First time post here but have watched many previous post.
I just returned from weekend away with other dd And while I was away our neighbour had made an inappropriate comment to my other dd (15).
It goes....
She was walking home from her Saturday job at the chippy when the neighbour asked here why she walks as if she's always ready to fight. She explained her shoulders are so big it's ended up being her natural walk.
He then said - naw it's because your tits are too big.
Dd came home and told her dad who went out to find him but he had dissapeared. He finally saw him return and went over, gave him a mouthful and said this as his first and last warning that if he ever spoke to his 15yo like that again it would be his last. He was loud enough for neighbours to hear, I think intentionally because dd had begged him not to start a fight. His natural instinct was to punch him.
The neighbour started to smile and went to say something then seemed to Think better and just nodded and lowered his head.
Hubby then called me to let me know what had happened. I said if him or his wife turn up at the door just close it on them and don't get into anything more until you've calmed down but congratulated him on not following his instinct to pretty much belt him one.
I then told him about an incident two weeks before where this same neighbour had made a comment on the size of her backside (she didn't hear properly what he said) It was debatable if it was meant as a joke or leer or what was actually said and there was another neighbour with him and didn't say anything simply looked away. I said to dd not to worry, the neighbours always drunk, he maybe mixed up words or something - essentially gave him the benefit of the doubt.
Now that I am back, aibu to have expected the neighbour or his wife at least to have come over with an apology or someone to have apologised to hubby before now. I don't even know if the wife knows and maybe he's got off Scott free.
Or has hubby made his point and that should be it?
It's a very awkward situation because the neighbour is out of order absolutely imho.
I'm asking myself if an apology will only serves to make me feel better about not getting to say something at the time.
We've assured dd that he's out of order and not all men like that etc etc and explained that while t doesn't make it right he's always drunk and drunk people say and do things they shouldn't and told dd to avoid him, never be in his house again (she is friends with their 15yo ds).
He's not done anything illegal that I know of but I'm left feeling terrible that my dd is feeling awkward about walking up the street now and feeling self conscious.
Has anyone been in this position, wwyd?