Dp hates acknowledging the fact I might find others humans attractive

[Jezabella1]

I'm so jealous of couples that can happily say 'ooh xxxx from that film is so hot'. My dp hates it but It means nothing!

He hates it to the point I have to hide the fact that I think anyone but himself is physically attractive. It's not like I'd talking about people we know.

He never makes theses sort of comments about women himself so no double standards (although he's got plenty of negative things to say about them physically) and he never uses porn.

Who's being unreasonable?

Johnny Depp is not my kind of man, however.. Vin Diesel, especially as Riddick... mmmm sexy sexy sexy :)

My first relationship, years ago, made a point of pointing out women he found attractive, but this spilled into friends of mine, so much so, that he went off with one of said friends. When we were having sex, he used to always mention friends names, how he wanted them, blah blah. I kept quiet.

Next relationship, along same veins & also used to point out friends of mine who he fancied. And every other girl on tele, he'd 'give one . I would dread my friends coming over & it really did make an awkward atmosphere. When I fell pregnant, he 'upped the ante' I will never forget that feeling of never quite feeling good enough for him, almost feeling shameful. I kept quiet.

Now, decades on, if a partner were to mention that he found some woman on tele attractive, those shameful feelings would resurface. Completely OTT reaction, but, perhapsn not so, given my very first experiences of being in a 'relationship'.

Maybe your partner has been through something similar.

DH and I wiled away an afternoon in a pub, early on in our relationship, compiling our 'lists' for each other. We were massively loved up and into each other, but it was a hilarious afternoon deciding on the final, laminated 5.

It isn't necessarily a sign of closeness, but I'd find his attitude odd. I'd find his negative remarks downright off-putting.

Like others, I think you need to just accept it.

However I'd be telling him that every time he criticises a woman's body/looks, you will point out something sexy about the leading man.

The negative remarks about women sound horrible, I think that's way more undermining and indicative of his critical state of mind than knowing who he thinks is hot.

I know who my husband thinks is hot because we've been together a long time, not because he bangs on about it endlessly, and vice versa. We discuss celebs quite a lot though when watching films, not just looks. We watch a lot of films/box sets.