...to think you shouldn't put your rubbish in your neighbour's wheelie bin every fortnight without asking?

[wheresmyfairygodmother]

Today it was my recycling bin that had been literally half filled overnight by a neighbour (it was already half full but now is full). They do get collected today but 1. I still put things in it in the morning & 2. some of the stuff was garden waste which shouldn't be in there so the bin men could refuse to empty my entire bin.

I haven't seen who does it but based on whose bin is already full & who would be rude enough to do it every fortnight without asking, it is my neighbours who I can't stand because of past history of being utterly selfish horrors including once trying to steal my bin (and worse but there's bin history is what I'm saying )

I moved the place I leave my bins out so they're on far side of my property away from them but they still do it. WWYD? Leave it right back on my drive so they have to trespass to do it then I've got more of a beef with them, but I may forget to put it out for collection (!) Or mention it but how? It's p*ing me off them using it regularly cos they're horrid neighbours plus they're putting the wrong stuff in which could leave me with an unemptied bin.

I should add there's no man in my household which was when they started taking the p*$$ so I hate dealing with them on a personal level. I'd love to be able to send someone else over to have a word man to man but it's just me.

Aha found them - thanks Grannycake

" ut if you lose all feminity and vulnerability don't complain that your partner doesn't adore you and is protective of you,"
BOLLOCKS

dh and I adore and are protective of each other. Neither of us is particularly feminine!!!
That said op I'm with you on the reluctant to confront. Our neighbours do occasionally do this to us but they'd never put anything in the bin men won't take and they only ever do it when or bins already out. Plus I know if I asked them to stop they wouldn't mind as they're lovely. And I use their bottle box :) living next to someone you've had words wth won't be pleasant. Hope you get a lock sorted.

I cant see the problem. Only if the bin-men refuse to take/empty your bin, because something wrong in it, is there an issue. Or if you have more rubbish to put in, that very morning and it won't fit.
Other than that, what exactly is the issue?

My rubbish bin is full to the brim.
My recycling bin is full aswell.
They empty recycling one week, rubbish the next, alternatively.
Perhaps if councils went back to weekly emptying we wouldn't have these problems?

Why are people saying they cant see the problem....its basic courtesy surely to ask first....i would be pissed off if someone was sneaking around my property filling up my bin without having the decency to ask me first.

It's only because I thought something had been mistakenly thrown away, that I went to check our bin before the bin lorry arrived that I found our neighbour had filled it with loosely tied bags of nappies, glass bottles and un-shredded paperwork.

Still they are moving out soon - live and let live and all that - it was only the bottles not going in the recycling and unshredded paperwork (bit sloppy for a legal professional ) that made me peeved.

YANBU.

Those not seeing the issue might have great bin collections.... We're on 3 week collection for black bins, 2 weekly for paper / plastics and weekly food / green waste. If anyone touches our black bin we hit the roof. Plus DH gets touchy with the recycling ones too.

We're on the end of a dog walking loop so have countless black bags dumped in our bins.

Bins are a massive PITA where we are, we need a laser taser system for feckers that touch them.

My twatty new neighbour does the same thing, always at night, and without asking or saying anything.

This wasn't an issue until they left our bin overflowing so shit was everywhere when it was windy (and I had to fish it all out of our front garden including meat packaging) and the idiots had crammed in a load of parcels with their names and addresses on which I had signed for and taken in for them that week. So it was obviously them. Twats.

I get up before the bin truck so we have to leave the bins in our drive until the morning to avoid the mess.

We got a leaflet through the door we are getting 5 bins on a 4 weekly emptying rotation its going to be a nightmare

YANBU

And I can understand why you are reluctant to have a confrontation with them if they are awkward. Different people have different levels of confidence in these situations, and if you have really bloody-minded neighbours (as yours seem to be from what you have said), you know that they will go out of their way to make life difficult for you in other ways, knowing that you have no-one to support you emotionally or practically.

I know from experience that when "normal" people and vindictive people clash, the vindictive ones will win because they are prepared to commit the time, energy and imagination to causing trouble. Most of us "normals" would just think "For crying out loud - can we not just let this go? It's been 15 years!" And the vindictives are still posting slugs through letterboxes . . .

I've also had this problem with my neighbours. It got worse after I was widowed. They keep score on "offences" I may have committed (ie. lighting a BBQ without telling them - which was an honest mistake). She washed her car on my front garden one day and got offended that I sent a snippy note asking her not to do it again.

Fairy I know how you feel about avoiding confrontation because I used to be like that. But people won't respect you if you don't speak up for yourself and it won't get easier if you never do it.

