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My son was almost abducted. Just trying to spread the word.

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renruTnaI · 02/08/2016 19:11

My 13 year old son was almost abducted. I mean, you think they're safe at 13, playing out with their friends, enjoying the summer's evenings, but things like this just prove to you how they're not ever safe and as parents the only thing we can do is spread the word and warn them which is exactly what I think saved my son from actually being abducted. It makes me feel physically sick about what could have happened. So I just want you to make sure that you warn your children, no matter what their age.

It was quite late in the evening but it was still quite light out and I have always tried to give him lots of independence, like being able to hang around with friends at the park etc so I have tried my best to never be overprotective. He was offered a really cool gift by an elderly man (who reminded him of his grandad he said to me) it didn't help that his phone had recently broken so I am sure the temptation was there but I think it's definitely the lessons I have taught him that have caused him to think twice and not go. It may have saved his life.

So please please please make sure you go over those simple safety tips with your children, not just when they're 5 or 10, but when they are teenagers too.

Thank you for reading

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renruTnaI · 02/08/2016 19:33

I completely agree, I think we need to realise how some are very naive and think that children are uneducated on this, especially as he was old (something they were not taught when younger). But it still could happen and it's scary, especially if they get a very vulnerable teen. He needs to be found.

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EmmelineW · 02/08/2016 19:34

So what would you call it? As I think it only was a convo, right OP? It doesn't mean he wasn't attempting to abduct him.

Notagainmun · 02/08/2016 19:36

Frightening. Thank God your son was so sensible.

99percentchocolate · 02/08/2016 19:37

So sorry this happened and so glad your DS had the sense to know it wasn't right.
It nearly happened to me as a teenager too - I was walking down the street in the middle of nowhere and a car drove passed me multiple times (which was suspicious in itself as one road was a dead end with just an abandoned house there). After a few minutes of this the guy stopped next to me, wound down his window and said something to me quietly. I asked him what he said and he beckoned me over. I didn't go so he started to open the door. Just then my bus turned up. He saw it, had this panicked look on his face, jumped in his car and sped off. I told the police but I didn't ever hear anything more. I was very shaken and upset for a couple of weeks after and was having nightmares too so be on the watch for that with DS.
Thinking of you both Flowers

Bearbehind · 02/08/2016 19:38

It would be helpful if you gave a bit more of an idea of location OP, I wouldn't even class Essex as being in East anglia.

I appreciate general awareness is good but this is quite specific.

StorminaBcup · 02/08/2016 19:38

A conversation with a man is not the same as an abduction attempt

Yes because people offer phones to young boys all the time for absolutely no reason Hmm

99percentchocolate · 02/08/2016 19:39

*as one end of the road

Miss-typed in sixth line

HughLauriesStubble · 02/08/2016 19:40

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BettyBB2 · 02/08/2016 19:44

I think the OP was saying that her son didn't call her because his phone was broken, but the lessons he'd learned prevented him from going with the strange man to see what the "really cool gift" was. Not that the elderly man was giving him a phone.

Is that right, OP? Would like to know more information on this "abduction" though!

P1nkP0ppy · 02/08/2016 19:44

a conversation is not the same as an abduction attempt
Ok, but this is enticement and potential for something much more serious.

TheoriginalLEM · 02/08/2016 19:46

I am also wondering how "elderly" the guy was - could have been in his 50s as kids see anyone oldef than them as old!! So the image of a frail old man is probably incorrect.

Thank God your ds has common sense.

renruTnaI · 02/08/2016 19:47

Sorry, Chelmsford. I know Essex can be SE or EA, but I tend to say EA.

No, it was a phone, sorry I put really cool gift as I suppose it depends on each child and I didn't want people to think "oh, my son won't care about a phone" and then kind of forget about it.

Also, many people, including the police, believe this was an attempted abduction, so...

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renruTnaI · 02/08/2016 19:48

He said he was around his grandad's age, with white hair. His grandad is 72.

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BettyBB2 · 02/08/2016 19:49

Devils advocate here - sounds like he was being nice and thought your son might like it. Obviously I don't know the full story and it's always good to be wary. Glad your son is safe, OP.

JenniferYellowHat1980 · 02/08/2016 19:49

Insancerre. Why are you baiting the OP? By all means tell your own DCs that going off with men who offer them brand new tech is just fine. Not risky at all. I'll do otherwise thanks.

TheEmmaDilemma · 02/08/2016 19:50

insancerre & EmmelineW, are you taking the piss?

If he just wanted to give a phone away you can. You don't need to attempt to take a young boy to your home to do so.

renruTnaI · 02/08/2016 19:50

Why did he need to go with him to get the phone then?

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renruTnaI · 02/08/2016 19:51

I'm also going to be going with the advice from police who obviously know what attempted abductions look like.

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SilverBat · 02/08/2016 19:52

I think your OP came over as a bit suspect because you wrote 'really cool gift', as IMO it isn't a phrase the parent of a 13 yr old would use.

Atlas15 · 02/08/2016 19:52

Why would a random stranger want to give a boy he has never met a phone if he went back to his place with him?! There is no devils advocate about it.

IamtheZombie · 02/08/2016 19:53

When did this happen?

EmmelineW · 02/08/2016 19:53

Why do you think it wasn't an attempt? I don't know many people who need a 13 year old to go with them to give a phone all out of the kindness of their hearts

KitKats28 · 02/08/2016 19:53

Fuck's sake, why are people trying to defend this? To be honest, it doesn't even matter if the OP is lying. It's a good reminder for everyone that just because your child has reached their teens doesn't mean they are untouchable.

The number of people on MN who squawk because someone looked at their child in a supermarket is unreal. However, someone posts a timely warning in the summer holidays, when children are more vulnerable, and people are so busy trying to pick holes in the story that they ignore the facts. An elderly man should NOT be approaching a teenage boy offering him gifts. It is inappropriate.

OnionKnight · 02/08/2016 19:54

Was this in Chelmsford OP?

Mummyme1987 · 02/08/2016 19:54

How scary

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