In a nutshell (big nut...), Dh and I haven't been great for a couple for years now, to put it mildy. We have children togrther including a new baby. I'm currently on holiday with my parents and husband is supposed to come out to join us tomorrow. He cannot get more than 2 weeks off work hence me getting the head start away with the kids.
Anyway, I phoned him tonight and I asked him to make sure he emptied the fridge (left food in it last year which went mouldy) and to lock the cars and house (which he never does routinely as 'no one would ever break into his cars/ house') and got a tirade of abuse about 'being spoken to like a fucking child.'/'hasn't had to put up with my shit for a few weeks etc'
I'd said it all in a light hearted way but he just flipped which is characteristic of his behaviour....charming on one hand but drinks about 5/6+ cans of beer a night and is a recreational coke user.
Anyway...Ive told him not to come as tbh I haven't 'missed his shit' either . I've really enjoyed the head space away from him. I guess I'm asking, aibu for saying don't come (I've paid for the holiday) or could this be the time time I should really use to get my head straight to LTB?