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AIBU?

To be annoyed at other dog owners comment

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Doublemint · 31/07/2016 17:24

We've just got back from the dog walk. He gets walked regularly and today we were out as a family having a stroll.
Dd1 aged 2 started running across the parks field so me and DH were calling her and walking fast trotting. DH was managing buggy and I had Dd2 in her sling.

DD1 almost disappeared into the bushes when we caught up. A lady dog walker with 3-4 terriers was there and dd1 approached. I told her to wait and see if the lady's dogs were "friendly or cross". I then briefly said that we were trying to teach dd1 to wait before approaching unknown dogs. Our dog was now playing with her dogs.

The lady's response was "that should be the least of our worries and walked past to where DH was. She then very rudely imo said to DH "so are you going to clear that up then or do you not care about your children/others children" or something like that.

We said sorry? Why has our dog done a poo and she said "yes, right there [he did it] in front of you" (back where we had just trotted from in full view of her) "aren't you going to pick it up, it doesn't look like it". I was all and DH produced our usual was of poo bags and picked it up (of course).

This is the second time we've had a bitchy comment out of the blue from a dog walker. Only happens when we are out as a family and I can't believe the rudeness! The assumption that we are deliberately leaving dog poo around and the nasty tone we are made aware of it.

I am fully aware it's our responsibility to pick up poo but why be such a cow about it! I've let other owners know if they've missed a poo and I've always been pleasant. You can't have eyes in the back of your head.

Contemplated lobbing the poo bag at her head for the rest of the walk and that made me feel so much better.

AIBU?

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ChicagoBullz · 31/07/2016 17:56

But you are excusing yourself on the grounds of having a toddler....
Anyway, maybe she thought she'd get the blame for it as she was nearby.
She probably knows she was rude & regrets it so just forget it

Mycraneisfixed · 31/07/2016 17:57

Maybe a double buggy would be a better option for you.

Doublemint · 31/07/2016 17:58

Amelie I can totally see your point. Maybe I'm relying to much on DH to keep an eye on the dog like I normally do which is why this has only happened when we are out as a family?

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sneepy · 31/07/2016 17:59

wow so dog owners are even nasty to each other? I thought it was a great big happy fraternity banding together to keep dogs safe from evil cyclists, runners and pedestrians.

davos · 31/07/2016 18:00

I have two kids and had a dog, now have 2 kids and a puppy (dog died a few years ago).

If your dh can't control your toddler then that's your issue.

We find it quite simple. One watches the dog one watches the kids.

I have never spotted a dog poo in a park and thought 'oh it's alright, it was probably left by accident'.

I find it odd that 2 adults any watch a toddler and dog.

Yes she was a bit rude, but it bloody annoying when your kid or dog gets covered in dog shit and ruins parks for everyone.

MudCity · 31/07/2016 18:03

Like others have said, one of you 'tracks' the child, the other 'tracks' the dog. We allocate at the start of the walk so it is clear who is doing what. Works well. Simple.

LyndaNotLinda · 31/07/2016 18:03

How was she supposed to know that you were the sort of people who diligently pick up their dog shit?

I have been rude quite blunt when I've seen people walking on when their dog is shitting because I think that's the usual excuse: 'Oh! I was walking in front of my dog! I didn't see it!'

Doublemint · 31/07/2016 18:07

Ok ok! I get it! I AM being unreasonable! Sorry!

Have spoken to DH and now have a plan. He looks after toddler and I do doggy watch. He's not home much so I don't think he really knows to keep one eye on the dog. He's also not be best at buggy driving!

Holding my hands up here- I was wrong and didn't think around it properly!

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Atinybittiredandsad · 31/07/2016 18:07

Reins op reins

LyndaNotLinda · 31/07/2016 18:17

for you DoubleMint. Sounds like a good plan.

Nothing makes me happier than AIBUs when posters actually listen. You will of course get 400 people only reading your OP and banging on and on at you. Have a glass of wine and ignore them.

MrsCampbellBlack · 31/07/2016 18:19

Very gracious doublemint

NickiFury · 31/07/2016 18:20

Some people literally cannot wait to be ordering you to clear up after your dog, it is like they are gagging to say it. Just the other day I told some nosy woman to mind her own business when she wound down her window to shriek at me. I hadn't even had time to pull a bag from my pocket before she was on me.

Discobabe · 31/07/2016 18:33

I'd suggest teaching your dd not run off to an almost unseeable distance before worrying about teaching her not to touch others dogs. She'll always be close meaning it's easier to watch your dog and you can approach others dogs together where you can model to her checking with the owner if it's ok for her to stroke them etc.

Discobabe · 31/07/2016 18:39

I'd be weary of my child not being close in area with dogs off leads in case one is unfriendly and approaches.

Doublemint · 31/07/2016 19:01

Aww my first flowers! Thank you!

And discobabe we are trying to teach her all the time! She usually has reins when near roads etc too X

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Wolfiefan · 31/07/2016 19:04

Trying to teach! Yep that's the toddler years and the next 15!

Good plan OP.

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