My mum died 4 months ago and it was sudden so I am finding it very difficult to come to terms with. I also have no siblings and 4 young children plus a husband who was supportive at first but is being horrible at times now. Also my father died a few years ago so I feel I have no one to talk to at all about this as I have no other family apart from my children and husband.
I had mislaid a piece of paperwork for the council tax this morning as I had sorted the paperwork out earlier in the week. My husband needed this to make a phone call and asked me where it is so I said it should be in our file box. He emptied everything out and couldn't find it( he is very untidy when looking for things so everything I had sorted had been mixed up) I also have a file box with my moms affairs in and he went to look in there.
I told him not to go in there as it was my mums things and I had organised it. He ignored me and started to pull everything out in temper as I was trying to stop him so he emptied it upside down so everything fell out.
I'm so upset, it contained her will, death certificate, financial affairs a few hospital letters and sentimental stuff I had put in there. All of this was just all over the floor. I have to say I tried to pull him off it and he slapped me on the arm.
I can't stop crying as I have never felt so alone in my life as I do now.
Also can some one advise me as I do not want to put his name on the house Feds but where do I stand legally? If we split would he be entitled to half the house?
Sorry for rambling my head is all over the place at the moment. Thanks for reading.
AIBU?
Dh and my deceased mother
Flowersandtrees · 29/07/2016 11:12
Sorry for your loss 
You have received some good advice upthread. Be kind to yourself and take your time deciding what to do next.
for you OP. I am so sorry to hear about your mum.
Your husband is an arse. He is abusive and couldn't care less about your feelings.
It is good that you are inheriting your mum's house. Definitely don't put his name on the deeds. Speak to a solicitor sooner rather than later to shore up your position.
I really don't know at what point such an inheritance might come to be legally considered as a marital asset, if it ever is considered that way.
Solicitors need to know that he should not be allowed to get any share in the house and that they should not involve him at all.
Sorry for your loss OP
I wouldn't put your DH on the deeds, the house is yours not his. It's ok to have separate things and hopefully this house may help you to be self reliant.
Might you like to move into the house for a little while? Get some headspace and take some time for you.
One day at a time, it will get easier.
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