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very noisy party and the police say they can't help

117 replies

alizondevice · 07/08/2016 01:11

Two doors down a very noisy party. DJ in the back garden. Random people screaming and squealing. All our windows are closed and it's still loud. I called the police and they say they can't do anything. Apparently at weekends they don't do noise calls, only crimes. The person on the telephone told me I need to ring Environmental Health and they don't answer calls at the weekend. WTF? Do any Mumsnetters know what to do?

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snowgirl29 · 07/08/2016 21:45

OliviaStabler oh don't worry I agree. By fine I was talking in the generic sense, hopefully wont become regular, I don't mind the odd party, I mind the constant gatherings. I'm not talking as someone who regularly holds these parties by the way, I'm talking as someone who is driven almost mad sometimes by near neighbours suffering a midlife crisis blasting music out every other day and the council doing fuck all about it. Last year the neighbour 2 doors down had a barbecue and bonfire until 4am in the back garden. Both my DCs bedrooms back out on to the adjoining gardens and I've often had to settle them back to sleep.

For those saying go and ask. Another one here who lives in a rough end, recently one neighbour has yelled a torrent of abuse at the sweet old lady across the road, and another likes randomly yelling at all the kids on the street for simply playing when he's still hungover at 2pm. They're the nicer ones of the bunch by the way. It's not safe to go around yourself a lot of the time. I'm aware that makes me sound like a wallflower. Wink

exaltedwombat · 08/08/2016 17:44

You're allowed to be noisy/have a bonfire/be a nuisance in other ways occasionally. If it happens a lot, keep a diary and go to the council. This isn't really a police matter.

OliviaStabler · 08/08/2016 17:47

Snowgirl29

My worry is that if no one says anything the first time, they think it is OK and do it again.

Don't get me wrong I love a good party / a good BBQ etc but none of my friends circle would carry on after about 11pm due to consideration for neighbours. You never know who has kids, who works shifts etc. The house next to me is rented and at one time the people living there were a nightmare. One night I had enough and went round and hammered on the door and asked them to pipe down. The bloke laughed in my face. I had the last laugh when they were evicted for excessive noise Wink

minionsrule · 08/08/2016 17:56

Insancere - you live near me!!! Did you hear Bay City Rollers on Friday night - now that was a bit painful.
I went away Saturday for the night so missed Mr Adams Grin

mammamic · 08/08/2016 18:02

It is probably better to go to the party first and ask them to turn it down a bit, before calling the police.

These issues usually come up because lots of neighbourhoods have no 'community' these days. If you know your neighbours and interact with them regularly, it is very difficult for them to be rude/aggressive/dismissive. If they don't know you from Adam, then its quite easy to just ignore you.

And TBH - a party now and then is not too much to put up with. I'd ask to be invited next time - at least that way you're enjoying it!

If it was me, I would go and speak with them and explain that a DJ in the garden until that time is quite disturbing and that next time they should maybe consider letting people know so they can maybe make arrangements to not be home that weekend or, as I said, come along to the party. I would also ask if they plan a repeat, if a compromise can be reached so that they have the DJ til around 1am and then the party moves indoors and volume is turned down.

Ultimately, for a one off, live and let live

insancerre · 08/08/2016 18:14

Minionsrule
No I didn't hear anything on Friday
I was at the punk festival in the winter gardens listening to some proper music :)
I saw peter hook play a joy division set
It was ace

MyballsareSandy2015 · 08/08/2016 18:30

A bit of give and take us needed. For a rare party it wouldn't bother me, if it was every weekend it would.

A neighbour recently had a party and another neighbour started ringing her at 11pm asking for the music to be turned off!! This same neighbours teen daughter has woken up the street every few nights over the last year or so with her boozy druggy behaviour and I whike I accept thst isn't the mums fault I was still shocked that she complained about a bit of music!

pollymere · 08/08/2016 19:02

I had complaints about my wedding party noise, despite being in the middle of nowhere. It wasn't late either. Around here, noise up to midnight is tolerated as a one off. If it was somebody's birthday etc, I think you just have to let it go. Regular occurrence, contact environmental health.

