Aibu - dh siding with ds leaving me upset

[FindingNemoAgain]

Ds (12) made an electronic toy at a club. His had wires sticking out whereas I noticed one of his friends looked neater. I commented on it and said it could do with wires being inside (from a purely aesthetic point (I did also say it looked very cool). He then got home and tried to push the wires in which apparently he now says made it have an intermittent fault with it. It is of course all my fault and I MADE him do it. At dinner he was upset constantly repeating it was me who told him to do it. I was trying to say I didn't make him do anything. DH comes home and hears out conversation and instantly gets on ds side saying to me I was stupid to ask him to do it because it broke a connection... I am still trying to explain I didn't tell him anything, I only mentioned that the other boy's toy looked neater. DH then says I was being critical of ds toy. This is all happening at dinner in front of ds and our other child. Aibu to feel betrayed and upset about DH siding with ds? Even when he saw I was getting quite upset he carried on and it almost felt he was happy I was being blamed for it...

[LyndaNotLinda]

YABU. Whichever way you want to look at it.

I'm sorry you haven't managed to control this thread's direction. I do wish you'd taken on board some of the comments though.

[roundaboutthetown]

Admit it, OP, comparing his toy unfavourably with his friend's was unnecessary, unkind and downright stupid. There were just so many ways you could have handled it better. And why bloody bother criticising it at all if you don't want him to improve it in the way you suggested, anyway? Did you just want to make him view it as incurably crap?!

[OnionKnight]

You sound like a knob OP, of course your DH shouldn't back you up all of the time, even more so when you are in the wrong.

[spanky2]

The fact that there have been 12 pages of people telling you yabu isn't making you think OP?

[Sellingyesterdaysnews]

This is one of those situations when a parent really sticks their oar in and spoils things. For all OP knows, because she didn't ask, there was a reason why her ds made it in this style. Maybe it was a suggestion from someone at the hobby club, maybe it was from a picture, maybe from a robot war type previous model or something he's seen on TV.
The second thing is that everyone feels a bit sad for OPs ds because he's sensed his mum is finding fault, he's tried to fix it, and ruined it. Added to that, it's caused a teatime row between ds, his mother and between the parents themselves. All of which is a pretty crap outcome from a hobby club model which should have brought glory.
OP doesn't seem to understand how her ds feels, which is why everyone feels sorry for her ds. It's not about achievement, or honesty, or getting into university, it's actually about being nice to a child.

[NeedATrim]

If you had kept shtum about those un'aesthetically' pleasing wires, its most likely your son would have left it as it was and well alone. IF he then thought to change those pesky unaesthetically pleasing wires, then him attempting to rectify his work is at his own perogative and if it breaks as a consequence, then its fair game as it was off his own back.

Why are you digging your heels over this OP? It's ok to get things wrong you know - just consider, admit it and throw in a genuine apology.

[Memoires]

A united front is all very well, but if you honestly think the person you're meant to be united with is wrong, then you're being dishonest by not saying so. A good example to set is to then discuss it sensibly.