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would you believe ds (5) or the childminder? childminer took ds and the children elsewhere

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user1469643462 · 27/07/2016 19:31

It is the summer holidays so ds has to be with a childminer, for 3 days a week. I pay her for the actual care she provides, then i pay for any visits to places on top of that, they were supposed to be going to the zoo today and i had paid £21 for ds's zoo ticket and i know that isnt loads but tbh with the cost i had already paid for her to look after him it was almost today's wages! ds goes there with 2 boys and a little girl aswell all around the same age give or take. Ds got home and was telling me all about his trip to the local museum (which was free) i did not have a problem with that he seemed to have had a great time. I phoned up the childminder and asked if she could just paypal the money back over and she said that she had no idea what i was going on about and that she took them to the zoo Hmm I know children do love to use their imagination, so i was a bit undecided, ds kept going on about the objects he had seen and told me a story about a man showing them the kids bit. ds has never been to this museum and it was just odd how well he was explaining it. I would love to phone the other parents but tbh i dont actually know them! it's all very odd...

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Redisthenewblack · 29/07/2016 15:38

Marking my place

officebairn · 29/07/2016 15:44

fastdaytears Brilliant. I may have just burst out laughing. Grin Grin

MrsKCastle · 29/07/2016 15:49

She's not on MN. If she was, she'd have come up with more than a leaflet

Even if she wasn't on MN, I'd expect her to be showing photos and receipts at the first sign of any doubt. It's the obvious response. 'Museum? What imaginations they have, look here's DS in front of the elephants.'

The fact that she didn't do this makes me think that she hasn't taken the DS to the zoo. But I won't be at all surprised if he goes today in an effort to try and correct the mistake.

Cagliostro · 29/07/2016 16:05

Fast :o :o brilliant

Lweji · 29/07/2016 16:09

I'd double check all those who said you should believe the CM. Wink

KittensandKnitting · 29/07/2016 16:10

Love the Lion... roar 🦁

KoalaDownUnder · 29/07/2016 16:11

Fast, Bahahahaha!! Grin That is gold.

newtscamander · 29/07/2016 16:15

I love all the people horrified at the suggestion that a childminder would lie. Like childminders are superior beings. Ffs, she's not Ghandi, she's blatantly pocketed the cash.

amprev · 29/07/2016 16:23

I had believed the CM until the thrusting of the leaflet. You don't even really see leaflets at the places themselves because you're already there (unless it was a map type leaflet to be used whilst there). Leaflets for local attractions are usually in libraries, cafes, posted through doors etc. Plain weird thing for her to have done as 'proof' of a visit. Even if you get to the truth and your DS has been then I still think I would find the cm's approach to be too flakey for me. I would want photos, not as evidence, but because I want to see my child's face when looking at wild animals. She just doesn't sound particularly professional, or understanding of a parents needs. Even if my mates have my children around to play I normally get the odd photo texted showing them having fun.

The more I read, the more I think that your DS hasn't been to a zoo, and the cm has made some some of strange mistake rather than deliberately attempted to steal money from you. I think she then has tried to cover her tracks because she didn't want to look incompetent by perhaps mistakenly having thought she had taken your son but had mixed him up with another child in her care?! Now I have typed that I'm not sure I even think it now 😐😐

fastdaytears · 29/07/2016 16:29

PM me with your forging needs. I have lots of blank paper and my own sharpie.

Marcipex · 29/07/2016 16:55

Fastday, brilliant, I burst out laughing so thank you.

Pages and pages back, I made the suggestion that the cm might easily be on mumsnet. Greeting you with a leaflet confirms that.

Hello childminder...I don't believe you took that child to the zoo.

Memoires · 29/07/2016 16:58

Kittens, love the lion!

I have🐅, and even🐫, ah! here's the🦁, but I prefer this - 😹

toldmywrath · 29/07/2016 17:35

fastday I love your sense of humour & the fact that you have correctly placed the "e "before the "i" in Receip (I know the t is omitted deliberately) Grin

Any chance of some moody fivers?

YelloDraw · 29/07/2016 17:38

I love all the people horrified at the suggestion that a childminder would lie. Like childminders are superior beings. Ffs, she's not Ghandi, she's blatantly pocketed the cash.

Well most people don't steal cash from clients! You have to be pretty low to do that.

KoalaDownUnder · 29/07/2016 19:27

I'm more horrified/incredulous that she'd have the nerve to lie, with kids who are five and able to tell on her!

age81 · 29/07/2016 19:30

Did OP say that CM is new and only had her DS 4 times?

NeedAnotherGlass · 29/07/2016 19:33

Loving that leaflet! Grin

PirateFairy45 · 29/07/2016 19:37

Dude, he went to the museum.

Why don't you believe your kid?. He's explaining in DETAIL somewhere he's never been before. Big ass clue... Dont ya think?

PirateFairy45 · 29/07/2016 19:37

Dude, he went to the museum.

Why don't you believe your kid?. He's explaining in DETAIL somewhere he's never been before. Big ass clue... Dont ya think?

Coconutty · 29/07/2016 19:55

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user1469643462 · 29/07/2016 20:00

that receipt is amazing! She said she will find the receipt/ticket for Monday... I'm kind of expecting something like that!

I picked ds up, wasn't going to, but wanted to ask her this time. I literally outright asked her, I'm sorry if that was wrong, but I couldn't really take it anymore, it was going around my mind all day at work. She looked at ds and said 'don't you remember the zoo?' and he looked at me, ds has never been to a zoo before so I wasn't sure if he knew what it was and no, I didn't speak to him about it beforehand as I didn't know what animals would be out/there or anything and I didn't want to get his hopes up and something goes wrong, so the childminder has to deal with him sulking! So I said, did you see elephants, giraffes, etc. childminder jumped in and said 'remember the coins, etc.' and ds replied with 'oh that's a zoo?' and she goes yes! see... etc. etc. and said that she will show me the ticket/receipt on Monday... I've tried asking ds more and he has told me to stop asking him stuff Grin I know the trust has been broken and she probably doesn't want to look after ds anymore, but it's doing my head in!! I don't know what to believe.

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user1469643462 · 29/07/2016 20:00

Coconutty, that's amazing.

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LynetteScavo · 29/07/2016 20:06

Coconutty - that is my best joke! Grin

QuackDuckQuack · 29/07/2016 20:11

Are you on any local FB groups OP?

Watch out for the post:

'Does anyone have a child's zoo ticket from Monday? I took my DC who really wanted to stick the ticket in their scrapbook, but I've lost the ticket. I'd just like a ticket from Monday so my DC doesn't get disappointed.'

elfies · 29/07/2016 20:11

I'm sorry, it would be doing my head in !

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