So DP and I are beginning to make tentative wedding plans- we'll be paying for the whole thing ourselves so won't have a huge budget. We're hoping to keep it at around £10k- half of which is coming from the inheritance I received when my Grandma died, which is all being put towards the wedding.
I took my DP to the church I've been a semi-regular at for a while now and he liked it well enough (he's not religious so it makes very little difference to him) however I kept looking because a- there's no guarantee that church will be available around the time we want to get married and b- as a church it doesn't have a great deal of character or atmosphere. We're getting married in London so no shortage of churches to choose from! I However DP is pissed off with this because he says I just can't make my mind up and will never be happy.
Similar situation with the reception venue- we've found a pub which as yet has no bookings next summer and would work within our budget. One downside is that whilst there is space outside there's only a couple of benches to sit on- we're getting married in summer so if it's a nice day people will want to spend time outside, and won't necessarily want to stand up all day. Also it is a courtyard surround by buildings so not very bright. So I kept looking around because I didn't want to just stop at the first place we like the look of. I've found a venue which is lovely, still in a convenient location, and has a gorgeous outside terrace with plenty of seating and a lovely view of the city. It is more expensive (not ridiculously so), but I think it's worth the extra for a much nicer venue, and nicer food. Again DP is saying that I'll just never make my mind up and I'll just keep looking and looking and won't be satisfied. To me, he just seems to be saying 'yep, that'll do' to the first church and venue we look at!
Basically we can't agree on certain budget aspects. My DP is insisting on putting a fairly hefty chunk of money behind the bar- (in his words, "otherwise what are they coming for?" I responded that if people are only coming to our wedding for a free piss-up I'd rather not have them there.) To me that is literally throwing money down the drain. I'd rather pay the extra for a better venue and not have a free bar than downgrade just so we can pay for everyone to get pissed. He says if we go for the more expensive venue we'll have to make sacrifices elsewhere- like having a video. I really want a videographer- the whole day passes in such a blur and I think it would be really nice to have a video to capture the day. I'm feeling a bit resentful that I'm putting my entire inheritance into this and he wants me to settle for the first place we look at that's in our budget just so we can spend a load of money on booze. I'd rather have memories of a gorgeous venue than a literal piss up in a brewery!
I'm trying to be as un-Bridezilla about this as possible- I'm not stamping my feet and insisting we do everything my way- I'm just saying let's not stop at the first thing we look at, let's look around see what else might work.
So, who is BU- me or DP? (dons flameproof hat and clutches at G&T)