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When people say their dog is fine and won't bite?

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marshamella · 13/08/2016 07:14

Walking down the narrow road with my ds and hear a dog heavy breathing behind me. So I turn and tell the owner she can go infront. Her reply "it's ok he won't bite he's soft as anything" and stays behind us. With ds I couldn't walk fast so decided to cross the road when I didn't need to. Was this rude of her not to walk infront as she could see we were uncomfortable with a dog right behind us? I'd rather be the judge of weather or not I want the dog by us.

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MeAndMy3LovelyBoys · 13/08/2016 09:42

😂 Oh dear

Newes · 13/08/2016 09:42

Nah. One of them there Banned Breeds.
Which is odd, as I pictured an elderly Labrador whose lead training has been a bit lax in the past, keen to get to the Field Of Rolly Things.

limitedperiodonly · 13/08/2016 09:44

'I am King in the North. Meet my direwolf, Asthma Dog, and tremble. Now where's his inhaler? I wish this robe had pockets.'

MrsGsnow18 · 13/08/2016 09:44

If thinks it's prob just best to do as you did OP and move. Don't even say anything to dog owner next time.
I don't like some people's children but I would never tell the parents what to do to remove them, I just distance myself away from them Grin ( for my dogs' safety)

WaitrosePigeon · 13/08/2016 09:46

The dog may have asthma. That is the funniest thing i've read in a while. Brilliant Grin

Tartsamazeballs · 13/08/2016 09:46

So an on lead dog was walking behind you, you offered to let the owner go in front, owner declined and tried to reassure you, you weren't reassured so you crossed the road.

I'm literally not seeing the problem here. Unclench! Grin

Thattimeofyearagain · 13/08/2016 09:54

My dog loves our postman ( disclaimer, he is also a family friend)

marshamella · 13/08/2016 09:54

To be fair it does seem rather trivial now as it's got a bit out of hand. I simply was wondering if anyone else has been in a similar situation. I think a few people on mn spend all day looking out for trolls and therefore assume everyone is one. Thank you to those of you who have been more considerate

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BeingATwatItsABingThing · 13/08/2016 09:55

But Tarts, how can the OP unclench when a potentially asthmatic direwolf a dog was calmly walking in her vague vicinity visciously snapping at her ankles?!

marshamella · 13/08/2016 09:56

I agree pp that's how ridiculous you have all made my post become

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Costacoffeeplease · 13/08/2016 09:57

Maybe because it was rather trivial in the first place?

Captainkanga · 13/08/2016 09:59

Asthma dog Grin

The dog was on a lead yeah? Then you were being a bit unreasonable and slightly hysterical

"I don't like dogs so crossed the road to avoid one" - total non issue, people do it everyday. I don't really think it's worth this much drama to be honest..

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 13/08/2016 10:00

I'm not calling troll. I don't think anyone has. Just thinking their might be a bit of embellishing going on.

spanky2 · 13/08/2016 10:00
Biscuit
marshamella · 13/08/2016 10:01

Beingatwat don't you have anything better to do you have been commenting on my post all morning

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limitedperiodonly · 13/08/2016 10:02

Who has called you a troll marshamella? I took your dog hysteria at face value. Do people cynically post about MN hot button items for a laugh on a Saturday morning? How shocking.

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 13/08/2016 10:02

*there

Serves me right for not spell checking my post first.

Costacoffeeplease · 13/08/2016 10:03

I definitely don't have anything better to do and I've commented a few times - is that ok?

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 13/08/2016 10:04

Op, no not really. Grin

Idefix · 13/08/2016 10:04

So tried to resist saying this so as not to stir the pot but after the big drip feed op...

Not only would I have not accepted your offer to walk in front I wouldn't have told you my dogs won't bite because I suspect in the certain situations they might.

My dogs are small, very small and clearly not objective very cute. We frequently have to tell adults and children to not try and stroke, pick up our dogs unless invited to do so. Whilst they have never bitten they clearly do or like strangers launching towards them because they are overcome with a desire to love the little dogs. The dogs show this by their ears going back and lip licking, cowering and tail between legs.

I am curious to know how the dog own was rude not to be able to read your mind Confused

LikeDylanInTheMovies · 13/08/2016 10:04

Even with the latest drip update the thread still consists of nothing more than 'a dog walked down the street, minded it's own business and nothing happened'.

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 13/08/2016 10:07

LikeDylan you've got it in one.

puglife15 · 13/08/2016 10:07

My dog doesn't like people walking behind her. She will stop dead, look over her shoulder etc it seems to worry her

Does no one see the irony in this?

Poor op you've had a hard time here I think from defensive dog owners mostly

Yes it was a bit trivial, but I agree just because someone says "don't worry my dog won't bite" doesn't mean I want it slobbering all over my trainers, sniffing my crotch or jumping up at me and yes, dogs on leads on the street have jumped up at my toddler in the past and scared him.

There are great responsible dog owners and shitty dog owners and until the good ones start wearing some kind of marking so we know either way I'll assume you're all shit Grin

FreezerBird · 13/08/2016 10:09

People asking what's wrong with saying "it won't bite" - I obviously can't answer for anyone else on this thread but in the case of my DD, I don't think she's scared of being bitten - I don't know if she even knows that's a possibility.

She is, however, frightened of being knocked over, which has happened on several occasions, and generally scared of a large (in proportion to her) unpredictable animal getting into her space.

She has various SN, which aren't apparent unless you interact with her (rather than calling from a distance), she's very small for her age and her balance is poor, so being knocked over is a very real possibility.

She's not that bothered whether the dog is friendly or ravenous, because either way the end result tends to be her ending up on her bum on the path! And a dog owner calling "don't worry, he won't hurt you" as she sits wailing in a puddle is a bit annoying.

And we are working on it. Neither DH or I are scared of dogs (neither of us a particular fans, but not scared), so we haven't passed it on. I have had (once) a dog owner tell me off for 'encouraging' her fear, because I picked her up to get above a jumpy dog which had run up to us. I just don't think the uncontrolled interactions when dogs off the lead run up to us are the time to work on her fears - I see those as times to show DD I always have her back and will keep her safe. Dog owners might see that as an over-precious reaction, I don't know. But it annoys me when people assume I'm not working on this with her, because they can't see it in that moment.

When we're walking and we meet a dog she'd bothered by (she is getting much better, doesn't tend to worry if they're on a lead these days), we stand still, let the dog pass us, and I will say something like "look, he's not interested in you at all!' as they go past, or point out what a lovely colour the dog is, or similar positive comments. Her big brother will happily interact with any dog we see after asking the owner, so she sees positive interaction there, too.

If we're walking along a path and a dog comes up behind us which is worrying DD, I'd probably pause and let the dog and owner get past, which seems sensible to me, and as far as I can see is what the OP describes, so I'm not sure now whether that's reasonable or not.

Blimey that was long. Sorry.

Hoppinggreen · 13/08/2016 10:09

like you should write headlines for the DailyFail!!

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