The first time I knocked on my neighbours door to tell her to shut the fuck up please be quiet because I have work in the morning I had to psyche myself up for ages! Now if someone's doing something I see that is wrong, like dropping their litter in the street, I will chase them like a mad woman walk up to them and say "Scuse me, I think you dropped something" etc. Works best if you've had a bad day

Give yourself a kick up the bum and knock!

Also Jojo was absolute NONSENSE! I'm very sorry for your loss but you are talking rubbish.

I'm WAY more inclined to speak up than my partner and way more likely to knock on my noisy neighbour's door and tell them to keep it down than my partner (who's a man), and he said he finds my assertiveness. Being a wimpy push over is not "being feminine!"

*finds my assertiveness attractive!

"There's no man in the household" - really? really? What difference does that make? FFS attitudes like that piss me right off.

Of course it makes a difference if the neighbours are horrible or intimidating. It's very judgemental to assume this is an abstract sexist "attidude" that has nothing to do with the reality of the situation or the fear of it escalating.

OP I feel for you. Obnoxious neighbours are the worst, and not everything can be put right with a friendly chat. I would either get a bin lock or just try not to let it bother you. Easier said than done I know!

The no man in the house is less likely to do with the OP's attitude and more likely to be due to inherent sexism of the neighbours (bullies).
My nightmare from hell neighbour was a bully - I admit to being frightened of him - he was very aggressive etc. The police were building an harassment case against him (and I am generally a strong woman - happy to stand up to anyone -it was the constant harassment that got to me).
I thought it was just personal. But then realised he was a bully and was behaving the way he did to me cos I was a woman (and at the time DP worked long hours so I was on my own most of the time) and he could intimidate me. So I did my best to stop being intimidated.
The penny dropped when he did something that was a complete piss take. DP went round to talk to him (mainly so he knew it wasn't just me unhappy about it).
DP taped the conversation or I wouldn't have believed the difference - nasty neighbour was grovelling - sorry I'll take it down straight away etc etc. DP went to work - nasty neighbour came round 10 mins later and started screaming at me he wouldn't take it down etc .
The difference was amazing - he was trying to bully me into telling him he could leave it. He was 'afraid' of DP so wouldn't have dreamt of behaving like that with him...

I don't want my post to come across wrong. I was a single parent for many years and without doubt you get bullied and harassed more as a single woman than as part of a couple.

Obnoxious neighbours are obnoxious neighbours - a persons sex or gender has nothing to do with it. They are most likely doing it because the OP is a non- confrontational and giving off "poor me with man no to protect me" vibes

The OP needs to tackle this like a grown up and discuss with the neighbours or buy a lock.

I don't really see the issue IF they are putting in things that are meant to be in that bin. Putting in stuff that could stop the binmen emptying it is not on. They really should ask though

We have an arrangement with neighbours (more specifically, 2 ladies in the street who live alone and rarely have rubbish to fill theirs), and that we can use their bins if needed as the council refuse to give us another even though it is desperately needed. We recycle stuff as its mean tot be and still the 'everything' bin is full long before collection day. We have an extra 3 people here every friday-monday though, which is why so much rubbish is used...council refuse to class them as living here as its only half the week

Would NEVER put non recyclable stuff in someone elses recycle bin though. Thats taking the piss

We have the opposite problem. Our two neighbours are holiday houses and the owners are only there sporadically so we end up putting all the bins out, but they insist on putting stuff in 'their' bin, so we end up with 3 bins that all have a little in them rather than just filling one and then moving on the next if it's needed. They also put glass in the general waste bin rather than take it to one of the, at least, two recycling options that they drive past on their way home!! My DH or I end up fishing it out and taking it with our glass recycling. Rant over.

I think if you don't want to talk to your neighbours which can be scary if they are intimidating, then a bin lock is they way to go.

rhubarb I disagree -although I guess that could be the case... or maybe to an extent.
But it isn't that easy ...and some people are worse than obnoxious - they aren't reasonable/rational especially if they drink quite a bit - he was a bit of a thug (already known to the police) , did things in a fit of temper (smashed our gate once), used to have drunken fights with his wife on the street etc, etc. (I actually think part of the reason he didn't like me was because I was an independent, at the time working woman - who did DIY etc)
I was trying to be reasonable and keep the peace - nightmare neighbour just got worse...part of the reason was he used to have a go at me when I was with young DCs - his shouting used to frighten/upset them -so part of it was to try and protect them... Also he once said something that made me think he was threatening my cat (he wasn't) but I believe he was capable of hurting it in a drunken temper (and no she didn't crap in his garden...).
Thugs like that are more likely to treat men with respect ...especially ones who are physically bigger than them ...

Assume you do not have to pay by weight? That's system in Ireland, would much prefer free collection and a not of annoyance from neighbours!