To be annoyed at other dog owners comment

[Doublemint]

We've just got back from the dog walk. He gets walked regularly and today we were out as a family having a stroll.
Dd1 aged 2 started running across the parks field so me and DH were calling her and walking fast trotting. DH was managing buggy and I had Dd2 in her sling.

DD1 almost disappeared into the bushes when we caught up. A lady dog walker with 3-4 terriers was there and dd1 approached. I told her to wait and see if the lady's dogs were "friendly or cross". I then briefly said that we were trying to teach dd1 to wait before approaching unknown dogs. Our dog was now playing with her dogs.

The lady's response was "that should be the least of our worries and walked past to where DH was. She then very rudely imo said to DH "so are you going to clear that up then or do you not care about your children/others children" or something like that.

We said sorry? Why has our dog done a poo and she said "yes, right there [he did it] in front of you" (back where we had just trotted from in full view of her) "aren't you going to pick it up, it doesn't look like it". I was all and DH produced our usual was of poo bags and picked it up (of course).

This is the second time we've had a bitchy comment out of the blue from a dog walker. Only happens when we are out as a family and I can't believe the rudeness! The assumption that we are deliberately leaving dog poo around and the nasty tone we are made aware of it.

I am fully aware it's our responsibility to pick up poo but why be such a cow about it! I've let other owners know if they've missed a poo and I've always been pleasant. You can't have eyes in the back of your head.

Contemplated lobbing the poo bag at her head for the rest of the walk and that made me feel so much better.

AIBU?

[Newes]

How would you have felt if your DD had run into a pile of shit left by another dog?
Would the fact a moment of distraction had led to it being there made it any more pleasant to scrape off their shoes/wipe off their hands?

[Amelie10]

Take either the dog or the child out because it's clear both you and your DH together couldn't keep an eye on both.

[MajesticSeaFlapFlap]

Op: aibu?
Everyone: yes
Op: but..
Everyone:still yes
Op:your all wrong and dont have kids.

[DeathStare]

And great suggestion about us not all going out as a family to walk the dog. Pure madness.

Why is that pure madness? If you can't be simultaneously responsible for your children and the dog then you can't take them all out together. That's not madness; that's acting responsibly.

[WaitrosePigeon]

Sounds total chaos.

You can't manage a kid and a dog between you?

Maybe don't do that again.

I can see her point to be honest.

[TuppencePenny]

If there are two of you out with a toddler and a dog does it really take you both trotting after the toddler? Can't one of you be responsible for your pet also? I'm sorry this is classic entitled parenting. "DH and I were both chasing about after our two year old and ignored our dog and someone pointed out we had not seen him take a shit on the floor- how rude of her!" Also- why are you saying "we are teaching DD not to approach dogs... Yeah that's a normal part of parenting the way you crow bar it into your post is just distracting and I'm sure the other dog owner would have preferred you to be with your two your old supervising and not just paying lip service about teaching your DD something- why does she care? Do your job as a parent and pet owner.

[MrsCampbellBlack]

I think that in future if your child runs off then DH should leave buggy and retrieve child.

And to be honest I understand why dog walkers do get pissy with other dog walkers who don't appear to be clearing up after their dogs.

And maybe just tell your DD to not approach other dogs at all until she is old enough to ask their owners if she may stroke them. 2 is still very little.

Sorry you were upset and maybe the other dog walker was being mean but I can see her perspective.

But then I frequently have dog walkers who don't seem to see their dogs shit on my garden/drive so think you should be closer to an off the lead dog really.

[NeedACleverNN]

Op: aibu?
Everyone: yes
Op: but..
Everyone:still yes
Op:your all wrong and dont have kids.

Oh dear, I must be hallucinating about my two gremlins again

[jellycat1]

Yabu. She sounds like she could have been less aggressive but you were still in the wrong. I have a baby and a toddler if that has any bearing on my answer...

[Doublemint]

I just don't think there is any excuse for rudeness from a stranger ahem not to imply we don't care about our kids!

[MrsCampbellBlack]

I think OP had a baby in a sling so do see she would have found it hard to chase toddler which is why her DH should have left the buggy and gone after both child and dog.

[MrsCampbellBlack]

I was very rude to a stranger who abandoned his open bag of dog shit on my lawn and when I then picked it up I got shit all over my hands - my language to his retreating back was pretty choice But then he was lucky to not get the bag thrown at him to be honest.

[Newes]

Are you all Mary Poppins about dog shit on your child's shoes or in the treads of your pram then?

[Doublemint]

Oh yes, if it helps there was another dog walker there too, she came up to us and couldn't believe what the other woman had said! And she said you were obviously just distracted for a moment. So at least some dog owners aren't rude assumptive dicks!

[SavoyCabbage]

I keep my dog on her lead until she has done a poo. She only does one a day and at roughly the same time.

Before we got a dog and I was reading up about different food I read that the better quality the food the less they need to poop.

[Doublemint]

Exactly MrsCampbellblack! Hubby needs to be more on the ball I think as he isn't the one who usually walks the dog it's me and the girls.

[Doublemint]

Newes don't really know what you mean? Erm I clean it off if we get it on the wheels/shoes when we're home obviously?

Shit happens

[ChicagoBullz]

She didn't need to be so shirty but having a toddler doesn't excuse you from picking up your dogs crap.

Dog walkers round here get very very shitty with other dog walkers about poo because it tars everyone with the same brush

[Doublemint]

Could resist

[Doublemint]

*couldnt!

[Doublemint]

Didn't say it was an excuse. Saying there's no excuse to be rude to people!

[Madbengalmum]

Keep your dog under control on a lead,then you will know where it has pooed. Easy really. As a dog owner i am fed up of being tarred with the same brush as those who don't pick up after their dogs. It isnt hard. YADBU.

[Amelie10]

Given that there were two of you, and you both missed it I can understand why she thought you were going to ignore it.

[Sirzy]

Ahh a nice drip feed of some random who happened to be close enough to watch everything and thought you weren't being unreasonable!

[Mycraneisfixed]

One of you watches the toddler, the other watches the dog. If you can't manage the family and the dog leave the dog at home and one of you take it out later.