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New neighbours loud sex

91 replies

flissfloss65 · 08/08/2016 12:49

They moved in on Saturday and last night as I was watching tv in my lounge I could hear her moaning and groans over my tv. I've never heard other neighbours in any other house having sex, even house sharing as a student. Thing is I don't like hearing her and she was SO loud. Obviously they can do what they want in their own house and maybe it was just a really good night for her! But if it continues should I mention we can hear them? I hate the idea of having people round and hearing them, it just feels ughhh. AIBU to feel like this?

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DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 08/08/2016 12:50

It's only happened once, why don't you just wait a bit?

Skittlesss · 08/08/2016 13:04

Give them time to realise how thin the walls are. If you can hear them then they will hear you doing some stuff (maybe get the kids playing in the rooms on their side of the house?)

INeedAnEspresso · 08/08/2016 13:06

If it happens frequently I would have a word or report a noise disturbance.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 08/08/2016 13:06

If they start again turn the telly up REALLY loudly and they'll get the hintGrin

SoupDragon · 08/08/2016 13:08

Give a round of very loud applause when it's finished.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 08/08/2016 13:11

And don't shout 'encore!'Grin

BillyNotQuiteNoMates · 08/08/2016 13:13

I'd drop a note through their door, I would be mortified if I thought my neighbours could hear us

AlMinzerAndHisPyramidOfDogs · 08/08/2016 13:17

It won't be last last time.
I'd tell them.

hairycatmum · 08/08/2016 13:26

I'd wait and see if it happens again-maybe they'd been celebrating moving in and got carried away. If it happens again I'd drop them a note.

5BlueHydrangea · 08/08/2016 13:28

We had an intruder in our garden recently. The lady next door woke up to her dogs barking and saw him so started shouting out the window. My dh woke up and thought they were in the throes of passion next door so ignored them rather than looking outside to see what was going on!!

acasualobserver · 08/08/2016 13:28

To those who would send the neighbours a note, what would you write exactly?

LaurieFairyCake · 08/08/2016 13:29

" The walls are thin and I can hear you having sex"

TiggyOBE · 08/08/2016 13:31

On a Sunday? But that's god's day!

Andrewofgg · 08/08/2016 13:32

Reciprocate?

LRDtheFeministDragon · 08/08/2016 13:34

Well, do you ever have sex? And are you utterly silent?

Chances are if you can hear her, she can hear you!

My mate had a neighbour who got very sniffy about them being up early, and took them to task about being audible in the kitchen at indecently early hours on the weekend (I think it was about 7-8 am ...), and they took great pleasure in pointing out that they had been politely refraining from letting her know they could hear whenever she had a 'good night'.

DIYTopTits · 08/08/2016 13:35

Soup and Dame, I actually burst out laughing at those suggestions. OP please clap!

Have you introduced yourself to them yet? If not, maybe you could say hello and apologise in advance if they can here you hoovering DTD with DP/DH/DW/randomer or whatever because the walls are not that sound proof. Then just give them a meaningful state or even a Wink

BillyNotQuiteNoMates · 08/08/2016 13:36

My note would say, this is just a polite note to point out how thin the walls are between our houses and noises can carry through them, particularly at night, if you find we are disturbing you please let me know., as our last neighbour was a bit deaf and it wasn't an issue.Grin

DIYTopTits · 08/08/2016 13:36

That's meant to say stare not state. Confused

Lilacpink40 · 08/08/2016 13:37

Definitely get loud clapping / cheering recording and play that at end!

BursarsFrogs · 08/08/2016 13:46

Ours were loud, but the problem seems to have fixed itself with them having had a baby. Haven't heard them in ages.

I hated hearing them too, since it sometimes woke me up and I sleep badly anyway, but I never really thought I could do or say anything about it. Their house, their lives etc.

SemiNormal · 08/08/2016 13:47

I'd probably be really passive aggressive about it and just start banging on the wall. It would seriously piss me off too.

Or you can mention to her that your previous neighbours were at it like rabbits and you could hear every moan and groan - she'll get the message but you may spare some blushes by being more indirect.

IJustLostTheGame · 08/08/2016 13:48

Shout very loudly 'turn the telly up. I can't hear it. Next door are bonking again'

facepalming · 08/08/2016 13:48

We had an upstairs neighbour send us a note once. I was mortified!!!

DH on the other hand was beyond proud of himself!!

2kids2dogsnosense · 08/08/2016 13:50

Record them and play it at full volume with your windows open the next day.

DesolateWaist · 08/08/2016 13:51

Bang on the walls slightly out of time. that'll put them off.