Aibu to just not get it. I'm afraid to tell dh I'm pregnant.

[makingacupoftea]

I am pregnant . This is dc 7. We planned the first 5 and then I had a coil fitted. Dc6 was conceived with the coil In place.

Dh had a vasectomy a few months ago we have been using condoms until we get the result of the test back. My period is late, I just took a first response. Positive. Faint but positive.took a second test a few hours later also positive but actually darker.

I just can't understand when I got pregnant. I don't get it . Dh is not going to be happy.

Aibu to be so confused? I feel so lucky in one way that o have 6 children I have also had 4 miscarriages so I know how precious they are! But still the chances of getting pregnant with a cool in and then through a vasectomy and condom must be tiny. I feel like I'm living in someone's idea of a joke....

How fucking rude namechange

That's a horrible comment to make

Jesus your DP must have sperm like a hammerhead shark

It's not your fault. Tell him then sit down and think about the options

namechanging - what a horrible post

Coils are more effective than sterilisation - but still only 99% so there will always be a 1%.

Bloody hell namechanging that's out of order.

It's always fine "to not consider an abortion". That's why it's called pro choice. Abortion is a personal decision dependent on many factors. Being pressured into having one is as bad as being pressured into not having one.

Namehanging what a vile post. Pushing an abortion on someone; I'm pretty disgusted by that. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to terminate a pregnancy in the most difficult circumstances let alone here where OP is in stable relationship, in work and is happy with a big family!
Good luck to you OP - maybe the test will show different in the morning. I have all the children I planned but I too would go through with an unplanned one just like you.

I was worried from your OP that you meant that he would be suspicious (hence my advice about getting the medical view on it) but if you are just worried about his worry, it is always better to share this worry together.

Fucking hell namechange. What a horrible thing to say.

Out of order name change and factually incorrect too. Babies are not a drain on resources. People living longer are, so maybe enforced euthanasia once people get to age 70 would be agreeable to you?

Ahem
Bit of peace and love please.
Sounds to us, Op, like there's nothing here that you're asking about reasonableness or not
Would you like us to move this to our relationships topic?

Sympathies, making - and congratulations! That's weird, isn't it

I have a friend with 5 children, all of them conceived under double or triple contraception. She finally accepted that some people are just blessed/cursed with incredible fertility, and had her tubes tied.

Better be kind to DH and yourself.

Namechange is an arsehole. Ignore her/him.

OP

I fell pregnant on the pill with perfect usage. I also had another pregnancy as the result of IUD failure that was in perfect position.

I also have five children so fuck knows what she would say to me. My five wonderful little drains.