AIBU or is my DH (housekeeping related)

[Gardenbirds123]

I am SAHM with DC 2.5 and 6mo
During day I do childcsre and all house chores shopping washing tidying cleaning cooking etc no probs. we have big house (5bed 4bath) and no cleaner.

Laundry room is on ground floor.
All bedrooms and bathrooms upstairs except an DS loo.

As I clean and tidy I sort things into piles eg 6mo clothes, 2.5 yo toys etc, then put sorted piles on stairs to take up as and when I go upstairs.

I put each pile on a different step so they don't get mixed up agin. I put them On very side of step so still 60cm or so of free step to walk up and down.

I never go up without a pile, unless im carrying the baby. As at the moment I am quite often carrying the baby, on a given day there can be anything from no steps to four or five steps with piles on. It's usually less than two but today particularly bad as back from holiday so loads of washing.

I try to put away any piles I haven't managed during day once kids asleep (doesn't always happen as want )

My DH said I'm making a death trap and I should take things up immediately

I said this is my method and the only way I get things done. And pointed out he never carries a pile up, even though never carrying anythkng and even if it is a pile of his clean washing.

He said I am just being lazy,

Who is being unfair

It's a very common practice - there are pages of these things sold on Amazon.

Tell him to shift his lazy arse and take some of the stuff up. You can't do every biddy thing!

I have actually left stuff at the top of the stairs, they ALL step over it rather than carry it down with them

Blimey, my dh the original Spoonyfucker and sufferer of the bin force field (where you can only put rubbish above or near the bin, but not actually in it due to the bin force field) understands and utilises the stair system and automatically will pick up any items as he passes.

It's the universal rule of cohabiting, pick it up before passing.

(Although I do it more because it makes my Fitbit happy).

You dh is a lazy nobhead.

Oh, and as they're only at the bottom of the stairs, it would have to be a really unlucky fall to actually kill yourself by slipping down the last 2 or 3 stairs.

Piles of stuff at the top would be different.

Family of me and 4 kids. We've done this for 20 years and had not accidents carrying stuff up and down stairs in 3 floored house. We are all still alive!!!

Haha im glad so many of you know how I feel! Just pick up a f'ing pile you have eyes arms and legs !

We'd only ever lived in a flat before we were married so never knew the fun of the stair pile chat row

As my three year old fell down the stairs this evening due to Dh leaving some stuff on the stairs (luckily only 3 stairs) I would say that he is correct - it is dangerous.

I suggest that you save time by stopping doing his laundry and use that time to take the piles up. Why would he not be happy?

This is what we do in our house too.

I've just about managed to train DH to take up the piles of laundry he finds on the stairs. Our stairs turn at the bottom, so I leave the stuff on the wide treads.

I'm still working on the teen & early 20s DSes. They'll do it when asked, but they don't seem to see the piles unless pointed out to them.

tbh I hate stuff on the stairs. I can see why you do it but I've seen so many people fall because of stuff on the stairs. Could you pile on kitchen table?

I do this and there's never been an accident in all my years of doing it.

He's a very lucky man that you do literally everything for him as it does grind my gears when one person does everything with the home and the children even though there are two parents around. It's akin to being a single mother most of the time

I fell down the stsits when they were free and unencumbered stuff because o was telling the light fitting to fuck off. Should I remove it?

Well that post came out well

Leaving piles on the stairs isn't safe. (Says someone who is always leaving stuff out for folk to fall over.) So try and think up a different system. And yes he should help more rather than just moaning.

Known in our house as "AsYouGoes" but no one but me ever collects them !
" Take these with you as you go ( upstairs ) "

I use this system as well. I spend my day gathering up things belonging to other people and pile it in piles on the stairs. I then shout at them to take it upstairs when they next go up.

It's not exactly bloody difficult is it?

He's a dick.

Yanbu.

I am obsessed with never wasting a journey in my house. So, I never specifically empty the dishwasher for example. Rather just every time I go into the utility for something else, I bring a clean dish out. And so on. I never vacuum the floor, rather I do my lunge workout whilst vacuuming.

No one in my house is allowed up the stairs without taking sonething.

I'm possibly ott.

Classic case of him not doing your job and therefore having no appreciation of you how much you do.

My mother is the most extreme houseproud person ever - I scrub things for hours before she visits. Even my nan, who has a cleaner, tidies like mad before my mum visits. My mum uses the stair system.

I do this too. Dh never thinks to pick up a pile, drives me crazy.

It's only dangerous if people don't look where they're going. We've had the stair system forever, the stuff to go up is right at the side of stairs where no-one walks, and none of us have ever tripped or slipped on the stairs as a result of doing this.

He is an arse. I would always carry stuff up if I was going upstairs.
What a lazy bastard to leave it and walk past it.
Leave him and marry me if you do all the ironing

We also do the same thing with shower gel, loo rolls, stuff for the bathroom when unloading the shopping, again next one up take some items with them. It is not difficult. The kids were taught early on that things on the stairs needed to be taken up, and if they passed them by, they were sent back up again with a bundle, so learned quite quickly to just do it :)

I hate stuff on the stairs & I think it's a hazard. My OH always puts stuff on the stairs (never takes them up) & I can't stand it. I make piles & put them on my dining room table.

I hate your system but his moan is unreasonable.

Our house rule....never go up the stairs empty handed.

However, a neighbour coming downstairs slipped on something on her bottom stair, hit her head, and sadly died two days later.