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very noisy party and the police say they can't help

117 replies

alizondevice · 07/08/2016 01:11

Two doors down a very noisy party. DJ in the back garden. Random people screaming and squealing. All our windows are closed and it's still loud. I called the police and they say they can't do anything. Apparently at weekends they don't do noise calls, only crimes. The person on the telephone told me I need to ring Environmental Health and they don't answer calls at the weekend. WTF? Do any Mumsnetters know what to do?

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facepalming · 07/08/2016 13:24

I'm always surprised by these threads. Both sides of neighbours always seem unreasonable to me!

Of course the noisy neighbours should be considerate and at the very least let their neighbours know in advance (and invite them!!)

but do we really advocate calling the police on our neighbours before even going to speak to them?!!

I would just knock on the door and explain how the noise is disturbing you and would hope they would be apologetic and turn it down.

Much quicker than calling the police or the Council isn't it?!

milliemolliemou · 07/08/2016 13:40

facepalming Depends on the neighbours you're likely to meet, especially when drink taken.

Some will be aggressive and some will just ignore. Had a couple having a loud party (think 3am) beneath my flat in London - asked them to turn it down twice because I had a job interview (think lots of searching questions) at 9am - they just turned it up.

facepalming · 07/08/2016 13:59

Oh Millie that's ridiculous - how rude!

I think a situation like that would be where the police or council involvement should be considered.

But I still think first step should be a simple request to the neighbour - unless of course there is a good reason to feel that puts you at risk or its been tried before and met with am unreasonable response

MargaretCavendish · 07/08/2016 14:20

The media really needs to stop glamourising socialising at home.

This is the most hilariously uptight thing I've ever read.

sportinguista · 07/08/2016 14:29

So today we have blasting thud, thud, thud base at full volume. I'm trying to work too. I know which house it is and believe me reason will not work. It's likely to go on to the wee small hours too. Round our way you do not go and have a word as that is likely to cause you to need the police anyway!

Pipistrelle40 · 07/08/2016 14:36

Would not recommend going round to our local cunty mccuntface neighbours. They had noisy party, someone rang them at 12.45am to ask them to turn it down due to ill child in their house, ignored. Next day brow bosomed wife and small husband went door to door haranguing the neighbours. Got to me and decided I was to blame despite not having a child ill or otherwise. Appenrently someone complained to council last years when their DD was having her 18th birthday party. They objected to drunken singing at midnight in the garden, wonder why?

Pipistrelle40 · 07/08/2016 14:45

Actually reading one of the other threads on AIBU today, why not go and throw cat turds in your neighbours garden, juvenile but satisfying.

NotYoda · 07/08/2016 14:47

Tinkly

I so agree with what you say about the media encouraging the idea of partying in your garden. Last year there was a R1 advert with that twat Nick Grimshaw suggesting everyone blast their music out to all and sundry.

And this year it's that twat James Martin encouraging everyone to have a boody barbecue every weekend

NotYoda · 07/08/2016 14:48
vulgarbunting · 07/08/2016 15:05

I am super uptight about these things. I live in apartments that very regularly get AirBnBers partying...or my upstairs neighbour who has a penchant for playing Gangnam Style on repeat very loudly until stupid o clock.

Luckily the police are absolutely amazing, come round straight away and break it up. It's unacceptable to have a huge party if you live in an area with several thousand people in close proximity in apartments. Just go out to a club!!

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes · 07/08/2016 15:12

came out of hospital yesterday,tired so went to bed at 9pm to hear every nuance of a neighbours ranty party with singing, cheering etc. got to a song I hate so rammed in my ear plugs and slept eventually. couldn't have picked a worse night for me but its not a regular thing and I have never had grief when I have people round too so all was well. only cos of the earplugs though without them I would have been frantic.

dodobookends · 07/08/2016 16:28

Our neighbours did turn their music down a bit at about 1.30, but the guffawing, shrieking and hullabaloo carried on for quite a while longer after that (fuelled by cannabis judging by the overpowering smell wafting into my garden).

