So I am probably BU to have a loo brush in the first place especially as its presence has just resulted in a disagreement. Nonetheless, I'll proceed...
For context, we divide chores 50:50, although DH is happier to live amongst dirt than I am so I tend to need to coax him. I clean the bathroom weekly on a Sat or Sun, doing wipe downs when needed in the week. We've got a general rule whereby, if you create an unreasonable or gross mess, you clean it up yourself even if it's made in the other's domain.
This AM, DH went to the loo- I could hear him inside faffing around a bit, and then he emerged and stated that "we need to unblock the drains". It turns out he's had used too much loo roll, the loo has clogged and he can't shift it using the loo brush. I direct him to some caustic soda, tell him how to use it, and the loo gets unblocked.
Afterwards, the bathroom door is open and I hear him rinsing something off using the shower head in the bath. I ask him what he's up to and it turns out he's cleaning the loo brush in the bath using the shower head and rinsing it all down the plug hole. No disinfecting agent was applied. He finishes, puts loo brush back in its holder, and turns to leave the bathroom.
I am pretty disgusted by this. He wasn't going to tell me what he was up to, meaning I could be using the shower not knowing there was, essentially, shit in it. I ask him if he can clean the shower now as it's really gross, he objects on the basis that I clean it on Saturday anyway, it's no different to cleaning your bum, and I'm unnecessarily worried about the germs.
He questioned how else would he clean the loo brush. I answered that I generally give it a shake off in the loo water and that does it. If that didn't shift it, I'd chuck it out and buy a new one.
I'm now second guessing myself- am I really being too precious about the germy status of the bath? What is the reasonable way to clean a loo brush? Who is really being unreasonable?