FedupofbeingtoldIcantusemyname ·
06/08/2016 10:06
Dfriend's niece's birthday party was held recently, big do, all day kind of affair.
Dfriend was due to attend said birthday party with his DS but had to work in the day and would only be able to attend in the evening, around 7pm but was still happy to take DS when he finished work.
His ex said that in that case she would take their DS to the party in the daytime and then leave before Dfriend got there as they had a dentist appointment to take DS to anyway in the afternoon. So it was agreed, in advance, that she would take DS to the party and home again and that Dfriend would come afterwards. All good.
Unfortunately, Dfriend got the day of the party wrong and didn't end up going. Having been asked to stay late at work that day, he gets an angry phone call from his ex asking why he hadn't brought DS home?! She has decided that, because DS wanted to stay later at the party, that Dfriend could just bring him home. Only she didn't mention this to anyone, or contact Dfriend and ask if this was ok, she just assumed it would be. She was then very irate at Dfriend, calling him irresponsible etc.
Aibu or is she? If she had contacted Dfriend and asked him to take DS home, fair enough, but she didn't bother to contact him! Aibu to think this is her fault and actually she was irresponsible for leaving him there just assuming that Dfriend would take him home without arranging it in advance with anyone?