The surrounding neighbours have had the last laugh though - there seemed to be ever so many children out playing (very loudly, with many shrieks, and yelling at the tops of their voices) very early this morning Grin

ComputerUserNotTrained · 07/08/2016 16:46

How has that gone for people who have actually tried this approach?

Really quite well. Obviously it was a pita to leave my sleeping baby alone in the flat and trundle upstairs in my dressing gown to ask that my neighbour turned the fucking volume down, but he did. And gave me his number so if there was a next time I wouldn't need to leave my bed.

ComputerUserNotTrained · 07/08/2016 16:51

As an aside, 'upstairs' meant going out into the street and walking several doors down to the entrance to the flats - mine was ground floor and had a street level front door. And it was the roughest council estate in (an admittedly fairly genteel) city.

Tinklypoo · 07/08/2016 17:16

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expatinscotland · 07/08/2016 17:31

'but do we really advocate calling the police on our neighbours before even going to speak to them?!!'

We don't speak to our neighbour because he is a violent crim who threatened us. So yeah, I ring the cops on him. Right now he's in jail so peace reigns. He'll soon be out, however, on a tag.

GemmaWella81 · 07/08/2016 17:45

Loud music into the small hours = anti social

Small children playing out early and screaming = fine and also a justifiable punishment

#typicalmndoublestandards

dodobookends · 07/08/2016 17:52

Not double standards Gemma, but revenge (and they weren't my kids).

OliviaStabler · 07/08/2016 18:10

The thing is though. A one off birthday party is fine.

No it is not if it is after 11pm and keeps neighbours awake with loud music / screaming and shouting etc. One time is one too many. Want a massively noisy party until 3am? Hire a nightclub.

GemmaWella81 · 07/08/2016 18:38

I got no qualms having an annual loud BBQ that goes off into the small hours.

I spend virtually every night and weekend listening to the kids next door shrieking and the wonderful routine of trying to get them in the house. Do I go round and complain... Not one iota, i let them get on with it. So I have little sympathy if my one night a year carries on a bit. Respect works two ways... Not just in the favour of those with kids.

NotYoda · 07/08/2016 18:46

Tinkly

It's horrendous, and I think once it's happened to you, you are forever sensitised and in dread of it happening again. So one party can leave you feeling powerless and not knowing whether it's a one-off of something that's going to be regular.

My best friend was driven to anti-depressandts, and finally police did something when her DH video'd the neighbour threatening them when they complained to him. There is no reasoning with some people

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alizondevice · 07/08/2016 18:48

GaspOde, that story is hilarious. Makes me wish I were a big, powerfully built man!

Olivia, thank you for putting it so succinctly!

Tinkly, your experience sounds terrible. I hope you're living in a more peaceful setting now.

Maybe there's a nice quiet Uptight village we can all move to. Except the people who like loud parties. They can live in the all night party village.

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Improvisingnow · 07/08/2016 19:25

My tiny village has two pubs. One has always applied for a late licence for "entertainment" in the Summer - live bands and that sort of thing. Always in the pub garden or with all the door and windows open. Bugs the shit out of me as they go on to 2am on a Friday/ Saturday about a dozen times over the Summer but I recognise rural pubs are having a hard time of it so just tend to snarl and put up with it.

Kept awake last night by a very loud party, DJ in the garden, karaoke etc. At 1am DD and I wandered down to check the source of the noise as neither of us could sleep - FML the OTHER pub now has a late licence for "entertainment".

Really am going to have to complain now.

DoctorDonnaNoble · 07/08/2016 19:34

The thing that annoys me is, if I knew in advance that a loud party was going to occur I would go and stay at my mum's.
I was always made to go and let my neighbours know if I was having a party and to tell them to let us know if the noise got too much.

Runny · 07/08/2016 19:44

Itis about give and take I think. A one off garden party/barbecue in the summer is fine I think, but be considerate of others ffs. Having a DJ blasting out thumping 'beats' in a garden in a residential area at 1am is pushing it big style. In fact Id say it's bloody selfish. If you want to have that kind of party then hire a venue somewhere.