted bastard hasn't taken a key.

1. I am not picking up. Today is my day off. (He knew this as well)

1. I am not leaving my front door unlocked all nihght in case the twat makes it home.

This also happens pretty much every time he goes away. Nob.

What would he do if you were having a night out? or staying somewhere else tonight?

All sorted then. He owes you one.

Of course it's annoying. It's one of the pains of living in the middle of nowhere; there is no possible plan B that doesn't involve inconveniencing someone else. He needs to get his act together in future.

Of course there are taxis. I grew up in the sticks and a taxi might be expensive but you can get them. If he ends up at a main station there will be one there. If not then he phones the nearest town now asking for a taxi to collect him at the station at whatever time the train comes in.

And the poor sod forgot his key. Fucking hell op, I assume you never make a mistake.

It is indeed a pain in the arse and he will owe me.

No Desolate. There isn't. I know this as I live here.

I think that you are getting a hard time here, despite the fact that you are not the one who forgot the fucking key!

I wouldnt pick him, I really wouldnt.

He doesnt have to make sure that he is where he needs to be and when, he doesnt have make sure that he has his key. He doesnt actually have to do anything because he knows that the OP will sort him out, AGAIN. All it takes is having to get home on his own, once, for him to mysteriously be able to sort himself out in future.

Bloody hell I have no idea why you are getting such a rough ride here OP.

All these PP who would repeatedly bail their partners up when they failed over and over again to take a key, or make sensible travel arrangements must be saints. I suspect most of us would get fed up around the third of fourth time and react exactly as you have.

I would text him saying " I have dreadful D & V so am going to bed and turning mobile off, try not to wake me when you get in.x" and let him get on with it.

OP if you don't stop mummying him he won't get to feel the repercussions of being such a dick and he will keep doing it.

he will owe me, sounds a bit

Oh it is it really is.

My oh is exactly the same its so f-ing annoying! You have my sympathy

Crack open the gin. In an hour from now, you will smile fondly at his little 'quirks'......

Why on earth did he either:

1. Come back earlier
2. Book a cheap room via airbnb

Yes Random. That is what a sensible person would do.

Can you not just pick him up at 11.30 or 12?? If he wants a lift do it when it suits you

I don't blame you for being annoyed if this has become a habit. To once forget his keys is forgiveable, twice not quite so much but if he keeps doing this he's come to rely on you to bail him out every time. No wonder you're annoyed/feel taken for granted.

If he had taken his key is he sensible enough not to lose them? It would be better to pick him up but give him a right old ear-bashing all the way home. And then some more on arrival. Spare room?

Then the next time his nibs goes out you can say, "take your key, I don't want a repeat of last time (and neither will he). Or is that too nasty?

I wouldn't pick him up either

How can she pick him up at 11.30 or 12 if the train gets in at 1 or 2?

Just don't do it then. Don't be such a martyr. Leave him to sort himself out. Stick a key under a plant pot and go to bed. Or let him kip with a mate and make his own way back tomorrow.

Leave a key somewhere and crack open the gin.

Another here saying I feel your pain ...and you need to learn to say no and be harsh - and I also think you don't deserve a hard time - especially if it is a pretty regular thing
I took DCs to their GPs for a few weeks - a 6 hr drive away.
Had a hotel booked etc or wouldn't have gone that day felt like death - terrible sore throat, swollen glands etc - a nightmare. Also 15yo had been a PIA deciding they didn't want to go at the last minute etc. Took some persuading etc - so we left late...
Started getting texts/missed calls as I was driving on the motorway - stopped at services (2hrs into the drive, over 100 miles away) to find they were from DP....he had lost his keys and was locked out. Years ago neighbours had a spare key but I am pretty sure they don't any more - but worth trying - except he wouldn't go and ask -wanted me to phone them -which is awkward as we aren't as friendly as we used to be. I refused. He had tried to book into a hotel but they were full - asked me if I could try somewhere for him -erm I'm on a service station with zero mobile data credit. I suggested staying with his friend - but he said he didn't want to ask them -felt awkward. I said my parents might have a key - phoned them -they had not sure if it still worked etc but would post it for him special delivery so he should have it the next day ...cue discussion where to send it - he didn't want it to go to work cos he'd be embarrassed etc etc...I told him to phone my parents and decide with them then I could get on with the drive - he got me to get them to google his work address...
He also asked me if I could drive back ... already not due to arrive until 7pm - I wasn't keen on making that past midnight..
And worse he was really stroppy about unhelpful I was being!!!!!
Phoned back later to see how he was doing and he'd found his keys - at the gym where he'd been before coming home - so all that hassle and he hadn't even tried very hard to find them
Next time I think I would just tell him to sort it out himself, hang up and turn my phone off...

If it's a one-off you're being unreasonable.

If, like me, you are married to someone who considers carrying keys an optional extra then YANBU. Many times Ive had to either get up at 2am or leave doors unlocked. I only do that because DP will come home anyway and the dog starts Barking and wakes the kids. Apparently I am the unreasonable for not realise that forgetting keys is easily done, even though I never do it.

Can you tell him you've already drank several g&ts so can't collect him? He will think you're petty if you just refuse, even if you are in the right, so just make yourself unavailable.

Earlier train?

I have sent a short message.

It is time for him to stand up and be a man.

And maybe (although I'm not holding my breath) he will appreciate my total perfection a little more.