To not want to think about CHRISTMAS in AUGUST

[Chamonix1]

Every year my in laws will ask us usually about now, what the plan is for xmas.
Some years they go away and spend with friends.
Some years they want us at theirs.
Every year we'd just rather be at home.
I've had the dreaded question so they'd obviously like to spend it with us, usually fine but I was thinking about getting away this Christmas for a quiet one as with just 3 year old dd it gets a bit boring being in the house for 2 days (she's very very active!) and has nobody to play with. Was considering centre parks, I don't bloody know it's August.
Now they are rushing us because they want to know what they are doing and that depends on us.
The worlds gone mad. It's not the end of summer yet.

YANBU. It's only August! Your plan to go away for Christmas sounds lovely by the way.

My MIL asked last week. I just said I hadn't thought about it as it's only July. She was a bit cats bum face but as she and FIL do the same thing every year (stay at home) and have done for the last 35 years so there's no reason why she needs to know this far in advance. They refuse to vary their routine in any way. They expect everyone to fall in line and come to them. Some years we have gone to them, some years we've gone to my parents and a couple of times we stayed at home. Anything less than us spending the entire Christmas period with them at their house leads to tears, tantrums and drama. This year I would like to stay at home as we moved house last year and it was a building site but now it's actually looking like a proper home. I can't face the inevitable drama though so am putting off the discussion for now.