EwanWhosearmy · 08/08/2016 19:21

Ultimately, for a one off, live and let live

All very well, but you have the one-off next door one side, followed by the one-off over the back, followed by the one-off the other side..... Where we used to live there wasn't a weekend all summer when someone wasn't having a party.

The bass would start at midday and you'd just know you'd got another night of no sleep, while the arseholes scream and sing and shriek into the early hours of the morning. Week in, week out. Complete with dire music.

If you want a loud party hire a venue and do it properly. There should be laws against having loud parties in residential gardens.

cheval · 08/08/2016 19:38

I had this situation a while ago. Police said ring council. They eventually turned up and monitored and said yes it's much too loud. Then went away. Fairly pointless. Guess you need an old-fashioned Bobby to have a word. But that doesn't happen any more...

bunnyfuller · 08/08/2016 20:21

Sadly, being noisy isn't a criminal offence as a one off. It's crap but seriously, no crime, not police

bunnyfuller · 08/08/2016 20:23

The old fashioned Bobby went with the last 6 years of 20% cuts per year on police budgets. What would you like thrm to drop so they have resource (a Bobby) to deal with noise?

augustwashout · 08/08/2016 20:27

I really dont want people to be put off calling the non emergency no if there is loud noise after midnight.

If there is nothing more urgent they will and can send some one round!
Esp if there is more than one complaint. I totally agree with one off parties, fine, great I like to hear people enjoying themselves but the piss takers ruin it for everyone,

calling non emergency no is FINE. They will tell you yes or no.

redlittlesquirrel · 08/08/2016 20:38

My parents had problems with noisy neighbours at Christmas, though it wasn't a party, it was them having work done on Christmas Eve through to Boxing Day (think drilling and hammering almost non stop throughout the day). Dad did go round to talk to them but they didn't care (surprise, surprise) and the police said pretty much the same thing, it wasn't for them to deal with. Of course, it being Christmas there was no one at the Council/EH in for the week so there wasn't much they could do. When they did manage to speak to them, they weren't much help - pretty much just said to note down when it happens.

They did get the last laugh though as the work they were having done turned out to be illegal (messing around with the gas, I think) so they were reported. Not long after that, they were gone (I imagine the landlord was not very happy that they were having the work done).

As for parties, my upstairs neighbours occasionally have very noise parties and, in general, always seem to be stomping around/making noises that I cannot identify. I keep thinking maybe I should say something but I'm a baby I'm not sure if it is them being unreasonably noisy or if it's just the floor or something is making them sound like a herd of elephants, in which case it's not really their fault.

If it's a one off, you might just have to deal with it. If it keeps happening, definitely take it further (even if you have to bug EH into submission).

smileyhappypeople · 09/08/2016 08:48

If it's a one off then let it go.
We used to live next door to people who were always partying when their parents were away.
We used to let the kids out on the really squeaky swings in the morning.
We also soaked them with the hose pipe once
The guy on the other side of them used to scream at them.
One time my cousin (an electrician) just disconnected their electric at the meter box!) hahaha!
One day they were busy unloading huge speakers from
Their car when the lady over the road, who's partner was a policeman, came over and had a word. They put all the speakers back and disappeared! Still have no idea what she said to them!

2beesornot2beesthatisthehoney · 09/08/2016 11:40

I haven't read all the posts I sympathise . Not sure if anyone has suggested it but last time this happened to me ( third party and had tried EH and police) I forced myself out of bed at 7.30 having got to sleep very late because if it and went round and knocked the owners up. Kept ringing the bell until they answered it. Then gave them a piece of my mind. They of course were dead tired having been partying all night. That was the last time it happened.

MaryPoppinsPenguins · 09/08/2016 11:45

If it's one time, I'd grit my teeth and let it go...

We had a party last Saturday and I pre warned & apologised to neighbours and took them flowers after as we went on till 3.30 and I haven't thought it would be that late and I felt terrible.

I won't be having another party for a very very long time and all the neighbours seem fine!

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