To still be searching for 'the one'

[babajuice]

Long time lurker, first time poster. Hi!

I'm in my 30's with one DC. I am married. I am still searching for "the one"..... mummy friend.

I have acquaintances with DC. I have friends without, but it's difficult to match our timetables.

Anyway, AIBU to just want to meet someone a bit cynical but witty, who likes coffee and cocktails and cake and sitting down as opposed to rushing about all the time, and who likes wine a lot but is also planning on cutting down because the calories don't burn off too quickly anymore?

And who likes binge watching Netflix, and really wants to see that new David Brent film?

And who has quite an immature/ bit rude sense of humour. And who lives not too far away.

It's not like I'm asking for 20. I just want the one. WHERE ART THOU MY "THE ONE"?

chocolit Holy shit, yes to Bad Moms! I realllllly want to see that.

I'm in east London. I think I'm your "one" OP. Do you do Twitter?

Marmalade MN Social is a closed group on facebook for people looking for other Mum friends. I've heard of Mummy's Gin Fund, not been on the facebook though. I'll find it!

haze Oh, your poor DS. Sending you hugs and him superhero powers.

Felloutofbed your name just made me chuckle, because I was thinking of someone being pushed out of bed on purpose. Twice. I have a Twitter, I used it mostly for work and haven't touched it since...

Mummy's Gin Fund is invite only

Ooohhh she's too special for us now!

I let "the one" slip away. We really hit it off at a slightly odd baby signing class, she lived a couple of streets away and her baby was same age as mine. I couldn't work out how to suggest meeting up outside the class. Then she stopped coming to the class. Now I've moved and have no mummy friends. It seems hard to sustain a conversation at baby groups where you are knackered and monitoring small crazy toddler.

Invite only eh? Well, I'm not fussed, I don't need to be in the group. Not bothered at all...

So, anyone in the MN Social group wanna invite me to Mummy's Gin Fund? Or not. Whatever.

haze are you local to Walsall?

Oh Hub I feel for you.

Similar happened to me at a baby group. I still go in the hope she might return, but I think she's gone forever

Yes Jiggly

Maybe just say oh we should have a pay daate sometime, are you on FB? Then be weird like me and write a message off the baby to the other baby asking for a play date haha!

I'm on FB, I'll message you my name on here :)

I'm just down the road from Walsall!

Oh my god you can't win! You can't be too friendly or people think you're a big weirdo but of course if you don't talk to The One at baby group she'll get away! She's probably round at the nice American woman's house having lunch and telling her how great it is to meet someone who actually engages in friendship!

Btw what is wrong with someone inviting you round for lunch btw, is there a code of how long you need to know someone before doing this?

OP I feel the same! I have good friends without kids and don't really know anyone close by with children as DS is only 2. There are a few good apps for this very purpose- mummysocial and mush (sorry if already mentioned)
P.s. I love David Brent 💜 Cringey in good way!

Hubnut Yeah I just can't get talking to anyone at toddler groups, so focussed on DS without being helicoptery but it's like my brain turns to goo!

I think we have a future.

haze I'm not needy or anything. But maybe I am a little bit right now.

There's an app called Mush.

You had me up until the David Brent bit OP. And London is too far!

Sent lots of messages on Mush. Already feeling rejected.

Jiggly i didnt reject me, i just busy with my friends send me a pm xx

Didn't reject you not me lol